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#1 MissingInAction

Posted 18 February 2013 - 07:36 PM

I've got my high school reunion later this year.  I'm looking forward to it.  I went to the feeder primary school too so many of the people going are people I've known since I was about 5 or 6 years old as we went through the whole school journey together.  

In high school, I was bullied a lot for years 8 & 9 but it settled down by year 10.  Year 10 & 11 & 12 were somewhat easier as I had found "my group."
I haven't really stayed close to the same "group" that I was close to while at school but have stayed/become very close to people from other groups that I had little to do with while we were at school together and they've become my very best friends.  
At school, I was a high achiever (not a super high achiever, but a high achiever nonetheless), involved in various committees and was even a student leader.  I had an opinion on most matters original.gif  Looking back, I think I was more well-liked and respected than I realised at the time but I was still a massive nerd who really didn't have it going on "socially"   unsure.gif  

I met my partner (now DH) at high school and we are one of several couples from school who are still together.  

Anyway, I'm a little all over the place in regards to my emotions about the whole thing.  On the one hand, I'm getting very nostalgic (yes, i tear up at the mere mention of my school yard memories, particularly those i went to primary school with too).  On the other hand, I have this feeling like MUST. PROVE. I'M. NO. LONGER. THE. .DORK. YOU. PICKED. ON. SO. MUCH.  WHO. HAD. A MASSIVE. CRUSH. ON YOU. AND. YOU. SHOT ME DOWN. PUBLICLY. AND. IT BURNED. ME. SO. BAD. IT'S TAINTED. MY IDEAS. ABOUT. MYSELF.  

And here I was thinking i was finally fully well adjusted and getting the upper hand on some self estee issues and then here we go, reunion invites in the mail and i'm so all over the place.  I am looking forward to it though, will be lovely to see people and see if their dreams have come true or where life has taken them original.gif  

So anyway, for those of you who are older than me, what was your high school reunion like?  Did you have fun?  Who did you spend time with there?  What were you like in high school?  How did you feel about it all?

#2 Lifesgood

Posted 18 February 2013 - 08:27 PM

I've been to several high school reunions - 5, 10 and 20 years ohmy.gif The 20 year one was a blast, the others were meh.
Recently I skipped the 25 year reunion because I had lost interest, there was too much else going on in my life at the time.

I was a bit nervous and a bit excited about attending, but mostly curious about what it would be like.

My closest half-dozen friends now are my old high school friends, so I tried to avoid spending too much time with them while at the reunion. I chatted with everyone, it was interesting to see what people had done with their lives, and amazing to see how much some had changed physically over the years.

I was in a few groups at school - the 'party group', the 'sporty group', the 'woggy group' - but having said that there were no groups that were ostracised or bullied. All of the groups got along together, the cool gang, the nerds, the wogs, the brainiacs, the party animals - everyone was friendly and accepting. Wierd huh? That's not to say I and others didn't get picked on or bullied from time to time, but it was the exception and usually got stamped out quickly by the other kids.

I hope you go to yours, if nothing else it gives you an opportunity to see what everyone has been up to! If it's crap you can always leave and never see them again original.gif

#3 JaneLane

Posted 18 February 2013 - 08:42 PM

My 10 year reunion never happened.  Nobody could be bothered. There was some Facebook talk about organising one but after a few people replied with not much to say, everyone gave up.

Did not bother me in the slightest. I know it would have been extremely boring just like the year 10 and 12 formals.

I went to an all girls high school and we did not really have particulr groups, certainly no popular vs unpopular.

If I had to categorise myself it would be the the skater/surfer punk metal group but especially towards the end, nobody really cared as so many left in year 10 it was a totally different dynamic.  

Most of us are in a private Facebook group and/or are regular facebook friends so know exactly what most are up to that a reunion seems pointless. I doubt we will have any at all if no one could bother with the 10 year

Edited by blue4me, 19 February 2013 - 04:08 AM.


#4 Freddie'sMum

Posted 18 February 2013 - 08:50 PM

NO.

A thousand times "NO".

I would rather stay at home - watching Parliamentary Question Time - at the same time as using a home-dentistry kit on my own teeth than ever go to any Primary or High School Reunion.  Ever.



#5 IsolaBella

Posted 18 February 2013 - 08:52 PM

Went to two 20yr reunions last year and had a ball.

Even the school I left due to feeling excluded and left out to the extent I became seriously depressed and considered suicide.

It was great to see everyone and how they had changed/ where they had ended up. The life paths were very interesting.

I went with open heart/ mind and had a great time. Others who came bearing high school grudges still felt high school b**chiness was rampant. I think you get out if it what you take.



#6 MissingInAction

Posted 18 February 2013 - 08:55 PM

QUOTE (Freddie'sMum @ 18/02/2013, 08:50 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
NO.

A thousand times "NO".

