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#1 mandarins

Posted 26 February 2013 - 12:50 PM

Does anyone have or know of a teen who is not on Facebook?
Or does your teen be very selective in who they 'friend'?
It seems to me so many young people have huge numbers of 'friends', and then trouble can come from this. Is it a big social no no, to not accept everybody you know or where at the same party with on Facebook?
It seems impossible to say no you cannot use facebook to your teenager, but do some kids choose not to anyway?

eta: I know it is not just a Facebook issue but that it the main social media at this time. It applies to Bebo, myspace and whatever else that was popular or is to come.

Edited by mandarins, 26 February 2013 - 12:52 PM.

#2 Blue boathouse

Posted 26 February 2013 - 01:01 PM

My 15yo (almost 16) isn't on FB. A few months ago she was asking about it and considered getting on there but wasn't that fussed about it.    
Recently she said she wasn't interested as she can text, email, call, visit or talk to her friends at school.
Fine by me, less drama I think.

#3 maxim

Posted 26 February 2013 - 01:05 PM

There are certainly teens who choose not to.

It really depends on the teen. My daughter is on Tumblr, Skype all the time with friends. Both are FB alternatives (she does not use FB - she is taught in school about the dangers of FB and she and her friends are not on it).

OTOH, my son isn't bothered by all these social media tools at all. That's just the way he is. He's more into books and movies, like me, I'm not into FB at all.

#4 BadCat

Posted 26 February 2013 - 01:05 PM

My kids 12 and 14 have no interest in Facebook.

#5 JJ

Posted 26 February 2013 - 01:08 PM

It's still a little way away for us - DS only turns 12 this year and I know he may change his mind over the next year, but he tells me he's got no interest in ever using FB (I don't use it either, nor does his dad). He gets very cranky with people who are constantly glued to their FB.

Edited by JJ, 26 February 2013 - 01:10 PM.


Posted 26 February 2013 - 01:08 PM

QUOTE (maxim @ 26/02/2013, 02:05 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
There are certainly teens who choose not to.

It really depends on the teen. My daughter is on Tumblr, Skype all the time with friends. Both are FB alternatives (she does not use FB - she is taught in school about the dangers of FB and she and her friends are not on it).

OTOH, my son isn't bothered by all these social media tools at all. That's just the way he is. He's more into books and movies, like me, I'm not into FB at all.

Have you seen some of the stuff on Tumblr?
Some of it would leave facebook for dead.

#7 maxim

Posted 26 February 2013 - 01:18 PM

QUOTE (fairyflossfart @ 26/02/2013, 02:08 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Have you seen some of the stuff on Tumblr?
Some of it would leave facebook for dead.

Really? Oh dear. I have to check. TBH, I haven't kept a real close eye on her once she hit high school (she's in Year 8). sad.gif


Posted 26 February 2013 - 01:20 PM

Yep, the first pic I saw from a friends DD's Tumblr account was a pretty explicit pic of a guy and girl on a bed.

#9 maxim

Posted 26 February 2013 - 01:25 PM

ohmy.gif Thanks for letting me know.

Sorry to hijack your thread, OP!

#10 ~~HappyMummy~~

Posted 26 February 2013 - 01:34 PM

My 2 stepkids are on Facebook all the time.  16yo girl and 18yo boy.

I hate how they are permanently attached to their phones checking.  It drives me bonkers!!

#11 JuliaD

Posted 26 February 2013 - 01:41 PM

My 15 yr old niece was on facebook a while ago, but made the decision herself to cancel her account due to bullying from a couple of girls she goes to school with. She hasn't rejoined since and has no intention to do so.

#12 mandarins

Posted 26 February 2013 - 01:42 PM

QUOTE (maxim @ 26/02/2013, 02:25 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
ohmy.gif Thanks for letting me know.

Sorry to hijack your thread, OP!

I only recently saw what is on tumblr myself - but was disgusted. The image I saw was bad enough and then the comments by everyone were awful. And I could see that they were all teens using it. I had thought it was just a general photo sharing site like flickr or photobucket!

eta: ok I just went to take another look at tumblr but could not find the comments. So perhaps it was another site? But good reminder to take the time to see what exactly it is our kids are using and viewing
And now I want to remember what site it was that I did come across! It was one that I thought was a photo sharing site, but comments were left about the photos that were uploaded. People could "like" the pictures, but it was not called "like".
...feeling old.

Edited by mandarins, 26 February 2013 - 01:53 PM.


Posted 26 February 2013 - 01:56 PM

There is a program called 'Kik' that a friend was stalked on.
Instagram is also becoming a site for women more so than girls, to flash their boobs and stuff around. Very rarely does anything get deleted from instagram.

