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#1 Stardusties

Posted 16 February 2013 - 09:27 PM

What do you think? Is Facebook really worth it? Or does it just cause more drama then good?

#2 BetteBoop

Posted 16 February 2013 - 09:30 PM

Facebook doesn't cause anything.

Some people cause drama and these days they use social networking to increase the drama.

#3 Expelliarmus

Posted 16 February 2013 - 09:35 PM

I have never experienced a drama on facebook.

I'd like to know where all the alleged drama is cos I don't ever see any.

#4 Guest_*SnowFlower*_*

Posted 16 February 2013 - 09:35 PM

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Edited by *SnowFlower*, 18 February 2013 - 07:52 PM.


#5 Isolabella

Posted 16 February 2013 - 09:35 PM

QUOTE (Beetlebop @ 16/02/2013, 10:30 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Facebook doesn't cause anything.

Some people cause drama and these days they use social networking to increase the drama.


It is all in how you use it. You won't find me on Facebook, I am hidden. I use it as a tool to keep in touch with my immediate family who are interstate and overseas (via a private group) and extended family. Only my friends can see my posts.

It has been great. It instantly experience pictures or quick video of my nieces ballet performance half a world away is great.



#6 paod

Posted 16 February 2013 - 09:37 PM

Tonight I am considering deactivating my Facebook because of my 'friends' posts. My DH thinks I am over thinking it but I feel they are rubbing their 'happy little family' in my face all day everyday! For gods sake we get it...you have kids and that's great but enough is enough!
In answer to your question- yes it can be more trouble than it's worth!

#7 Stardusties

Posted 16 February 2013 - 09:38 PM

QUOTE (Beetlebop @ 16/02/2013, 10:30 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Facebook doesn't cause anything.

Some people cause drama and these days they use social networking to increase the drama.


This is what I meant, though I probably worded it poorly. My news feed is full of un-needed rubbish/drama/fights etc. and I guess I was wondering if everyone experienced the same.

Of course it likely speaks volumes about the people I have as 'friends' on there.


#8 JustBeige

Posted 16 February 2013 - 09:38 PM

QUOTE (Beetlebop @ 16/02/2013, 10:30 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Facebook doesn't cause anything.

Some people cause drama and these days they use social networking to increase the drama.

Yep.

Its also in the choices you make.  Choice of people you 'friend'. Choice of whether you  can be found and/or contact.  Choice of what you actually write in posts.  

I understand its a good way of keeping in contact, but I do think that sometimes everything  'instant' isnt doing our kids any favours.  It always makes me draw parallels to that Ben Elton book about social networking.

#9 Guest_Sunnycat_*

Posted 16 February 2013 - 09:40 PM

Facebook is what you make of it. I have been involved in certain groups which can be the source of drama, also I got rid of a whole heap of family (namely MIL) who were causing drama.

Now I strictly keep FB for my DIG and my interstate friends. Everyone else I deleted. Nothing personal, but I just wanted to limit my involvement on FB to people I don't have the opportunity to see.



#10 againagain

Posted 16 February 2013 - 09:47 PM

The drama queens in real life are the same drama queens on facebook. There's a happy little button that says 'unfriend' and it instantly makes your online life much nicer  biggrin.gif

Although I must say, I have come across people who seem perfectly normal in real life, but constantly think everything on fb is all about them. Did you see that ecard? That must have been about me! Did you see that Benny went to the beach? That must be because I am working, he wanted to rub it in.  rolleyes.gif



#11 Guest_Dinah_Harris_*

Posted 16 February 2013 - 09:47 PM

You can unsubscribe from people's posts if you don't like them.
It's a tool to communicate.   Nothing more and nothing less.
It's also a good business tool for my industry,  but that's a different story.

#12 AbbottProofFence

Posted 16 February 2013 - 09:49 PM

Lately I've been thinking it's more trouble than it's worth.

#13 #YKG

Posted 16 February 2013 - 09:50 PM

i agree its largely how you use it and who you choose to be friends with.

Like most things a minority tend to ruin it for the majority. I have found most people arent selective in who they friend, a lot seem to add their best friends, sisters, vets, aunty's, teachers, daughters kinder brest friend who they met once at a party.

I like a pp am invisible unless you know me, i have to search to friend you because i dont appear in any search on facebook or google.

If you have people that overshare on facebook dekete or hide them its not as big of a drama that people make it out to be.

#14 Musk Sticks

Posted 16 February 2013 - 09:52 PM

QUOTE (Beetlebop @ 16/02/2013, 10:30 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Facebook doesn't cause anything.

Some people cause drama and these days they use social networking to increase the drama.

I don't have a Facebook account primarily for this reason.

Most of my extended family refuses to speak to each other and I am constantly harassed by someone for talking to a family member they don't like.

The thought of being on Facebook is a nightmare for me, I can only imagine how crazy they would make me with constant complaining "how come you are FB friends with so and so?" or " why aren't you FB friends with me?"

