Jump to content

Giving (and receiving) your child a kiss
where??


  • Please log in to reply
79 replies to this topic

#1 Domestic Goddess

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:11 AM

I had a discussion at a local playgroup yesterday about parents kissing their kids on the cheek or on their forehead only or if they kiss them on the lips as well.

The general consensus was: "EWWWWWW kissing your child on the lips is SO wrong! They carry bugs and have often got snotty noses and coughs. You would get sick all the time."

AND

"ONLY my husband/partner is allowed to kiss me on the lips. It's inappropriate to do this with a child".

DS kisses me on my cheek, arms, forehead, lips, etc. No particular spot, just whatever he feels like or whatever part of me is closest lol.
I have no issue with it whatsoever. What about other EB mums and dads?

#2 SCARFACE CLAW

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:14 AM

The playgroup mums are the ones with the problem if they think kissing their own kids on the lips is wrong huh.gif

I always kiss my kids on the lips, and anywhere I can get a kiss in! And my parents always kissed me on the lips and still do. Some people are just strange.

#3 wilding

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:14 AM

I've always given my son a kiss on the lips, and all over his face. Nothing like a sloppy wet one  laughing2.gif

#4 Nanaimo Girl

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:15 AM

When DD was little she would kiss me on the cheeks, lips. pretty much anywhere on my face.

Now that she's a teen I mostly get an air kiss on the cheek.

#5 Tikiboo16

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:17 AM

I just take whatever I can get.. DD is not much of a kisser, so if I get one I feel honoured.. I don't care where she puts it original.gif Thankfully she loves giving cuddles.. original.gif

#6 steppy

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:18 AM

I'm more likely to kiss on the cheek but I don't think it's wrong to kiss your child on the lips. Never thought about it, really.

#7 Mrs Lannister

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:19 AM

I don't like kissing/being kissed on the mouth by my children but then I don't really like kisses from anyone. I would much prefer a hug any day

#8 Guest_Sunnycat_*

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:23 AM

My DS is super affectionate. We spend all day kissing each other and eating each others faces.

I think it just comes down to personal preference. Neither is right or wrong and neither should be seen as weird.

#9 JoMarch

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:26 AM

I'm not a fan of people kissing babies on the lips (for hygiene reasons), but once they're a bit older (toddler/kids) I don't see a problem with it.  

I'm more likely to kiss my son on the cheek/forehead than lips, but thats just me.

#10 Fillyjonk

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:28 AM

We're lip kissers here too. Lip, cheeks, forehead, whatever.

#11 The Falcon

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:28 AM

I kiss both of my children on the lips (and anywhere else).  I think when they were babies it was easier to teach them to kiss on the lips, and they are still little.  I don't think its weird at all.

#12 ~Supernova~

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:30 AM

Lips are fine by me. DD tends to kiss my cheek. DS just...eats my whole face lol. It's only weird if you make it so.

#13 ECsMum

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:32 AM

non lip kisses in our house - not sure why just don't do it ...

#14 Studybug

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:33 AM

heehee DS and I sound like you and yours Sunnycat wub.gif .

We're a pretty "kissy" family unit here.  I personally am not much of a kisser except with DH, and DS.  Kisses and hugs are pretty much put where ever they land.  DS is very into giving my belly kisses (I'm preg) but even before there was a bump there, admittedly he'd just plant one there lol.  DS has only really starting kissing on the mouth in the last 6 months or so funnily enough, and really only to Dh, myself and occasionally an auntie or Grammy.  But I don't see a problem with it either way.

Aside: I used to be funny about kissing adults on the lips, but DH's sisters are all about the kissing on the lips hello/goodbye so I think they broke down that barrier for me a little.  I'm still not much of a kisser hello, but don't think too much about it when it happens now.

Edited by Studybug, 19 February 2013 - 10:33 AM.


#15 SophieBear

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:37 AM

QUOTE (Domestic Goddess @ 19/02/2013, 10:41 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
"ONLY my husband/partner is allowed to kiss me on the lips. It's inappropriate to do this with a child".


huh.gif  How strange!

I have no kids yet but my godson who's 3 will kiss me on the lips. I don't like it because they're so sloppy!  happy.gif

I think it's strange for someone to think it so inappropriate.

#16 kpingitquiet

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:41 AM

Uh, yeah, they're weird. Maybe I have a strange child but she only has a runny nose when she's sick which is maybe 5 total times since birth. We lip kiss, for sure. If she didn't want to then it wouldn't happen but she rarely gives us a choice in what type of kiss (or lick or slobber) we're going to receive biggrin.gif There is nothing creepy or gross about letting a child express their very natural love and attachment to their parents, whether that's a smackeroo on the lips or a cuddly hug or whatever their preferred form of affection might be. How silly.

