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#1 ~Bells~

Posted 25 February 2013 - 11:32 AM

DH and I have a nice shortlist of 3 boys names. We have agreed that unless another name happens upon us and is just “the name” we won’t seek to add to this list as we are very happy with all three – with a clear leader. The middle name for a boy will be James no matter what. It is DH’s middle name, and he has always wanted to use it for a son, and the name has very special meaning to me – I would be honouring a favourite cousin who passed away (I would have used his name had he still been with us also.

BUT, we are having no luck on girls names. We don’t agree style-wise and have a few dilemmas regarding the one name I have picked.

Some background:  

1. I love the name Maggie.
2. I like a more formal name - in this case Margaret. I love traditional/old fashioned girls names. But not too popular.
3. Margaret is my paternal grandmother’s name. Her mother was also Margaret – called Maggie, and as she lived to 100 I had plenty of time with her. However, I want to use Maggie as I love the name, the family tradition is very much secondary – though my Nanna will think it is all about her.
4. I have always wanted to use Alexandra (my sister’s name) as a middle name for a DD.

So from that, my preference is Margaret Alexandra, NN Maggie. Which I think goes well. We have a one syllable last name, and the sound is very soft. I think two long names flesh it out nicely.

Problems.

1. DH does not like Margaret. But is fine with Maggie.
2. DH thinks Maggie Alexandra doesn’t flow too well.
3. DH seems incapable of saying “Alexandra” keeps pronouncing it “Alexandria”. This drives me crazy.
4. DH thinks that if we name a girl with two names from my family that we will have to name another (if we have one) after his mother and sister. And while they are lovely people – their names are very much NMS and I could never use them. So he thinks we need to go either or.

Solutions needed:
1. An alternate first name for the NN Maggie? I have not found anything that grabs me.
2. An alternate first name for MN Alexandra. I like Maeve and Neve. Also love Maisie (another diminutive/nn for Margaret).
3. An alternate middle name for Maggie.
4. A whole other set of names altogether.

FTR – the only alternative female name DH has offered up is Olivia. It’s a lovely name, I just know (and dislike) too many.

I’m only 13 weeks along, so have plenty of time, but as we’ve been having this discussion since we started TTC (over a year ago) and are not getting anywhere. I feel I need a few more names/options/arguments at my disposal.

Help EB!


#2 Ingrid the Swan

Posted 25 February 2013 - 11:50 AM

From reading Agatha Christie, I know that Magdala is another option for full name that gives rise to the NN Maggie. Not sure how it goes with Alexandra as a MN though.

Megan would possibly also work?

#3 Feral-as-Meggs

Posted 25 February 2013 - 11:51 AM

I love Margaret Alexandra .... by the way.  Sounds like a princess.   And I'd worry about any future girls names when and if.   But:  

1. An alternate first name for the NN Maggie? I have not found anything that grabs me.

Megan? Margery/Marjorie? Magdalen? Marguerite? Mairéad (mahr ADE)

3. An alternate middle name for Maggie.

There's always May if you don't mind people singing songs at her.



#4 Gudrun

Posted 25 February 2013 - 11:53 AM

Haven't thought of a solution yet but other Maggie names:

Marguerite
Marigold
Magnolia
Magdalen
Magda
Magdalena
Madeleine
Magdala
Magdalene
Margareta
Megan

Combos:

Megan Alexandra  NN Maggie

Alexa Magdalen  NN Maggie

Alexa Marigold  NN Maggie


I'm with your DH on the vowel clash thing.  And I'm with him on Margaret too. I don't think it has recovered yet from massive overuse in the past.

Alexandra Pearl  NN Maggie by association (Margaret and Pearl mean the same thing).

Gretchen Alexandra NN Maggie

Gretel Alexandra NN Maggie


Edited by Gudrun, 25 February 2013 - 12:19 PM.


#5 Green Witch

Posted 25 February 2013 - 11:59 AM

Other names which could have Maggie as a nickname:

Magnolia (I know a toddler Magnolia who is called Maggie)
Marguerite
Margot
Megan / Maegan
Magdalena
Magdalene
Magenta
Margerie
Margarita
Maega
Maegra
Magda
Magna
Magali
Miaega
Margeen
Magena

For middle names, if Alexandra is your sisters name surely DH will eventually learn how to say it!! But you could go with:
Alexia
Alexis
Alessandra
Sandra
etc.

As for making sure a future second daughter had a family name from DH side: depending on how many kids you are planning, perhaps your second daughter could have James as a middle name?


#6 9ferals

Posted 25 February 2013 - 12:04 PM

It sounds like to me as though you are going to need to compromise of one of your names - pick either Margaret or Alexandra (both lovely names) and stick with that.  Then find something you both like for the other name. That way you both win!

Alternatively, would you consider Alexandra Margaret - that flows much better (but only if your DH can learn to pronounce Alexandra!)

PS. GreenWitch, are you serious about using James as a middle name for a girl??  Isn't that just cruel?

Edited by Rubybelle, 25 February 2013 - 12:05 PM.


#7 tres-chic

Posted 25 February 2013 - 12:13 PM

I doubt you'll find anything as nice or as sensible as just sticking with Margaret Alexandra which I think is absolutely gorgeous.  wub.gif

Any chance your DH will relent as you can just call your little girl Maggie all the time? I know a two year old Maggie who is just Maggie. My second option if you DH does not relent is to just call her Maggie.

I also love May NN Maisie.

#8 Musk Sticks

Posted 25 February 2013 - 12:22 PM

I would stick with Margaret Alexandra - its a great name!

You still have plenty of time to train DH to pronounce it properly.

Also, don't worry about names for DD2 until she comes along.

If you do have a DD2, you could just use a family name or a family associated name for the MN and choose something you love for the first name.

#9 Gudrun

Posted 25 February 2013 - 12:24 PM

I like Rubybelle's suggestion of Alexandra Margaret.  I like it that way round and with a short surname.  

She can still be known as Maggie.  Alexandra is a great name!

#10 Guest_Sunnycat_*

Posted 25 February 2013 - 12:40 PM

Magdalena Alexis
Maggie Alexis

Shame, I really like Margaret Alexandra. I don't think you should have to name any future daughters after his family, is the child going to have his surname?

#11 ~Bells~

Posted 25 February 2013 - 01:13 PM

Thanks so much for all your replies! I’m finding it hard to leave Margaret Alexandra so I think I may have to campaign a bit harder. Glad so many of you like the name.

Regarding the suggestion that I switch the two around, I won’t be going there. I see my sister everyday and don’t want there to be any confusion – also I know my DH will veto that idea.

And Sunnycat – I had never considered the surname argument. Genius!

I still think I’ll be scouring through name lists in the coming months!


#12 kerilyntaryn

Posted 26 February 2013 - 01:38 AM

Marguerite, Magdalena, Margot, Margo,
Maeve is nice, Maisie is ok - think of Maisie mouse though - more of a nn, Neve is ok
Maggie Alexis,  Alexandria is pretty though
what about Olivene instead of Olivia

these have the same meaning - Pearl,  Greta, Gretel, Gretchen, Maired, Mairead, Magali, Maegan, Mared, Maretta, Margeaux, Marjorie, Meg, Megan, Peg, Peggy, Penina, Rita, Marita





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