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#1 RedBob

Posted 24 February 2013 - 07:55 PM

We were over at mums this afternoon, and I noticed a box of Cadbury Favourites on the kitchen counter. My mum does not eat this kind of chocolate, ever, so I inquired as to the origins of said box.

Apparently it was a thank you gift from the neighbours as mum had taken some trees out of the back yard which improved their view.  Mum has had a somewhat uneasy relationship with these neighbours since they moved in (think loud parties, occasional rubbish over the fence, setting the nature strip on fire by dumping BBQ coals on it, that sort of thing) and so she was firmly convinced that the box of chocolates were more in the nature of a calculated insult. My mum would as soon run down Pitt St Mall naked as ever buy chocolates like that for anyone, as she loathes milk chocolate and commercial sweets,  and was completely unable to understand that while it was not a gift with any great thought behind it, it was nevertheless a gift.

I think we managed to convince her of this, and as a bonus, got to take home the box, but it got me thinking -

People of EB - Cadbury Favourites, are they a gift you would be happy to give or receive or would you feel insulted by the very concept?  laugh.gif

#2 Lucrezia Borgia

Posted 24 February 2013 - 07:57 PM

Nah I'd be happy, sure, there's better quality chocolate out there, but I eat Cadbury favourites.....


#3 sāta kōrsa

Posted 24 February 2013 - 07:58 PM

Tell your Mum to adjust her tin foil hat and accept it as a well meaning gift.   Tounge1.gif

#4 Therese

Posted 24 February 2013 - 07:59 PM

They aren't chocolates I would normally give as a gift, but I am more than happy to receive them original.gif I would not be insulted at all biggrin.gif

#5 cinnabubble

Posted 24 February 2013 - 07:59 PM

I feel insulted by the concept when the ILs make a scheduled visit and hand over a large box of Favourites to the two and six year olds because they stopped at a servo on the way and bought them. It p*sses me off because a) it's so obviously a last minute thoughtless nothing gift, b) they shouldn't be buying affection, and c) who gives small children half a kilo of sugary chocolate and thinks it's a good idea???

Obviously, I am forced to eat them to save my children.

Honestly, I think they're a kind of place holder for a thoughtful gift, but not intentionally insulting.

#6 KnightsofNi

Posted 24 February 2013 - 08:00 PM

I think your mother is a bit of a snob. Surely, she must see that despite them not being to her taste, many people do like them, and they could not be meant as an insult?

How bizarre.

#7 TrifectaOfTerrors

Posted 24 February 2013 - 08:01 PM

I'd be more than happy to take them off her hands.  original.gif

Those sort of things don't last long around my place (there is a chocolate stealing ninja who lives in our pantry.. ph34r.gif ph34r.gif    ph34r.gif )

Edited by tick-tac, 24 February 2013 - 08:03 PM.


#8 Misty Walker

Posted 24 February 2013 - 08:02 PM

I personally love to receive them, and have given them on occasion. Tell your mum if she is ever given another box, she can feel freevtomsend them my way!!! rolleyes.gif  biggrin.gif

#9 ChunkyChook

Posted 24 February 2013 - 08:05 PM

Maybe a croquembouche or 30 litres of jelly would have been more acceptable?



#10 Frockme

Posted 24 February 2013 - 08:09 PM

My mum would be aghast to receive such low brow chocolates. It's European or nothing for her.  biggrin.gif

Me, they're great to keep the kids away from the adults when entertaining. You can strategically leave a box on the kitchen bench as the adults sit down to eat. (Having already fed the kids). Giving you about 30 mins of peace as they sneak off to demolish them in "secret".  wink.gif

#11 coffy11

Posted 24 February 2013 - 08:10 PM

Absolutely a gift!  How could someone think otherwise.  How nice of the neighbours! they would have not known that your mum doesn't like chocolate

#12 DEVOCEAN

Posted 24 February 2013 - 08:14 PM

DH took a huge recliner to a workmates home for her father who is just out of hospital. He came home with a big box of Roses chocolates. It was very well received in a week where we hadn't had a lot of money to buy treats.

