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Due in September 2014 Chat Thread #4

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#26 Scaredbutexcited

Posted 12 March 2014 - 07:02 PM

Sorry for the multiples.

#27 twilightangel

Posted 12 March 2014 - 07:47 PM

Perpectual sound - yes I have a scan image with nasal bone showing. She's pointed it out with a arrow. I wish she rang in the morning too but hubby is home now and has given me a big hug and has said we still have a chance this baby is fine. We are writing some questions down to ask dr tomorrow.

Scaredbutexcited - Thank you. I am trying to remind myself that. I'm scared about doing an amnio. I'm trying to research these harmony tests. Do you girls know if they are more definite about whether baby has downs or not or is it still a 1 in 600 risk kind of answer?

If it's more definite I'd like to try this first as it's non invasive and has no miscarriage risk.

Thanks for being here for me.

#28 Perpetual Sound

Posted 12 March 2014 - 08:19 PM

I'm glad your DH is there with you now. I hope you get some answers in the morning and the drs are able to take some of the guess work out of it.

One of the other ladies here has had an extremely high risk and her OB wanted to have the amino instead of the harmony because the results take longer to come back (please correct me if I'm wrong everyone)?

I really wish you the best of luck tomorrow - I hope the Dr can be a little more reassuring - I'm sure they do though have to err on the side of caution. Please let us know how you go xx

ETA - just did a quick look up on the Harmony test company site - it says that its another risk test and if you are high risk then you will need an amnio to confirm :(

Edited by perpectual_sound, 12 March 2014 - 08:27 PM.

#29 twilightangel

Posted 12 March 2014 - 08:46 PM

Bummer I didnt see that wrote any where. Thanks perpectual sound.

#30 Fairey

Posted 12 March 2014 - 09:12 PM

Twilight Angel - would you consider doing the harmony test? I know the cost isn't a factor that you've had to think about prior to now, but at least that would be an alternative to the amnio?

#31 Scaredbutexcited

Posted 12 March 2014 - 09:32 PM

I don't know whether the harmony is an alternative to an amnio, but I bumped into this article the other day that made me think I'd at least consider it before going down the amnio route.
My paste button isn't working to paste the URL but Google: DNA test effective screening tool for Down Syndrome Medpage today.

It shows that that method is better at picking the babies with downs than the NT, and with fewer false positives.

#32 Scaredbutexcited

Posted 12 March 2014 - 09:34 PM

All the best twilightangel x

#33 twilightangel

Posted 12 March 2014 - 09:38 PM

Yes hubby and I are going to do the harmony test as there is no risk of miscarriage and it seems to be pretty accurate.

If the results show low risk then wonderful. If they show high risk then we will do the amnio.

Lets hope my doctor agrees with this plan.

It's my birthday tomorrow and instead of being happy and annoucing the pregnancy to my parents I just want to hide until I know my baby is ok.

#34 Perpetual Sound

Posted 13 March 2014 - 06:58 AM

Happy birthday Twilight!

I hope you're able to ejoy your day despite this new stress xxx

#35 twilightangel

Posted 13 March 2014 - 08:31 AM

Thank you perpectual sound. I'm really trying to think positive thoughts and enjoy today. I go to the doctors in 1.5hrs. Will be good to chat and see what he recommends and why.

Thank you girls for your support.

#36 twilightangel

Posted 13 March 2014 - 10:52 AM

Been to the doctors. Nurse was wrong. My background risk is the 1 in 658. My adjusted combined risk is 1 in 241. I'm being referred for an amnio or cvs. Apparently the lady I have been referred to is great so fingers crossed I can get the test done soon and that sprout is all okay.

#37 madharranna+?

Posted 13 March 2014 - 01:43 PM


Edited by madharranna+?, 13 March 2014 - 01:47 PM.

#38 Perpetual Sound

Posted 13 March 2014 - 04:15 PM

Good luck twilight - how are you feeling now that you've actually heard everything from the dr? I hope your hubby is doing ok too.

#39 twilightangel

Posted 13 March 2014 - 04:57 PM

Highly emotional. Not liking this rollercoaster at all. Now it's just a waiting game to see the fetal medicine lady and see what the next steps are. My dr couldn't answer a lot of my questions but said to not lose hope. Baby could be one of the 240 that's fine. Hubby is sad and worried, especially about me but he hides it. I've spent the Who day crying which the dr said is ok and normal. Doesn't make me feel any better though.

If I disappear for a few days is just because I need time to process this and I don't want to bring the mood of the group down. I will keep you updated though.

Thank you so much for the support. It's appreciated more than you'll realise.

#40 Perpetual Sound

Posted 13 March 2014 - 05:05 PM

:( you're more than allowed to cry. It must be a huge shock especially after 5 (I'm assuming) normal pregnancies.

Take all the time you need - I hope they dont drag on getting the results back.


#41 twilightangel

Posted 13 March 2014 - 06:28 PM

Yes I have been a lucky woman. 5 successful healthy normal pregnancies, no losses so this comes as a huge shock.

#42 Zebidee

Posted 13 March 2014 - 10:15 PM

I'm so sorry to hear that you're having to through this twilight angel. I hope you don't have to wait too long to see the specialist. I can't imagine how having to wait would feel. Keep talking to your husband, and hug your little ones lots.

#43 Akadia

Posted 14 March 2014 - 07:54 AM

So sorry to hear twilight angel. Your DH sounds like a wonderful supportive guy. We're all here for you xx

Scaredbutexcited I went to the Sydney Ultrasound for Women on Kent St. They were wonderful and quick and told me during the scan everything they saw even before the official results which was a huge relief. Anyone else looking at NT would recommend going there. They are all over Sydney not just in the city.

#44 heatherdv

Posted 14 March 2014 - 06:50 PM

All the best twilight.  Sorry your birthday was a sad one for you.  Fx your next test results have you smiling again.

#45 Wanting#3

Posted 14 March 2014 - 06:59 PM

Sorry to hear about your news twilight. Hoping all goes well for you, and it all turns out fine  xx

We had our NT scan today, all looks fine, he told us it is a boy (90%) accurate. It all feels so real now, and dh still amazed at it all even though we've done it all before!

Hope everyone is travelling ok! Can't wait until the 20week scan to see bubs again!

#46 KoalaTeeTime

Posted 14 March 2014 - 08:15 PM

I'm with you, Kaylz...oll on 20 weeks!

Almost 15 weeks and starting to feel fat, and still am sickly :(

Love hearing all the good news, and have internet hugs and crossed fingers for those waiting on better news xxx

#47 mumto2furbabies

Posted 15 March 2014 - 10:53 AM

Hi All

New to all this and pregnant with number 1 due on 3 September. Found out on New Years Day at 5 weeks. Hope everyone is travelling ok!

#48 Whole Lotta Love

Posted 15 March 2014 - 10:13 PM

Welcome to the group, Mum2furbabies. I hope you have a lovely, boring journey :smile:

#49 Perpetual Sound

Posted 16 March 2014 - 11:46 AM

welcome and congrats mumof2furbabies!!

1st baby! Exciting!!

#50 DecafJane

Posted 16 March 2014 - 09:11 PM

*hugs* Twilightangel.

I'm so sorry that you are going through this.

Even though you are a higher risk than we would like, remember that there is still a very good chance that everything will be fine.

Good luck with the further testing.

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