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#1 *Lilami*

Posted 24 February 2013 - 08:51 PM

How important is it to give a wedding favour? The last 2 weddings ive been to haven't given anything except the meal of course, a piece of wedding cake, drinks and a wonderful night out.

I would like to give something but planning a wedding of 100+ people, it would be a large amount of money we save by not giving one.


What are your thoughts?

#2 zzgirl

Posted 24 February 2013 - 08:57 PM

I personally like the 'food' related ones.  For example, a nice big greek almond biscuit (bought from a greek patiserrie) wrapped in a celophane.  One for every guest.  You can eat it the next day.  Yum!!  

I don't like the little nick nack things, or the boxes with almonds in them - waste of space which end up in the bin.

I would be kind of a bit disappointed if I had nothing to bring home!!  But at the same time, I am disappointed with the weddings that do give something which is a crappy waste of space.

#3 KT1978

Posted 24 February 2013 - 08:57 PM

I hate them, they are usually something cheap and tacky. Only a couple of things I thought were cute but not that great I wanted to take them home and keep them.

They seem like a waste to me.

#4 Velocinag

Posted 24 February 2013 - 08:57 PM

I had two weddings (to the same DH) and we didn't do favours at either of them. We figured the money would be better spent on something else for the wedding. Also every other wedding I've been to the favours we got have sat at the bottom of the cupboard and not been used.

#5 maryanneK

Posted 24 February 2013 - 08:57 PM

I dont think they are important at all. People put a lot of time and expense into something that is usually totally unnecessary. The only time I've liked it as a guest was at a traditional italian wedding where they did the traditional sugared almonds.
otherwise, almost everything you do is just more food (not needed) or some cheap nick-nack that ends up being a dust collector for your guests. Even if you spent $5 per guest, and its hard to get something good for $5 - thats $500 - adds up and in my mind isnt worth it.

#6 luke's mummu

Posted 24 February 2013 - 08:58 PM

We gave 2 chocolates in a little box with our names on it, cost less than $1 each, but that was nearly 10 years ago.

Personally, I think they are a waste of money. I've never kept anything I've been given. I am happy to go home from a wedding with a piece if cake and lots of beautiful memories.

#7 Anonymous12

Posted 24 February 2013 - 08:58 PM

We didn't do them, I never keep any of the bottle openers/key rings etc but I have liked the consumables.

Miniature bottles of alcohol, chocolates and a special cake mix are some of the ones we really liked.

We have also had lollies which were okay and another wedding had a lolly table set up but it felt a bit scavengy filling up a bag to take home so we left it.

We cut costs on anything we didn't really care about and spent the money on upgrading wine and providing spirits instead.

#8 Judydoll

Posted 24 February 2013 - 08:59 PM

I didn't have them at our wedding.  Instead I made a big container of various chocolate shapes and put these out on the tables for guests to nibble on at the end with tea/coffee or take home if they so desired.

I can't see the point in spending all that money for things that most of the time end up in the bottom of peoples drawers.  We have over the years received tiny photo frames that take the size of a passport photo and/or sugared almonds which we don't like.  

I know some people like to do these things but this is how I feel about it.

#9 FiveAus

Posted 24 February 2013 - 09:01 PM

My son and his wife both love cooking, so their wedding favours were food related......heart shaped cookie cutters, and a set of measuring spoons with heart shaped bowls and a little romantic saying engraved on each one.
They are in my cutlery drawer and I use them when I bake. I love them!

#10 carriesshoes

Posted 24 February 2013 - 09:02 PM

I never really liked them, and then when I was getting married I found what I thought was perfect.  Got nixed by my mum who insisted on the dust collector instead.  We got them, because they are tradition in our family.

I wanted tiny little trees.  They were like 10cm high and people would take them home and plant them in the garden.  Our love growing and living... environmentally friendly... useful... pretty...  etc

#11 FiveAus

Posted 24 February 2013 - 09:02 PM

My son and his wife both love cooking, so their wedding favours were food related......heart shaped cookie cutters, and a set of measuring spoons with heart shaped bowls and a little romantic saying engraved on each one.
They are in my cutlery drawer and I use them when I bake. I love them!

#12 AnnBB

Posted 24 February 2013 - 09:05 PM

We, well when I say 'we' I mean my mum, made almond shortbread. We wrapped them in cellophane and placed them in noodle boxes which we decorated with the stationery we used for the invites, menu, place cards etc. They looked great, tasted wonderful and were so, so cheap to make.
My advice would be stick to a food / beverage gift. No one likes to receive junky trinkets.