#17 BunnyBob

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:44 AM

I've always kissed DD on the lips, and never even thought it might be odd.

Mind you, I've a number of male and female friends I kiss hello and goodbye on the lips too, so maybe that's why I've never seen it as an issue shrug.gif

#18 YodaTheWrinkledOne

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:45 AM

QUOTE (Domestic Goddess @ 19/02/2013, 10:11 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I had a discussion at a local playgroup yesterday about parents kissing their kids on the cheek or on their forehead only or if they kiss them on the lips as well.

The general consensus was: "EWWWWWW kissing your child on the lips is SO wrong! They carry bugs and have often got snotty noses and coughs. You would get sick all the time."

AND

"ONLY my husband/partner is allowed to kiss me on the lips. It's inappropriate to do this with a child".

DS kisses me on my cheek, arms, forehead, lips, etc. No particular spot, just whatever he feels like or whatever part of me is closest lol.
I have no issue with it whatsoever. What about other EB mums and dads?

we kiss our kids all over.  They do the same to us.  The kids love to land a big "mawa!" kiss on us by surprise.

If my kids have a snotty nose, I generally try to get a tissue to them before they kiss me or anyone else.  But I'd do that regardless of where they were planning to land the kiss, on the mouth or another destination.

I kiss other kids on the forehead or cheek.

Agree with PP - sometimes kids' kisses are a bit on the sloppy side when they are younger, but they do learn and get better at it.

#19 elizabethany

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:47 AM

I am a kiss on the cheek person, but that is cultural, and I don't have a problem with others kissing on the lips.  I just choose not to.

#20 boatiebabe

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:49 AM

I have known to give mine a kiss on the bum cheeks! Wonder what they would think of that?

We are kissy here too.

I'm sure that will slow down a bit as they get older, but right now I'm enjoying all their lovely kisses.



#21 BadCat

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:51 AM

I'm not a lip kisser but I don't care if others do it.

#22 Milly Molly Mandy

Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:58 AM

Lip kissers here.

Ds3 who is almost 3 kisses everyone on the lips. They try to turn and he tells them "no! lips! my friends are used to this now. (meaning no, don't turn your head, kiss me on the lips.


#23 ~Supernova~

Posted 19 February 2013 - 11:00 AM

QUOTE (boatiebabe @ 19/02/2013, 10:49 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I have known to give mine a kiss on the bum cheeks! Wonder what they would think of that?

We are kissy here too.

I'm sure that will slow down a bit as they get older, but right now I'm enjoying all their lovely kisses.


lol DS has a very ticklish butt, and from time to time I have bitten it (gently) during play, which makes him giggle hysterically. I think people need to see the innocence in these things, rather than trying to make it somehow "wrong".

#24 MintyBiscuit

Posted 19 February 2013 - 11:01 AM

I can't remember where I used to kiss DS when he was little, but these days it's more often forehead or cheeks. He started kissing my leaning his forehead in for one when we say kiss, so he gets one there, and if you try to kiss his mouth he tends to just open his mouth and stick his tongue out. Kiss on the lips is fine, but a french kiss from my toddler is a bit odd.

He's only really now kissing us back, and he will kiss anywhere. He will often walk up and kiss me on the leg, or my tummy, or whatever part he can get his hands on. The best ones are when I'm lying on the couch and he climbs up for a cuddle, and he kisses my collarbone biggrin.gif

ETA - I also kiss his butt fairly often. It's just so damn cute

Edited by HollyOllyOxenfree, 19 February 2013 - 11:02 AM.


#25 Drowninginferal

Posted 19 February 2013 - 11:03 AM

Lips, cheeks, neck, forehead, back, feet, hands, legs, arms, ears, fingers, head, belly, chest... In fact, the only place I wouldn't kiss my child is on his genitals. Everything else is fair game.




1 user(s) are reading this topic

0 members, 1 guests, 0 anonymous users

 

Tot meets his heroes, falls apart with excitement

Two-year-old Quincy finished his potty training last week, and as part of his reward he was able to meet his idols.

Beautiful in our eyes: Georgia's story

I will never deny the fact that grief has a place when you give birth to a child who brings a set of circumstances very different to what you imagined. Because for nine months, I thought I knew my Georgie.

'It's been phenomenal': widower dad of quads thankful for support

There was nothing Erica and Carlos wanted more than a baby.

Vin Diesel names daughter after actor Paul Walker

The actor said there was "no other person" he was thinking about when he chose the name.