Cadbury favourites, well DH wouldn't eat them as he likes very few chocolates.

#13 Foogle

Posted 24 February 2013 - 08:18 PM

Graciousness - a word that your mother (and Malaya's) need to acquaint themselves with.


#14 LynnyP

Posted 24 February 2013 - 08:20 PM

A gift that I would accept in good faith and eat in gluttony.

Sure I prefer something from Spruengli but I'll happily eat Cadbury.

It isn't like someone was giving me a cask of Fruity Gordo Moselle.

#15 Frockme

Posted 24 February 2013 - 08:20 PM

QUOTE (Foogle @ 24/02/2013, 09:18 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Graciousness - a word that your mother (and Malaya's) need to acquaint themselves with.

Ño need to tell me.  wink.gif  lol.

#16 Fluster

Posted 24 February 2013 - 08:21 PM

Yum!  They'd be wolfed down in our house.

#17 kadoodle

Posted 24 February 2013 - 08:22 PM

I recently gave a neighbour a box of Roses for collecting my older kids from school when I got delayed at kindergarten pickup with my 4yo.

I hope she wasn't offended.

#18 Madeline's Mum

Posted 24 February 2013 - 08:31 PM

I would prefer wine now that I've given up chocolates.

But 1.5 months ago I would have wolfed them down whilst hiding in the darkest shadows of the garage so as not to have to share with the tiny human and needy husband.

#19 Magnus

Posted 24 February 2013 - 08:32 PM

We got given some from our neighbours at Xmas. It was great and totally unexpected. I'd never think that someone ought to give me super luxury chocolates unless it was someone close. I might be a bit confused at receiving a giant slab of really cheap compound chocolate though, because not many people could really stomach that.

#20 I*Love*Christmas

Posted 24 February 2013 - 08:36 PM

I'd love to to receive Cadbury Favourties. If I buy chocolates for someone I will often buy these. My Mother and Mother in law hate fancy chocolates which is probably why I assume everyone else would prefer to get favourites as wel.

#21 Eileithyia

Posted 24 February 2013 - 08:38 PM

For this situation I think Cadbury favourites was satisfactory. For someone I did not know well I would give chocolates over wine. I assume everyone could be a recovering alcoholic unless I have seen them drink recently. LOL

#22 CupcakeLove22

Posted 24 February 2013 - 08:40 PM

QUOTE (ChunkyChook @ 24/02/2013, 06:05 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Maybe a croquembouche or 30 litres of jelly would have been more acceptable?


Haha I love that ad!

#23 RedBob

Posted 24 February 2013 - 08:44 PM

Glad to see the general consensus is that it wasn't intended as an insult laugh.gif I pointed out that it would have been more in the nature of doing the woolies shopping, seeing them in the aisle and thinking there'd be no harm in dropping a box off to say thanks for getting rid of the trees, so not something that would have had more than a seconds worth of thought, but a gift nevertheless.

Had the situation been reversed, mum would probably have dropped round a decent bottle of wine or a small potplant rather than chocolates, it simply wouldn't occur to her that some people really don't mind chocolate like this.

I'm happy though, we got to take them home  biggrin.gif

#24 DEVOCEAN

Posted 24 February 2013 - 08:45 PM

QUOTE (kadoodle @ 24/02/2013, 09:22 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I recently gave a neighbour a box of Roses for collecting my older kids from school when I got delayed at kindergarten pickup with my 4yo.

I hope she wasn't offended.

We went to the fireworks in Sydney for NYE one year. The kids took a few extra jackets and stuff because it was a cold night. We lent one to a person sitting near us that we hardly new and told her to wear it home and just drop it in at DH's work(gave them his business card) whenever they could. They bought it back 2 days later with a box of chocolates.

it is just something small to help say thank you.

#25 LynnyP

Posted 24 February 2013 - 08:48 PM

Do you think your mother might see the hundreds of boxes of Favourites sold through the supermarkets every day as a clue that other people might not mind them?

I'll take a bottle of wine but give me a cherry ripe over a pot plant!




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