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#1 lisajane666

Posted 28 February 2013 - 02:56 PM

I have one DS, he was an oopsie (surely-not-this-once) but not a regret as we were going to start trying within a 1-1 1/2 year.  He hasn't been a hard child but is a shocker sleeper and at nearly 3 i have decided to cut out his day sleeps altogether as night time is becoming a nightmare.  Needless to say I'm tired most of the time.  We have been trying for #2 for about 2 years without any luck and have our first FS appointment on Wednesday.  Some days I wonder if one child is enough for me, he will be off to 3 year-old kindy next year, nearly fully toilet trained etc.  I didn't go back to work because I breastfed Until he was 9 months and started trying straight away and I didn't get maternity leave from my previous company but eventually managed to get 1 day a week work while lil man went to grandmas.
How did you know if you did/didn't want more children?

#2 Guest_divineM_*

Posted 28 February 2013 - 03:52 PM

Mine will be an only child (older mum, difficulty conceiving, PND, shocking sleeper are my reasons!). I have heard it said that you should imagine yourself say 5 or 10 years down the track with the one and alternatively with 2 or more and see how you feel. I still feel happy thinking of having just one at that point so staying with my decision. Other people may find the thought of just one child unappealing when thinking of the future. I think the idea is to think of a time in the future after you have gone though all the difficult bits (pregnany, birth, sleeplessness, terrible twos etc) and see what outweights what.

#3 Lucrezia Borgia

Posted 28 February 2013 - 03:57 PM

its such a personal decision, and a hard one I guess!

I was in a *kind of* similar situation to you, in that our second was a long time coming...first son was a pretty good sleeper - but was a full on toddler and to be honest I am now happy I didnt have two close together, as I would not have coped.

With the struggle to conceive my second I often went through stages of "I give up, its too hard, lets stick with one, hes perfect (now!)" - but every time I got my period I cried, I still tracked ovulation and just "happened" to have sex at ovulation - deep down, I wanted another...I thought I either have to give up - permanently - and that would have meant permanent contraception (the snip, tubes tied) - or keep trying...we kept trying!

good luck.

Edited by Lucretia Borgia, 28 February 2013 - 03:59 PM.

#4 podg

Posted 28 February 2013 - 04:08 PM

I just want to throw in there that DD1 is/was a shocking sleeper, but #2, #3 and #4 have been much better. Of course I know other families which have gone completely the other way too.

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