How midwives can help women who experience domestic violence

More than half of women who live with abusive partners experience violence during pregnancy.

Mum describes giving birth during Cyclone Pam

A new mother was told she must flee Port Vila hospital with her baby as Cyclone Pam bore down.

6 signs you're done having babies

There were a few signs I'm never going back to the land of maternity jeans, breast pumps and bassinets.

Marta Dusseldorp reveals breastfeeding cost her an acting job

Australian actress Marta Dusseldorp has revealed she was forced to withdraw from a Sydney Theatre Company production because a director did not approve of her breast feeding.

Female celebs (or their babies) with traditionally male names

Looking for a name that's a little bit different for a girl? Turn to names that have been traditionally used for males, as these celebs (or their parents) did.

'If you're anti-immunisation ... take a look at this picture of my son'

Greg Hughes is "an absolute shell of a man" as he and his wife Catherine struggle to come to terms with the loss of their newborn son Riley to whooping cough.

How an extrovert can raise an introvert

Introverts are often misunderstood as shy, and sometimes even rude. A timid child can be difficult to build rapport with, but it's important we nurture their sensitive natures.

Sheryl Sandberg's advice

'Choreplay': Help out at home to get more sex, Sandberg tells men

Forget foreplay. The new and improved route to intercourse is "choreplay" - it's good for your spouse, good for your house, and comes with the imprimatur of feminist du jour Sheryl Sandberg.

How to play with your baby

The first time your child learns a new skill at playtime is very exciting - for both you and your baby! Play is important to your child's development for a variety of reasons - here are some simple ideas for you to try at home.

I'm a single mother by choice

For me, being the best mother I can be means being a mum alone, at least for now. Thinking of my friends with inadequate partners, I wonder why more people don’t choose single motherhood.

Awkward wedding photos

Weird poses, surprise photobombs, bizarre editing: these are the wedding photos that should have never seen the light of day.

Four-week-old baby Riley Hughes dies of whooping cough

The mother of a four-week-old Perth baby who died after contracting whooping cough says her family has been left devastated by the loss of her "gorgeous, sweet" son.

Win a Ben & Holly's Little Kingdom prize pack

To celebrate the April 1 release of Holly's Magic Wand on DVD and Digital, we are giving away five DVD packs featuring the newest installment of Ben & Holly's Little Kingdom Holly's Magic Wand and many more hours of family entertainment! Enter Now!

Oh boy! Video shows family's reaction to baby surprise

Little Peyton Williams thought she was getting a baby sister named Charlee. But the two-year-old has had to settle for a doll dressed in pink after her baby "sister" turned out to be a boy.

How to help build up your baby's immune system

We all know that having a strong immune system is the best way to stay healthy – but what can we do to help it along?

'Nick, you need to call an ambulance': home birth mum's tragic death

A Melbourne mum who died after the home birth of her baby pleaded with her husband to call an ambulance because she felt she was going to die, the Victorian Coroners Court has heard.

When dads believe their baby doesn't 'like' them

Q: My two-month-old baby doesn't like me. He's perfectly content with my wife, but when I try to hold him, he gets upset and cries. I've backed off a little, thinking that he just needs a little time to get used to me, but that doesn't seem to be working. I'm starting to think I'm just not a very good dad. Is it too late for me to build a relationship with my baby?

When was the last time a stranger praised your parenting?

Wouldn’t it be great to get some nice feedback every now and then? After all, everyone likes to hear positive praise, particularly when it comes to parenting.

Special Ticket Offer, Save $8!

The Essential Baby & Toddler Show is back this April! Save $8 off the door price for a limited time only!

15 names on the verge of extinction

If you're looking to revive an older name, or don’t want anything near the top 1000 list, check out these rare monikers for your unique baby.

5 characteristics of great dads

It’s great to see a generation of dads who are more actively involved with caring, nurturing and loving their kids.

Why doesn't Australia have more breast milk banks?

When there’s no question that milk banks are important, why don’t we have more of them in Australia?

Carrie Bickmore announces birth of daughter

Television personality Carrie Bickmore has given birth to her second child.

 
Advertisement
 
Advertisement
 
 
 

What's hot on EB

Sign up to our 30 days of #PlayIQ challenge

Sign up to receive 30 amazing tips and ideas for play with baby during the month of April and submit a picture or tip on our social wall for a chance to win an amazing Fisher-Price prize pack.

Man faces jail after giving woman abortion pill smoothie

A Norwegian man is facing jail after putting abortion pills in his ex-girlfriend's smoothie, causing her to have a miscarriage.

