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taking home the placenta for one child not the other

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#1 libbylu

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:12 PM

6 years ago when DS was born I hadn't really though much about giving birth and all the ins and outs.  For whatever reason we didn't really think about the option of taking home the placenta.
In any case, it was a long arduous labour that ended in a c-section and the placenta was discarded.
For this baby (due any minute) I am thinking it would be nice to bring it home, bury it in due course and plant a tree on it.  I have friends who have done various things with theirs including cooking it up, turning it into pills and doing what I am thinking about doing.
My only issue is that we didn't do it for DS.  He is super curious 6 year old who asks questions about everything going on and I don't want to have to tell him that his placenta was just thrown in the bin while we are planting a tree over his baby brothers'.  He is a sensitive lad and it wouldn't be nice.
So what would you do?

#2 pitzinoodles

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:28 PM


Seriously, I  have a super curious child, but younger than yours, so maybe discard my advice biggrin.gif , but she would understand if I said that 'sometimes Mums and Dads get to take the placenta home, but sometimes when the baby is born things happen to quickly/a bit differently than normal and so we didn't get to take yours.'

Then if he asks more questions you can say you didn't know you we're having a CS with him, but this time you are prepared.

Often they do tests on the placentas if there are issues, so if that might have happened you could say  his had to go to the pathology doctors to be examined it was so interesting...

Or you could try the tack - He is super special because he gets to help you plant the tree over his siblings.

Or maybe you could plant 2 trees, one with a placenta for sibling, one for him - he could choose the plant to make it special.

Or cut the placenta in half and do one for him too.

#3 tick

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:32 PM

My first babe was born by c-section after a long labour. I hadn't considered keeping he placenta but apparently it was falling to bits anyway so it may not have even been possible. Anyway second child born at home 3 years later and the placenta was frozen fairly rapidly after birth. A few months later we buried in between two new trees.  We managed to plant it without DD1 seeing, but the trees she helped with. One tree for each child. So the placenta bit is my little secret really, thoug I will tell them both more about their births when they're older. DD1 saw DD2's birth mind you but doesn't yet know that hers was so different! I just don't think she's old enough to understand it yet.....

#4 flyfree

Posted 20 February 2013 - 12:12 PM

Just a thought, can you get the placenta cut, what I mean is you could use a piece of it for your 6 yo and use the rest for the new baby and plant trees??


Posted 20 February 2013 - 12:25 PM

QUOTE (flyfree @ 20/02/2013, 01:12 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Just a thought, can you get the placenta cut, what I mean is you could use a piece of it for your 6 yo and use the rest for the new baby and plant trees??

This. Tell your 6yr old the tree is his gift from the baby. Usually I am not into gifts from new babies, but I think in this case it is a bit different. It can be a special thing between him and the baby.

#6 Corella

Posted 20 February 2013 - 12:28 PM

I had a friend with the same experience and bought her elder child a placenta charm (etsy) to bury with a tooth and a lock of hair. My friend explained that because she was older there were other things that they could use to symbolise her growth but for the babe the placenta was all there was as yet. Perhaps look at that or a knitted one or a needle felted one.

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