#13 Pssst...

Posted 24 February 2013 - 09:06 PM

I don't think they're super important, especially since there are so many areas to spend money when it comes to weddings!

We did do them, we did chocolates with printed labels that doubled as place cards

http://www.cocomia.com.au/

#14 Bambi_

Posted 24 February 2013 - 09:07 PM

The best wedding favour I ever got was some handmade chocolates the bride made. I've been to a lot of weddings but that wedding favour stands out as my favourite.
It was a gift that was thoughtful.

#15 Taystee

Posted 24 February 2013 - 09:08 PM

The only bomboniere I have ever truly loved is a bottle of olive oil pressed from the bride's parents' olive grove. Just divine and a great momento.

Generally consumables are good but we didn't have anything, just didn't see the point.

#16 HIH.GD.Isolabella

Posted 24 February 2013 - 09:09 PM

I hate them and did not have them at my wedding.

Only ones I ever liked were noodle box of lollies as your placeholder and my brother/SIL one which was symbolic with Manly beach sand in German green glass bottles (speciality made near SILs home town).



#17 Kitty Fantastico

Posted 24 February 2013 - 09:17 PM

I don't think they're important, but they're a nice thank you to guests. We bought a couple of cartons of mini champagne bottles and I stood them in water to remove the labels. I then printed off some nice thank you labels and stuck them on. I think consumables are the way to go. What about hard candy or those retro lollipops? You could buy them in bulk and add your own labels for a personal touch.

#18 Magnus

Posted 24 February 2013 - 09:17 PM

I don't remember ever getting one. I do love sugared almonds, though (and hate nick nacks). I'd be happy with other edible gifts too. Tounge1.gif

I don't think it's a necessity at all.

Edited by Magnus, 24 February 2013 - 09:18 PM.


#19 I'm Batman

Posted 24 February 2013 - 09:25 PM

Its not..most of it is useless sh*t, like bottle openers. Only food is good.

I'd much prefer that drinks were put on the tables, like jugs of lemonade over useless things people likely bin. Extend the bar tab, you'll feel the love.

#20 sa5ha

Posted 24 February 2013 - 09:35 PM

I'm getting married in around 4 months and don't plan to bother with bonboniere.

We're spending a small fortune on the reception as it is and have been pushed into inviting more people than we originally planned to by family, so bonboniere is just one of those non-essential things that will get the chop in the name of sticking to our budget.

Also, I'm big on minimalism and wouldn't in a thousand years give my wedding guests random tacky nicknacks to take home. Some of the food bonbonieres can be nice but I still see them as largely unnecessary.

#21 TenYears

Posted 24 February 2013 - 09:36 PM

Completely unimportant.

#22 au*lit

Posted 24 February 2013 - 09:38 PM

They're not necessary. I have received lots of 'things' as bombonniere over the years and I have only kept two things. One was a cheap drinking glass with a cute stencil of a picture used on the wedding stationery. The other is an Alessi plate.

One thing I loved was flower bulbs. I enjoyed them but we moved and had to leave them behind.

Apart from the bulbs, I think food or drink is the way to go.

We gave home-made biscuits. Perhaps not to everyone's taste but we got a lot of positive comments about them. It was also a way to get extended family involved in the wedding, by asking them to help with the biscuit making and giving them all the credit for them.

#23 anna76

Posted 24 February 2013 - 09:43 PM

On a scale of 1 to 10, with 10 being essential, I'd vote a 1.

Just make a donation to Oxfam and notify guests that's your gift.

#24 heffalumpsnwoozles

Posted 24 February 2013 - 09:58 PM

Not worth it IMO. We didn't have them at our wedding, we chose to spend extra on nicer wine instead. Judging by the people on the dance floor, that was well received. original.gif

Probably the best bomboniere I've received was a mini Toblerone, which had my name on it to double as a place card. I like Toblerone. One with my name on it so it's mine all mine is even better. original.gif They haven't meant that much to me though, obviously because I can't even remember most of the others.

#25 Lady Grey-Mare

Posted 24 February 2013 - 10:03 PM

Totally unnecessary as far as I can see. The guests are there to celebrate the marriage of their frinds/family members and take home happy memories, not trinkets.




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