'He's a blessing': family of baby born without eyes

Jordy Jackson was born without eyes. He has anophthalmia, which affects one in every 100,000 babies born.

Win one of 5 Cadbury Easter Hampers

With Easter fast approaching, Cadbury are giving away 5 Cadbury Easter Hampers. Enter Now!

Super fit model Sarah Stage defends her pregnancy body

Model Sarah Stage has defended her pregnancy body after critics claimed her slim figure at eight-and-a-half months pregnant wasn't "normal".

Win a Ben & Holly's Little Kingdom and Peppa Pig prize pack

To celebrate the April 1 release of Holly's Magic Wand on DVD and Digital, Essential Baby and Entertainment One are giving away five bumper DVD packs featuring the newest installment of Ben & Holly's Little Kingdom Holly's Magic Wand and many more hours of family entertainment! Enter Now!

Why I post breastfeeding photos online

I love to take pictures of my children. In some of the pictures, my younger son is nursing.

The day I broke my baby

There are things I wish I didn't know. I wish I didn't know that companies make tiny braces, small enough to hold necks no bigger than a wrist.

The place just for dads of multiples

When a couple discovers they're expecting multiples, the dad can sometimes be almost forgotten in all the excitement and preparation. But one group offers a space just for dads of twins and higher-order multiples.

Brave mum calls for domestic violence law reform

A brave mum of two has shared details of the harrowing attacks she suffered at the hands of her partner in a bid to help other victims of domestic violence.

Why I had the new test for Down syndrome

Early last year I turned 35, and having just found out I was pregnant, I opted to have the new test for Down syndrome.

Geeky baby gear

If your family is more into Star Wars, gaming and the periodic table than most, you might want to check out these geek-chic baby items.

2015: the year of the sheep

According to the Chinese zodiac, babies born in the year of the sheep are creative and enjoy spending quiet time with their own thoughts.

Breakthrough genetic testing now available in Australia

Pregnant women will for the first time have access to locally analysed, accurate, non-invasive pre-natal genetic testing when the first Australian clinic to offer the services opens its doors next week.

Grandbabies: the babies born looking old

Not a day under 65 and a lifetime of struggle! That's the look of these newborns, who look adorably older than their real age. Social networking site Reddit recently featured user submissions of adorable grandbabies, here are our favourites.

Family kicked off flight after toddler seatbelt drama

An entire family was kicked off a Cathay Pacific flight when a misbehaving toddler refused to put his seatbelt on.

Stolen baby found after 17 years

A baby stolen from her mother's arms shortly after birth has been found through an astonishing coincidence.

53 creative pregnancy announcements

Announcing that you're expecting can be a time to express your creativity, sense of humour and imagination. Check out how other parents and parents-to-be have broken the news to friends and family.

IKEA hacks for the nursery and kids' rooms

Are you one of those that know the whole IKEA catalogue by heart? Love their stuff but want to personalise it? Here's some inspiration to help you realise the potential of IKEA furniture and fittings.

36 baby names inspired by food and drinks

A French court may have ruled out Nutella as a baby name, but that doesn't have to stop you from taking inspiration from the supermarket (or bottle shop). See what parents in the US have chosen for their delicious little ones.

Clever breastfeeding products

Check out this range of products designed to help make your breastfeeding journey more enjoyable, manageable and convenient.

 

Sign up now!

30 days of #PlayIQ challenge

Receive a daily email from Essential Baby during April with great play tips and ideas, then submit your baby at play photos to our Playwall, Instagram or Twitter for your chance to win.

 
Advertisement
 
 
Essential Baby and Essential Kids is the place to find parenting information and parenting support relating to conception, pregnancy, birth, babies, toddlers, kids, maternity, family budgeting, family travel, nutrition and wellbeing, family entertainment, kids entertainment, tips for the family home, child-friendly recipes and parenting. Try our pregnancy due date calculator to determine your due date, or our ovulation calculator to predict ovulation and your fertile period. Our pregnancy week by week guide shows your baby's stages of development. Access our very active mum's discussion groups in the Essential Baby forums or the Essential Kids forums to talk to mums about conception, pregnancy, birth, babies, toddlers, kids and parenting lifestyle. Essential Baby also offers a baby names database of more than 22,000 baby names, popular baby names, boys' names, girls' names and baby names advice in our baby names forum. Essential Kids features a range of free printable worksheets for kids from preschool years through to primary school years. For the latest baby clothes, maternity clothes, maternity accessories, toddler products, kids toys and kids clothing, breastfeeding and other parenting resources, check out Essential Baby and Essential Kids.