An example of a drama increased by FB would be when my father happened to call my husband the moment after DS was born and father of course had to post it on FB. So my mother didn't speak to me for a week because "how dare I tell my father first".

So yes, for me FB is more trouble than its worth.

#15 The Awesome One

Posted 16 February 2013 - 10:06 PM

It all depends on how it is used, I have no issues on mine, but the only people on mine are family and friends, if I don't know you then you will not be on my fb (I have maybe 4 women from EB who are an exception, though I speak to them regularly so consider that as knowing them).

I think the biggest thing I have had on my FB as drama was when my sister put bath pictures of my DD up and I asked her to take them down (I don't post those sorts of pics of my kids), so she took them down, the end lol.

#16 opethmum

Posted 16 February 2013 - 10:09 PM

With my FB a/c I use it for communications for a lot of friends that I would not ordinarily have time to catch up with especially my those o/s and since I have had kids there is less time. I use my account with the utmost respect and I would not be game to say anything online that I would not have the guts to say in real life in their face.
I tend not to add drama into people's lives and there is the occasional brag about my child, I hate drama and I ignore feeds and will turn off people's feeds if they go too far and will de-friend if it gets too much. I know there are people who have their struggles and I do not wish to add to them by bragging about kids/marriage/family life.


#17 Guest_Sunnycat_*

Posted 16 February 2013 - 10:14 PM

QUOTE (Mary Whether @ 16/02/2013, 10:12 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
So glad I am still there, since I don't fall into either group!


That's because you're all kinds of awesome and you have a gorgeous dog.

#18 Peanut

Posted 16 February 2013 - 10:22 PM

Vaguebooking tends to cause the most drama, in my opinion!

#19 Acidulous Osprey

Posted 16 February 2013 - 10:49 PM

Mine's pretty drama free.  Any drama that has gone down would have gone down in a different format--if we were not using FB, it would have been a forum or MSN.

Seriously it is all in how you use it.  And who you friend.

#20 GenWhy

Posted 16 February 2013 - 11:18 PM

I have a friend on my fb that is on there purely for entertainment purposes. I'm a terrible person, I know. But it's like watching the bogan version of Nick Lachey and Jessica Simpson's reality show. Everything else on my fb is boring. I mainly use it to chat to the ladies from my DIG from years ago. I also have a fake name and invisible settings

#21 2bundles

Posted 17 February 2013 - 05:28 AM

QUOTE (opethmum @ 16/02/2013, 10:09 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
With my FB a/c I use it for communications for a lot of friends that I would not ordinarily have time to catch up with especially my those o/s and since I have had kids there is less time. I use my account with the utmost respect and I would not be game to say anything online that I would not have the guts to say in real life in their face.
I tend not to add drama into people's lives and there is the occasional brag about my child, I hate drama and I ignore feeds and will turn off people's feeds if they go too far and will de-friend if it gets too much. I know there are people who have their struggles and I do not wish to add to them by bragging about kids/marriage/family life.


This is me too. Never occurred to me to be totally hidden. If I don't want someone I don't accept them as a friend.
A great tool for keeping in touch with people local and overseas that I otherwise wouldn't see often.

#22 icekool

Posted 17 February 2013 - 06:00 AM

Agreed. It really depends on how you use it and what you use it for.

Some posts can seem obnoxious (I have a whinging friend that is angry with the world  rolleyes.gif ) so they get blocked but they are decent IRL. Some posts are all about boasting. Some posts are about sharing. Some posts are as useful as a Seinfeld episode. Some posts are beyond superficial. I have many overseas friends so it is great to see snow and pics on a 35 degree day!

I also just like looking at pics of my friends when I am bored lol

#23 kpingitquiet

Posted 17 February 2013 - 06:14 AM

No drama on mine since young-20-something SILs removed themselves from my list. Been peaches and roses ever since! I use it constantly to keep up with my family and friends. They live a very very long way away and this way they don't feel like they're missing out on kiddo's and my life so much. Also use it to keep in near constant contact with my DIG girls from 2010 and some newer EB friends.

#24 MAGS24

Posted 17 February 2013 - 06:34 AM

I think the only purpose for Facebook is as a way to stay in touch with relatives and friends that I don't get to see very often. It is great for people like me who don't live anywhere near any relatives. I love seeing photos of my nieces and updates etc. That is what is for.

#25 MissingInAction

Posted 17 February 2013 - 07:27 AM

I love seeing photos of my family & friends who I don't get to see often (mostly because of geographical distance).

I have experienced my fair share of Facebook Drama over the years but it has considerably dropped off in the last year or so since I whittled down my friends list to a few select groups:

Family
Best Friends
Old School Friends
A Handful of Uni Friends

NO WORK FRIENDS.  

Work friends & Facebook Drama went hand in hand for me so a few mates from work and I decided to take the plunge together and we all simultaneously deleted eachother and everyone else from work original.gif  We have eachother's phone numbers so we keep in contact that way... apart from seeing eachother every day anyway... *sigh* haha






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