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Breast feeding mother asked to leave cafe
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Posted 26 February 2013 - 09:45 AM
Another breast feeding mother has been asked to leave a public place - this time, a cafe in Sydney.
Which got me wondering - have you ever been spoken to about your breast feeding in public? If so, what was your reply? Did you leave if you were asked to?
I've never been made to feel uncomfortable whilst breast feeding in public, and I do it pretty much every where we go because my DD3 feeds on demand (and I'd rather feed her, than have her yelling and making lots of noise in cafes).
I emailed the cafe to express my disgust. Don't want to get in trouble here for naming and shaming, but their business name is in the article, and then if you google it, they have an email address.
Posted 26 February 2013 - 09:55 AM
No I haven't ever had a comment from anyone about breastfeeding in public and I've done it a lot (even in the 1-2 age bracket).
I liked the article, sounds like the mum knew her rights and remained calm, hopefully a good example for other people who are tempted to do the same thing.
Posted 26 February 2013 - 10:11 AM
I've only had one person say something directly to me.
I was exhausted after a rough night. Like im talking, dazed kind of in a trance exhausted and went up to the shops to get put of the house. I got a cup of tea and sat in the food court. There was a family a couple of tables away and the son was facing me. At the time, I didn't think anything of it, just sat down.
I started breastfeeding DS and it of the corner of my eye, the boy whispered something to his mum which made her turn around and look in my direction.
Again, I thought nothing of it. Then she said to me "excuse me, your breastfeeding is upsetting my son".
All I had the strength to reply was "oh well". I wasn't deliberately trying to be rude, I just literally could barely speak or function I was so tired.
I don't think her son was upset, to me he looked curious like asking his mum what I was doing, but I don't know her son. He looked about 10.
I don't really know what she expected me to do. Maybe if I was in such a zombified state I would have moved or something.
The only other time DS went feral on a bus and I had to feed him and there was a collective "ewwwww" from some high school kids, but that didn't bother me.
Posted 26 February 2013 - 10:21 AM
I just can't believe this has come up as an issue again. The cafe owner is a twit. Well done to the mum, although the situation shouldn't have arisen in the first place.
Posted 26 February 2013 - 10:27 AM
I can't believe this is in the news again. It's not illegal to breastfeed in public.
I'd take legal action if I was the breastfeedng lady asked to leave.
Posted 26 February 2013 - 10:30 AM
What I don't get is that when she asked if she was offending the other customers they all said no. Yet the owner of the cafe said that if they receive a complaint he must act on it.
He's full of sh*t, there was no complaint, he's just an idiot.
Posted 26 February 2013 - 10:35 AM
"We have to act on complaints" - what a load of baloney. People can complain about plenty of things, doesn't mean you have to act on them - especially when acting on them is bigoted and illegal.
Posted 26 February 2013 - 10:40 AM
How is this news again.?
Yes the cafe owner is a twit if he did it and of course its against the law, but the cafe copped a lashing about this last week in both the print media and social media and there was supposed to be some sort of 'nurse in' happening to make a statement.\
Cant see how this keeps jumping to the top of the ' most important' list for news media.
Posted 26 February 2013 - 10:41 AM
Years ago, my father went to a pub with a highly racist work colleague. The bloke complained that a black man was in the pub drinking from the same glasses as white people.
He asked the publican to remove the man. The publican refused and told my father's colleague that he was welcome to leave.
I wonder what this cafe owner would have done in that situation.
Posted 26 February 2013 - 10:50 AM
I was never asked to leave anywhere, although once at Adelaide's central markets I was approached by a man who took way too much of an interest and was clearly trying to get a good look at my breasts. There was noone else around and it actually became quite scary. When I got up and walked off he followed me shouting abuse.
I was sitting down on a bench in an alley that led to the public toilets, and had a light scarf draped over as much upper boob as possible (without DS yanking it off) - unless I'd fed DS while sitting on a public toilet I couldn't have been less obviously in the public gaze. The man was quite scary and I did tell security but after that I actually fed in more public places as I figured I'd rather offend someone's sensibilities than be attacked by a pervert because I was trying to show less skin than I would in a singlet.
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