I would rather stay at home - watching Parliamentary Question Time - at the same time as using a home-dentistry kit on my own teeth than ever go to any Primary or High School Reunion.  Ever.



Such a strong reaction.  Dare we ask?  unsure.gif

QUOTE (lsolaBella @ 18/02/2013, 08:52 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I went with open heart/ mind and had a great time. Others who came bearing high school grudges still felt high school b**chiness was rampant. I think you get out if it what you take.


yeah, i agree. i think this is what it will be like for all of us too.  i have a friend who has completely lost it in regards to this reunion and is so wrapped up in other people judging her because she isn't doing what she wanted to be doing by this stage in her life. i think she's just really unhappy with her life choices and where they've taken her and she's a bit ashamed (you may recognise her from my thread about the alcoholic friend who never offers to bring things to gatherings and flirts with my DH)

#7 IsolaBella

Posted 18 February 2013 - 08:59 PM

I think my open heart/mind was also eased by the fact that I live 900kms from where I went to school (different capital city), so it really was distant past for me.



#8 cinnabubble

Posted 18 February 2013 - 09:03 PM

Would not even consider it. The past is the past. I have nothing to prove to those people.

#9 MissingInAction

Posted 18 February 2013 - 09:04 PM

QUOTE (cinnabubble @ 18/02/2013, 09:03 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Would not even consider it. The past is the past. I have nothing to prove to those people.


but... don't you want to see your old friends? aren't you a bit curious?

#10 Hattie

Posted 18 February 2013 - 09:08 PM

My 25 year reunion was last year; I didn't go. I am still close friends with two of my school mates, and keep in touch with a couple of others via email and Facebook. I have no interest in seeing anyone else - if I wanted to still be friends with them, I would be.

Oh and to put this in perspective, I had a pretty happy and positive school experience, So it easn't sour grapes that kept me away. Just happy to keep the past in the past.

Cheers,
Julie

#11 AbbottProofFence

Posted 18 February 2013 - 09:10 PM

I'd go to one for my school in South Africa that I left when I was 15 because we came to Australia. Sure, some people gave me a bit of a hard time, but I got on well with most of my classmates and would like to see them again.

But like a previous poster, I'd rather sit at home watching Barney on repeat while eating stale bread than attend the one for my school in Australia where I finished out the last 3.5 years of my education. Got treated like a worthless piece of crap.

#12 cinnabubble

Posted 18 February 2013 - 09:12 PM

QUOTE (MissingInAction @ 18/02/2013, 10:04 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
but... don't you want to see your old friends? aren't you a bit curious?

No. I sloughed off my skin when I walked out of there. Only 25 years after we left school have I reconnected with a couple of people. I stay off Facebook and anonymous on the internet, which helps me to be untraceable.

I really don't remember most of the people I went to school with and if they weren't interesting enough to remember, why would I want to see them again?

#13 YodaTheWrinkledOne

Posted 18 February 2013 - 09:16 PM

QUOTE (MissingInAction @ 18/02/2013, 07:36 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
So anyway, for those of you who are older than me, what was your high school reunion like?  Did you have fun?  Who did you spend time with there?  What were you like in high school?  How did you feel about it all?

there has been 5, 10, 15 and 20 year school reunions (yep, someone has been diligent about keeping up the reunions).  Apparently the 25th year reunion is being planned now (will be next year).  I haven't been to any of them, don't plan to go to any future ones.  Felt no desire to go.  I keep in contact with all the people I want to.

And no, I wasn't bullied or anything like that.  I quite enjoyed high school and have many happy, fond memories.  I have had quite a few of my school friends ask me why I haven't gone to the reunions.  Absolutely no desire.  If I were that curious about people, I'd contact them during the regular course of life.  


#14 libbylu

Posted 18 February 2013 - 09:19 PM

I missed my 5 yr reunion for similar reasons as you outlined....I had drifted out of touch with most of my highschool friends and was hanging with uni friends and I just couldn't be bothered dredging up all the sh*t, but it probably would have been fine in hindsight.  But by the 10 year reunion I had reconnected with a few high school friends in a more mature way and went along and enjoyed it.  I found everyone talked to everyone, and it didn't really matter who had been a dork and who had been popular.  Some people were doing the most interesting things....like one girl had joined the navy and was driving warships and one girl was doing a Phd in volcanos!  It was really interesting and people were generally really nice and making an effort to be friendly to all. And then by the 15 year reunion we were all comparing notes on our kids!

#15 kit_kats

Posted 18 February 2013 - 09:22 PM

I went to my 10yr reunion as a favour to my best friend... against my better judgement. I was much like you in h/s. Nerdy and more-or-less invisible. I had my group of friends, but i was not even close to popular.

