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#1 runnybabbit

Posted 03 October 2013 - 10:53 AM

http://www.abc.net.a...<br /> <br /> In the hottest Perth day since summer, an 11-month-old was left in his father's car. His dad apparently thought he had dropped him off at day care and drove to the day care centre to pick him up at the end of the day, not realising that his son was dead in the back seat the whole time.

This is so tragic and horrific. I hope he finds a way to forgive himself in time.

Please, everyone, have an arrangement with your day care provider for them to call you if your child is late, and place one of your shoes (that you are intending to wear), your wallet, mobile, etc in the back seat so you always have to open a back door when you reach your destination.

#2 Therese

Posted 03 October 2013 - 10:58 AM

That is incredibly heartbreaking :(  That poor family.

#3 decafsoylatte

Posted 03 October 2013 - 11:03 AM

So sad :(

#4 decafsoylatte

Posted 03 October 2013 - 11:06 AM

I remember reading a thread on here a while back with similar stories such as this one. Very heartbreaking.

#5 Futureself

Posted 03 October 2013 - 11:07 AM

I got extremely upset hearing this story this morning. It's just a nightmare - that poor, poor family.

Agree PP with having a system of having what you need in the backseat next to the baby seat so even if your automatic pilot had you arriving at work or wherever then you have to go to the back seat.

I recall that was a suggestion in the extraordinary, Pulitzer prize winning article that covered this topic back in 2010. I think this highly upsetting article is a must read for EVERY parent and carer because people think they aren't capable of 'forgetting' their child - turns out the human brain fails in memory formation no matter how 'perfect; a parent you are. WARNING Very emotional & upsetting http://www.pulitzer....Feature-Writing

#6 FeralLIfeHacker

Posted 03 October 2013 - 11:11 AM

Heartbreaking, similar thing happened to a lady in the US, her and her dh switched jobs in the morning and she wasn't the one that usually dropped the child at childcare so she just drove straight to work, parked and went in to work.  A passerby noticed her child in the backseat midway through the day.

Edited by lifehacker, 03 October 2013 - 11:14 AM.


#7 Loungelizard

Posted 03 October 2013 - 11:15 AM

That takes my breath away it is so tragic.

#8 Oriental lily

Posted 03 October 2013 - 11:15 AM

What an utter tragedy!
My heart aches for that poor family.

Hopefully they get compassion and sympathy and not judgement and charges like a similar case in USA.

I think everyone is capable of making this mistake. Life can be so busy and hectic and we get so used to routines to keep it together.

So bloomin sad.

#9 citylife

Posted 03 October 2013 - 11:16 AM

I just read the link and there is not much in it.
Can someone please explain how this happened?
I don't understand it?
Did the father not put his child in the car? Someone else did?
Very sad indeed and horrible for all involved.

#10 Mummy_Em

Posted 03 October 2013 - 11:17 AM

OMGosh, he got all the way back to daycare to pick the child up before he realised. :cry:

Poor baby and poor family.

#11 Oriental lily

Posted 03 October 2013 - 11:23 AM

City life he probably though he dropped the child off. He was probably preoccupied with thoughts of work ect. When people do something over and over again they go on auto pilot. He might also not been the person who normally drops child of.

Is like when you drive home sometimes and don't have any recollection of going through a busy round about or similar.

#12 Futureself

Posted 03 October 2013 - 11:24 AM

View Postcitylife, on 03 October 2013 - 11:16 AM, said:

I just read the link and there is not much in it.
Can someone please explain how this happened?
I don't understand it?
Did the father not put his child in the car? Someone else did?
Very sad indeed and horrible for all involved.

Details are only just emerging but it seems that the Father turned up to the daycare at 4pm to pick up his child who he thought/assumed he's dropped off that morning. Daycare informed him the child never arrived that day. The baby was still in the car, where it appears he'd been all day and was killed by 'hyperthermia' or heat. It is breathtakingly tragic.

