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#1 Domestic Goddess

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:11 AM

I had a discussion at a local playgroup yesterday about parents kissing their kids on the cheek or on their forehead only or if they kiss them on the lips as well.

The general consensus was: "EWWWWWW kissing your child on the lips is SO wrong! They carry bugs and have often got snotty noses and coughs. You would get sick all the time."

AND

"ONLY my husband/partner is allowed to kiss me on the lips. It's inappropriate to do this with a child".

DS kisses me on my cheek, arms, forehead, lips, etc. No particular spot, just whatever he feels like or whatever part of me is closest lol.
I have no issue with it whatsoever. What about other EB mums and dads?

#2 SCARFACE CLAW

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:14 AM

The playgroup mums are the ones with the problem if they think kissing their own kids on the lips is wrong huh.gif

I always kiss my kids on the lips, and anywhere I can get a kiss in! And my parents always kissed me on the lips and still do. Some people are just strange.

#3 wilding

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:14 AM

I've always given my son a kiss on the lips, and all over his face. Nothing like a sloppy wet one  laughing2.gif

#4 Nanaimo Girl

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:15 AM

When DD was little she would kiss me on the cheeks, lips. pretty much anywhere on my face.

Now that she's a teen I mostly get an air kiss on the cheek.

#5 Tikiboo16

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:17 AM

I just take whatever I can get.. DD is not much of a kisser, so if I get one I feel honoured.. I don't care where she puts it original.gif Thankfully she loves giving cuddles.. original.gif

#6 steppy

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:18 AM

I'm more likely to kiss on the cheek but I don't think it's wrong to kiss your child on the lips. Never thought about it, really.

#7 Mrs Lannister

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:19 AM

I don't like kissing/being kissed on the mouth by my children but then I don't really like kisses from anyone. I would much prefer a hug any day

#8 Guest_Sunnycat_*

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:23 AM

My DS is super affectionate. We spend all day kissing each other and eating each others faces.

I think it just comes down to personal preference. Neither is right or wrong and neither should be seen as weird.

#9 JoMarch

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:26 AM

I'm not a fan of people kissing babies on the lips (for hygiene reasons), but once they're a bit older (toddler/kids) I don't see a problem with it.  

I'm more likely to kiss my son on the cheek/forehead than lips, but thats just me.

#10 Fillyjonk

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:28 AM

We're lip kissers here too. Lip, cheeks, forehead, whatever.

#11 The Falcon

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:28 AM

I kiss both of my children on the lips (and anywhere else).  I think when they were babies it was easier to teach them to kiss on the lips, and they are still little.  I don't think its weird at all.

#12 ~Supernova~

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:30 AM

Lips are fine by me. DD tends to kiss my cheek. DS just...eats my whole face lol. It's only weird if you make it so.

#13 ECsMum

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:32 AM

non lip kisses in our house - not sure why just don't do it ...

#14 spear_maiden

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:33 AM

heehee DS and I sound like you and yours Sunnycat wub.gif .

We're a pretty "kissy" family unit here.  I personally am not much of a kisser except with DH, and DS.  Kisses and hugs are pretty much put where ever they land.  DS is very into giving my belly kisses (I'm preg) but even before there was a bump there, admittedly he'd just plant one there lol.  DS has only really starting kissing on the mouth in the last 6 months or so funnily enough, and really only to Dh, myself and occasionally an auntie or Grammy.  But I don't see a problem with it either way.

Aside: I used to be funny about kissing adults on the lips, but DH's sisters are all about the kissing on the lips hello/goodbye so I think they broke down that barrier for me a little.  I'm still not much of a kisser hello, but don't think too much about it when it happens now.

Edited by Studybug, 19 February 2013 - 10:33 AM.


#15 SophieBear

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:37 AM

QUOTE (Domestic Goddess @ 19/02/2013, 10:41 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
"ONLY my husband/partner is allowed to kiss me on the lips. It's inappropriate to do this with a child".


huh.gif  How strange!

I have no kids yet but my godson who's 3 will kiss me on the lips. I don't like it because they're so sloppy!  happy.gif

I think it's strange for someone to think it so inappropriate.