Fast Forward 10 years, and  i have my life in check, as you have yours. The most successful people aren't the ones with the flattest stomach or the shiniest hair, or the b*tchy-est comments anymore. It's the ones who are truly happy with their life as it is.

I went to my reunion dreading the same old snide comments and having noone talk to me... but the opposite happened. I'm happy as i am, take care of myself, and have worked damn hard to create a good career and future. Noone recognised me. The shock when they all realised who i am was quite enjoyable. The attention i got was a little awkward... but people are attracted to other happy, confident people. You sound like you are happy with your current life. So go and make peace with that bad juju. It really helps that many years out of high school and in the real world makes even the dicky-est people somewhat friendly.

#16 sarkazm76

Posted 18 February 2013 - 09:27 PM

I just passed on my 20 year one 2 weekends ago.  I was considering going at first, then the FB event page turned into basically the same soulless people from the "it" group posting nauseating photos and comments and it just became like school again.  Plus I'm pregnant so would have to be sober - ha!  I just don't have any interest in seeing those people.  If I did I would be in touch with them.
Just after the reunion one of the girls who friended me to invite me int he first place posted a vile thing on her wall about how she saw a homeless person cleaning himself like a cat and suggesting he should be using public restrooms to keep himself clean.  I defriended her.  I don't have time for people who like to judge the homeless with such lack of compassion.  These people have NOT become more endearing over the years.


#17 Freddie'sMum

Posted 18 February 2013 - 09:29 PM

Because I was bullied, excluded and alienated.

Because I wasn't worth talking to.

Because I was short and fat and unfashionable (I am now short and fatter and still unfashionable).

Because I left my sh*tty, small home town in NZ (which is remarkably similar to sh*tty, small home towns everywhere) and decided that moving on and moving out was a damn sight better than reliving all the crap that had happened.





#18 JRA

Posted 18 February 2013 - 09:49 PM

I went to the 10 and 20. 20 was lots of fun, I was 8 1/2 mths pregnant.

We didn't have a 30 year reunion.

#19 Guest_Marquise_*

Posted 18 February 2013 - 10:00 PM

QUOTE (Freddie'sMum @ 18/02/2013, 09:50 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
NO.

A thousand times "NO".

I would rather stay at home - watching Parliamentary Question Time - at the same time as using a home-dentistry kit on my own teeth than ever go to any Primary or High School Reunion.  Ever.


Oh yes.
I came alive once I left the small provate-school pond and went to uni and realised that there was a wonderful, diverse world out there (with much more interesting boys). Never looked back.

#20 Acidulous Osprey

Posted 18 February 2013 - 10:31 PM

No I didn't.  My 30th was in 2010 and I had no interest in going.  I had a few people from school on my FB and realised the reason we didn't stay friends is that I found them boring then and now.

#21 lactasticmama

Posted 18 February 2013 - 10:36 PM

My 10yr high school reunion is happening in November, I'm kinda looking forward to it. It'll be nice to catch up and see what everyone is up to in their lives (well those I'm not friends with on Facebook).

#22 Propaganda

Posted 18 February 2013 - 10:43 PM

Mine is this year too. I'll be going.

While I'm looking forward to catching up with some old friends, I'm also looking forward to feeling superior to the popular kids who were nasty in high school. A few of them have tried to add me as a friend, or we have mutual friends, and I occasionally see a picture of them as a result. Some of them are hideous (they used to flaunt their beauty), obese, doing little with their lives... and as silly as it seems, I am looking forward to feeling a bit smug about how I've turned out as opposed to how they've turned out.

#23 Magnus

Posted 18 February 2013 - 10:50 PM

I missed my ten year reunion. I tossed up going but it was interstate and I was lazy.

I saw the photos online and it looks like there wasn't a huge attendance rate and the people who did go were not people I was really close to or really interested in what happened to them in the intervening years.

I can't say I regret not attending. I didn't even know there were 15 and twenty year reunions, nor 5 year ones.

#24 MangoTango

Posted 18 February 2013 - 11:02 PM

My 10 year reunion recently passed and I had no interest whatsoever attending (probably doesn't help that I live OS now).

I am Facebook 'friends' with a few high school friends but otherwise do not socialise with anyone from school. I didn't have a terrible time at school but I was so relieved when I went to university and found people that were like-minded and formed friendship based on common interests, values, experiences rather than being forced together!

I am not even remotely interested (or curious) about the lives of my school peers - it was a chapter in my life that I have well and truly moved on from!

I would love to attend a university reunion though... do they even exist?!

#25 .Jerry.

Posted 19 February 2013 - 06:04 AM

I haven't been to any reunion.  I think I would be very bored.  I have nothing (other than the school) in common with those people any more and don't do small talk well.  

This year my old school has its 150th anniversary though and I may be interested enough to go have a look around and take in the historical aspect though.  Would not bother me in the slightest if I didn't see anyone from my class.




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