#13 virtuallotus

Posted 03 October 2013 - 11:25 AM

I'm not sure I understand what happened, but my sympathies to the family. Very sad. :(

#14 Charlie Alfa Lima

Posted 03 October 2013 - 11:28 AM

My heart breaks for him, the whole family, and those workers at the childcare centre.  I am sure they were a responsible, loving family who adored their son.

How can it happen?
Well, once you get in the car, you can be in 'work' mode, and all thoughts are about getting to that destination.  Whether dad usually dropped him off, or this was an unusual morning, it is tragic all the same.

#15 citylife

Posted 03 October 2013 - 11:28 AM

Oriental lily ans futureself thank-you for your responses and clarification.
I hope the father is able to find some gentle days in the next few weeks and he has the loving support he needs at this time.
Thinking if the parents/extended family and daycare

#16 lynneyours

Posted 03 October 2013 - 11:31 AM

View Postrunnybabbit, on 03 October 2013 - 10:53 AM, said:


Please, everyone, have an arrangement with your day care provider for them to call you if your child is late, and place one of your shoes (that you are intending to wear), your wallet, mobile, etc in the back seat so you always have to open a back door when you reach your destination.

Great idea.  How horrific - that poor, poor family.  :(

#17 HairyMaclary

Posted 03 October 2013 - 11:31 AM

How incredibly sad.  I know how easy it is to go into autopilot mode when you're driving to work.  I got halfway there once before I realised that DS1 was still in the back seat.  I hope the father is able to forgive himself for this tragic mistake, which any of us could so easily make.

Edited by HairyMaclary, 03 October 2013 - 11:31 AM.


#18 Mumsyto2

Posted 03 October 2013 - 11:32 AM

So tragic yet so simple to have happen.  I can't count the number of times I got to work and had either one or two kids (multiple drop offs in the early days) in the backseat shout out "am I going to work with you today mummy". If they had of been younger and had fallen asleep I may have had the same outcome on any number of occasions.

I feel so sorry for the father and the family, just so very tragic.

#19 Tinky Winky Woo

Posted 03 October 2013 - 11:39 AM

When I first read the story the article was short and made out someone else was supposed to have dropped the baby off and he was to pick it up.

I think that would be horrific to have happen to you, it would change you in a very detrimental way and I don't think you would get over it.

I read the long article on others who it has happened too.  I think the lady who was going to have a baby for the couple who had to adopt was a very kind gesture.

#20 k8plus2

Posted 03 October 2013 - 11:41 AM

i almost had it happen to me. luckily i work at my sons daycare and my boss asked me where he was as soon as i walked in. shakey to think what could have been

#21 wallofdodo

Posted 03 October 2013 - 11:41 AM

I have the opposite, once a quarter my children do an extra day of daycare. On those days, I really have to remember to pick them up. I have found myself walking to the station rather than the daycare center, or just thinking about my trip home. And realising 'THE KIDS'.

This poor poor man, I hope he gets sympathy and not criticism.

#22 Bluenomi

Posted 03 October 2013 - 11:49 AM

That poor, poor Dad, how could you ever forgive yourself.

This is part of the reason I love having daycare at work, part of my work routine is getting both of us into the building, harder to forget a drop off when you don't have one.

On the rare occasions DH takes DD to daycare when she was little, I'd check with him how drop off went just in case.

#23 FeralMuddyPuddles

Posted 03 October 2013 - 11:57 AM

It is just heartbreakingly tragic, that poor family and poor baby. I remember in 2010 reading the suggestion of putting something in the backseat with the baby so you have to open the doors, and its something that has stuck with me and I always try to do. From now on I will ensure I do it.

#24 SemiRuralGirl

Posted 03 October 2013 - 12:03 PM

Oh that poor man - and whole family / daycare workers etc. This tragedy will affect many people I think.

Absolutely heartbreaking. :(

#25 bluetea

Posted 03 October 2013 - 12:18 PM

This is just up the road from me. It's so unimaginably sad and tragic.
I couldn't imagine the torture that the father and his family would be going through.
:(




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