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#1 tviolet

Posted 27 February 2013 - 08:05 AM

DS is just 3yrs old. Id been introducing potty training for over a month (bought undies, potty, read books) then last saturday we started with undies whilst awake, just he and I home all day. We had a great & positive day with 60% success ! He & I were very impressed !

The next day he was just in a bad mood and acting out as Dad was home. Major tantrums, and would not go to potty once, in fact he got quite upset when i walked him in to the toilet, which the day before he was excited to do !

Since then (3 days ago now) he hasnt been once. We've had him in undies, and whilst he'll tell me when he's done an accident, he's definitely avoiding the potty when we offer it to him.

So do i stop and go back to nappies, OR do i continue on with the undies, accidents and refusal, and just hope it turns around?

#2 Maniacal_laugh

Posted 27 February 2013 - 08:17 AM

We are on our fifth (!) go at TT, and the first time we tried, we had a similar pattern (good first day then a lot of refusals).

This time around, we've had great success by TTing the toys at the same time as DD original.gif ie "do you think Pink Rabbit needs a wee? Shall we take him. Do you want to go first, or should Pink Rabbit go first?" Cue Pink Rabbit popping on, giving an exaggerated sigh of relief, wiping etc. DD has got a real kick out of this, and we are now at day 10 of no nappies.

#3 tviolet

Posted 27 February 2013 - 08:19 AM

thanks Tiggywinkle, I will try that. So do you think i should completely turn back to nappies, or should I just keep on in undies and gentle suggestions ?

#4 Jupiter123

Posted 27 February 2013 - 08:44 AM

I honestly don't know if this will help but here goes.

When toilet training DD (3) about a month ago after multiple attempts over about a 12 month period and one particularly frustrating attempt around Christmas we decided just to throw out the nappies and go with lolly/marshmallow rewards.

It took a few days, no accidents but refusal to go to the toilet or the potty and she would hang on until a nappy was put on for sleep time.

She would be so desperate to go that she would be crossing her legs and squirming around, grabbing herself and crying and then one evening she said she needed to go so DH took her to the toilet after much crying and carrying on she went.

It took a few more evenings of this and then she just started to go willingly. We have only had 2 accidents since, one was my fault as I thought we could make it home in time (we were in the car about 2 minutes from home) and the second time she fell asleep in the car).

Poo's are happening as well about 50/50 chance of getting them in the toilet, she will still sometimes wait for the nappy to go on though.

Sleep training, I figure that will happen in its own time when she is ready.

I don't know about toilet training boys, but have you tried a step at the toilet and letting him stand up like his daddy? Or try a toilet seat insert as maybe he doesn't like the potty.

#5 Libster

Posted 27 February 2013 - 08:49 AM

Hmm maybe give it a break for a couple of days and then re-try? If your son is open to bribes then perhaps in that time, let him know that he will get a sticker or Smartie every time he goes to the toilet? Bribery worked a treat for one of my twins but didn't work for the other (we just had to wait until she was ready, basically!) obviously only do it if you think it might work. We phased out the treats with no problem.

#6 tviolet

Posted 27 February 2013 - 09:01 AM

Thanks ladies. Im happy to try treats.
I see him in the last few days being quite comfortable to wee on the living room floor (loving the floorboards) so its not like hes holding out for nappies.

I guess Im just confused about whether letting this continue isnt actually 'training' him. And Im concerned about forcing him in to sit at the potty when hes upset about it....guessing that might just frighten him off further

Edited by tviolet, 27 February 2013 - 09:03 AM.


#7 IsolaBella

Posted 02 March 2013 - 05:18 PM

Currency reward was the key for the boys. DS1 was happy to get his choice of toy from the toy store (already knew he had his eye on the garage), DS2 was lollies. 1 chocolate button for each wee on th toilet.

DD on the other hand still has stubborn days/moments.

Edited by lsolaBella, 02 March 2013 - 05:19 PM.





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