First of congratulations on your birth! It has certainly been a rocky start being separated from your LO and given there was no contact for 5 days means s/he was needing that acute care. I'm very glad for you that you had access to such good medical care. Take heart, many women have experienced the same and get through it all to successfully BF.
Some "Special Care Unit" babies just take a little longer to get the hang of things after discharge and require that extra focus for a while. Offering the breast while he is still sleepy may help.
As it seems you are only 4 days into using Motilum, keep going with this - stress may be inhibiting it's function thus far and that's normal and perfectly understandable.
A few little tips here may help.......
Try not to be down-heartened about the volumes you express - any breastmilk
you can give your baby is worthwhile. Babies can draw far more from the breast than any pump will - so that is no indicator of supply - it's the regular breast / nipple stimulation that is important for now- just don't focus so much on supply.
I do hear you - in that you're worried about volumes of breastmilk per feed, but you can hand that responsibility over to your LC for guidance
and she will come up with something that will serve you well over this transition time.
Ask your LC about using a "Supply Line" - the baby will get enough calories with EBM & formula and be stimulating the breast at the same time, as the liquid comes via a small tube taped beside the nipple.
As anxiety is the greatest inhibitor of the let down reflex, sometimes it helps to tell yourself (and others) "I'm moving mountains here to make this happen. The rest is up to mother nature / God / the universe" (whatever comes naturally to you). Take heart that you are doing all you can....
Some of the best things to help the let down relflex and milk production are (but oft forgotten);
1. have your favourite baby photos to look at, or
2. watch a funny show / movie whilst pumping;
3. if you have a trusted and encourging friend or your mother to chat with may be helpful
4. rest as much as possible
The best advice from PP's is to get a Lactation Consultant asap for a thorough assessment (they do home visits). She will work together with you, your M&CHN and the ABA where you can be put in contact with other mothers who had experienced the same as you and had success.
It is still early times with your LO and we know how frustrating and exhausting it can be but the effects of persevering can be worth the elation when it all comes together. There have been many mums in your similar circumstances and it can work out - I'm hoping lots will post here for you.
Take a day at a time. Don't try to do it all with the housekeeping. Get any sort of home help that's offered - cooked meals are a great help. Pay for a housekeeper if you have to (someone, or a few people may want to give you this as a gift). Ask for help when and where you need it - you'll find that people are more than happy to help. Sometimes local councils will give help too - so make some enquiries there.
Think - rest, rest, rest, as much as possible.
Your little one had a very rocky start and I'm so happy for you that s/he pulled through that ok. It seems to me that he may still be in "recovery phase" and you are doing everything you can to make this all come together. Congratulations and well done on all your efforts!
Edited by TwiceThe Woman, 17 February 2013 - 11:59 AM.