#14 toosenuf

Posted 26 February 2013 - 03:43 PM

Nope, but they would like to.  

I just don't feel they are responsible/mature/worldly enough yet.

I have also said no to Instagram and Kik for the same reasons.

#15 Bigfatbum

Posted 26 February 2013 - 03:50 PM

My 13 nearly 14 year old is. He doesn't use it much and I have access to passwords and I could log in when ever I wanted.

It's there, he has it, don't think he would be fussed if it wasn't there though

Friends wise it's just kids he knows or went to primary school with along with family, I once said why didn't you add such and such and and he said I don't know them....

Edited by Bigfatbum, 26 February 2013 - 03:51 PM.

#16 Nanaimo Girl

Posted 26 February 2013 - 08:21 PM

DD13 has it. It's a great way for her to keep in contact with family overseas.

She gets a lot of friend requests, but she only accepts those she knows AND likes. A few kids from school that she's not keen on have tried to add her and she refused them.

She knows I have her password and that the condition of use is that I can go in whenever I want and read her messages etc ( and I do, on a very regular basis ).

So far we haven't had any trouble.

#17 tait

Posted 26 February 2013 - 08:29 PM

My 15 yr old has no interest in it or any other social media at all. 15yr old also has a phone, and only uses that to orgainise after school transport with DH/I. Is quite happy to do all socialising in person.

#18 unicorn

Posted 26 February 2013 - 09:19 PM

DS14 was on it for a while but he closed down his account and hasn't been near it in a few months. Just doesn't interest him.

#19 GoneWithTheWhinge

Posted 26 February 2013 - 09:35 PM

Mr nearly 14 has facebook. He doesn't update status very often, and then what he does post is random tripe (his last status read 'pigeon'. That was at least 3 weeks ago). He does talk to his friends on there sometimes, with equally as random crap (Tiny Teddies and which sort are best seem to be a very popular conversation topic on there). He does talk to his dad on chat on there a fair bit - his dad is in UK and works away during the week so FB means they can have contact anytime they want as his dad can't really phone here on a mobile and texts soon get expensive!

He has a huge number of friends on there though, he recently changed schools so has a mixture of old and new school friends as well as sport friends and old friends and family back in the UK.

Most of his more active friends on there are girls - a cousin is always on there posting the stupid 'like this and I'll rate you out of 10' and 'going to bed now' followed 5 mins later by 'in my bed' and so on. I really don't know how their friends can bear to read the unending sh*t some of them post on there!

Oh and I have full access to his facebook and do check it regularly because 1) I am nosey and seeing as his conversation is monosyllabic grunts when I ask about school/friends etc I keep abreast through monitoring and 2) he is still only 13 and I still feel I need to monitor him online.

#20 JustBeige

Posted 26 February 2013 - 09:37 PM

My DD is keen, but I am making her wait till she is 13.  I think though its because "everyone else" is on it.     I will be double checking her account and setting her restrictions so that she cant be found.   That way she can only add people who she wants to or who she has their email address.   Hopefully that will restrict it to people she knows.

I said a flat out no to KIK, its not at all appropriate for younger teens.   Just having a look at some of the comments and reviews will show you that.

#21 aprilrain

Posted 26 February 2013 - 09:47 PM

one of my DS's has just turned 13 and requested an account for his birthday. I have the password and check it every few days randomly. Only people you know in real life etc. He has friends from primary and high school on it. The standard of chat is very crappy ... got a detention today etc biggrin.gif No probs there, it is more the memes people post (picture of a girl in short shorts "you can tell a girl doesn't have her period when she wears her white shorts" posted by a 13yo girl) Very skanky. I use it as a privlege but I hope he soon bores of it.

#22 Crinkle cut

Posted 27 February 2013 - 05:59 AM

my 13 year old is.  She doesn't use it that much.  She has a few friends who don't have it, but for all but one that is because they are not allowed.

#23 mandarins

Posted 27 February 2013 - 10:27 AM

KIK is new one. I have never heard of it!

#24 unicycle

Posted 27 February 2013 - 10:28 AM

My young teen has zero interest, but messages and skype messages a lot. Also Instagram ( no selfies), but with very private settings. She is totally in wonder of how people find her to like her pictures. Instagram has been very useful for her in framing her identity. She  has a blog for school.

#25 Scarlett O

Posted 27 February 2013 - 10:46 AM

My brother lost touch with his son when he was about 10, due to a nasty divorce. His son has recently turned 18 and my brother tried to make contact via FB. He said he was horrified when he saw what was on his son's FB page, which was open to the public eg. Swearing, binge drinking, threatening to beat people up etc. I guess a lot of teenagers don't care what people think of them. That could have been a potential employer looking at his page!

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