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#1 ComradeBob

Posted 21 February 2013 - 01:24 PM

Mother hires strippers for 16 year old son's birthday party

A New York mother has been arrested and charged wtih child endangerment after hiring strippers for her 16yo sons party.

To me, this is so wrong on so many levels. Firstly, way to go about teaching your son and his mates how to objectify women. I know they learn it anyway, that's how our society works, but really? You want to reinforce that by hiring strippers?

And second, how tacky. I would be beyond ropable if my teenager came home saying that "so and so's mum hired strippers for his party". I really think that goes somewhat beyond the bounds of decency.

So what do you think?

#2 Mercurial

Posted 21 February 2013 - 01:30 PM

Mum trying to be ever so cool.  

Not something I'd do!

#3 librablonde

Posted 21 February 2013 - 01:32 PM

What a sad message that sends to a 16yo and all the other teens there. Very sad.

#4 BetteBoop

Posted 21 February 2013 - 01:35 PM

The only way it could be more inappropriate is if the birthday boy's sister was the stripper.

#5 Guest_Sunnycat_*

Posted 21 February 2013 - 01:37 PM

How embarrassing for the boy. I couldn't imagine anything worse than my mum hiring strippers for me.

WTF was she thinking? what kind of message does that send to her son?


#6 spear_maiden

Posted 21 February 2013 - 01:45 PM


Very wrong on many levels and it makes me feel a little ill...

#7 kpingitquiet

Posted 21 February 2013 - 02:10 PM

Some time ago, and still in some countries and families, it was not uncommon for Dad to take Son to a prostitute sometime in his teens so he could "learn the ropes," so to speak. I guess times aren't a-changin' as much as they should.

#8 Guest_AllegraM_*

Posted 21 February 2013 - 02:17 PM

It is pathetic when a parent tries to be a cool friend to their child, not a parent.

#9 Mrs Dinosaurus

Posted 21 February 2013 - 02:22 PM

I saw this and also thought WTF?!

It said there were boys as young as 13 there - WTF could she possibly have been thinking?

And strippers?

In front of your mum?

Even at 18 that's wrong on so many levels it's not funny.

Sorry - I'll keep prattling on internally biggrin.gif

Weird, weird, weird, wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong....

#10 surburbanfunk

Posted 21 February 2013 - 03:20 PM

That's pretty bad if my child attended that party and came home saying there was strippers at the so and so birthday.

You can bet your bottom dollar the mother would be getting a piece of my mind!

I can not believe that any parent would think that having strippers at 16 year old party would be appropriate and that other parents would be ok with it.

#11 Tigerdog

Posted 21 February 2013 - 03:27 PM

DP's parents did this for him for his 18th.  Meh, I don't think it's that big of an issue, for many men strippers exist in a fantasy world (isn't that what the whole stripping thing is about - selling a dream - albeit a seedy one IMO!?).  In no way do they relate it to how they treat the women in their 'real' lives - likewise may strippers don't feel they are being objectified in any way as all parties recognise it for what it is - a fantasy.  DP grew up with four sisters so this in all probability taught him more about how to relate to women than any half-hour strip show.

But yeah, not appropriate for a minor.

Edited by Tigerdog, 21 February 2013 - 03:28 PM.

#12 opethmum

Posted 21 February 2013 - 03:32 PM


I would be enraged if my son had been exposed to that and I would let rip to the mother of my total disgust of that situation.

#13 Missy Shelby

Posted 21 February 2013 - 03:33 PM

So wrong, so illegal, what was she thinking!!! blink.gif

#14 baddmammajamma

Posted 21 February 2013 - 03:35 PM

QUOTE (kpingitquiet @ 21/02/2013, 03:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Some time ago, and still in some countries and families, it was not uncommon for Dad to take Son to a prostitute sometime in his teens so he could "learn the ropes," so to speak. I guess times aren't a-changin' as much as they should.


I'm at a loss for words about the mother in NY....WTF?!

On a related note, I belong to another parenting forum for Sydney mums. Recently, there was a thread about a member's partner -- he wanted (and is) going on an expensive "titty cruise" for several hundred dollars -- a boys' night out, so to speak -- with topless waitresses and strippers.

It was surprising to me how many women (all mums) claimed that such an activity was just "boys being boys" and "harmless fun." I wonder if they are passing those same views along to their young sons.

If women don't oppose the objectification of other women, I think things are in a particularly sorry state -- and I can see HOW a situation like the one in New York actually starts to take root.

I like this piece very much:

Edited by baddmammajamma, 21 February 2013 - 03:40 PM.

#15 wilding

Posted 21 February 2013 - 03:44 PM

Must be the month for it. The other day a mother got arrested for stripping on stage at her child's school during assembly and we have this one  blink.gif

#16 steppy

Posted 21 February 2013 - 03:47 PM

Years ago I went to a friend's 21st and was shocked to find his mum had hired a dominatrix stripper. It was the first time I realised there was a whole different side to him, a different upbringing, that he obviously expressed different things at home than he did socially for his mum to think he would like that.

He was actually pretty embarrassed about it both at the time and later ... I imagine this kid will be embarrassed too. Just not a good move for a mum - or a parent. Not when there are so many other options. Party strippers are so much about humiliation - I guess it depends on whether you find humiliation is hilarious.

Edited by steppy, 21 February 2013 - 03:49 PM.

#17 steppy

Posted 21 February 2013 - 03:56 PM

Just read some of the comments on that article. If true ... eiiiewww. What was she thinking? She'll be lucky if none of the mothers ever tear her a new one.

Edited by steppy, 21 February 2013 - 03:58 PM.

#18 BadCat

Posted 21 February 2013 - 04:02 PM


I have none.

#19 GenWhy

Posted 21 February 2013 - 04:09 PM

QUOTE (kpingitquiet @ 21/02/2013, 12:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Some time ago, and still in some countries and families, it was not uncommon for Dad to take Son to a prostitute sometime in his teens so he could "learn the ropes," so to speak. I guess times aren't a-changin' as much as they should.

I always thought this was an urban myth. Please tell me it's not really happening? It makes me feel ill.

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