#16 kpingitquiet

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:41 AM

Uh, yeah, they're weird. Maybe I have a strange child but she only has a runny nose when she's sick which is maybe 5 total times since birth. We lip kiss, for sure. If she didn't want to then it wouldn't happen but she rarely gives us a choice in what type of kiss (or lick or slobber) we're going to receive biggrin.gif There is nothing creepy or gross about letting a child express their very natural love and attachment to their parents, whether that's a smackeroo on the lips or a cuddly hug or whatever their preferred form of affection might be. How silly.

#17 ComradeBob

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:44 AM

I've always kissed DD on the lips, and never even thought it might be odd.

Mind you, I've a number of male and female friends I kiss hello and goodbye on the lips too, so maybe that's why I've never seen it as an issue shrug.gif

#18 YodaTheWrinkledOne

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:45 AM

QUOTE (Domestic Goddess @ 19/02/2013, 10:11 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I had a discussion at a local playgroup yesterday about parents kissing their kids on the cheek or on their forehead only or if they kiss them on the lips as well.

The general consensus was: "EWWWWWW kissing your child on the lips is SO wrong! They carry bugs and have often got snotty noses and coughs. You would get sick all the time."

AND

"ONLY my husband/partner is allowed to kiss me on the lips. It's inappropriate to do this with a child".

DS kisses me on my cheek, arms, forehead, lips, etc. No particular spot, just whatever he feels like or whatever part of me is closest lol.
I have no issue with it whatsoever. What about other EB mums and dads?

we kiss our kids all over.  They do the same to us.  The kids love to land a big "mawa!" kiss on us by surprise.

If my kids have a snotty nose, I generally try to get a tissue to them before they kiss me or anyone else.  But I'd do that regardless of where they were planning to land the kiss, on the mouth or another destination.

I kiss other kids on the forehead or cheek.

Agree with PP - sometimes kids' kisses are a bit on the sloppy side when they are younger, but they do learn and get better at it.

#19 elizabethany

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:47 AM

I am a kiss on the cheek person, but that is cultural, and I don't have a problem with others kissing on the lips.  I just choose not to.

#20 boatiebabe

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:49 AM

I have known to give mine a kiss on the bum cheeks! Wonder what they would think of that?

We are kissy here too.

I'm sure that will slow down a bit as they get older, but right now I'm enjoying all their lovely kisses.



#21 BadCat

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:51 AM

I'm not a lip kisser but I don't care if others do it.

#22 Milly Molly Mandy

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:58 AM

Lip kissers here.

Ds3 who is almost 3 kisses everyone on the lips. They try to turn and he tells them "no! lips! my friends are used to this now. (meaning no, don't turn your head, kiss me on the lips.


#23 ~Supernova~

Posted 19 February 2013 - 11:00 AM

QUOTE (boatiebabe @ 19/02/2013, 10:49 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I have known to give mine a kiss on the bum cheeks! Wonder what they would think of that?

We are kissy here too.

I'm sure that will slow down a bit as they get older, but right now I'm enjoying all their lovely kisses.


lol DS has a very ticklish butt, and from time to time I have bitten it (gently) during play, which makes him giggle hysterically. I think people need to see the innocence in these things, rather than trying to make it somehow "wrong".

#24 MintyBiscuit

Posted 19 February 2013 - 11:01 AM

I can't remember where I used to kiss DS when he was little, but these days it's more often forehead or cheeks. He started kissing my leaning his forehead in for one when we say kiss, so he gets one there, and if you try to kiss his mouth he tends to just open his mouth and stick his tongue out. Kiss on the lips is fine, but a french kiss from my toddler is a bit odd.

He's only really now kissing us back, and he will kiss anywhere. He will often walk up and kiss me on the leg, or my tummy, or whatever part he can get his hands on. The best ones are when I'm lying on the couch and he climbs up for a cuddle, and he kisses my collarbone biggrin.gif

ETA - I also kiss his butt fairly often. It's just so damn cute

Edited by HollyOllyOxenfree, 19 February 2013 - 11:02 AM.


#25 Hmmhuhwhat

Posted 19 February 2013 - 11:03 AM

Lips, cheeks, neck, forehead, back, feet, hands, legs, arms, ears, fingers, head, belly, chest... In fact, the only place I wouldn't kiss my child is on his genitals. Everything else is fair game.




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