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#1 mards

Posted 15 February 2013 - 06:21 AM

OMG _ did anyone watch this - How apt that it start on Valentines Day.... The lady Alison and her husband - I can't believe they are still together...  - It will be great to watch the whole series over time

#2 greenthumbs

Posted 15 February 2013 - 07:00 AM

I really wanted to watch it, but stupid digital pixelated tv! aaargh

Hopefully it'll be viewable on their website today sometime. Glad to hear it was worth watching!

#3 brazen

Posted 15 February 2013 - 07:09 AM

dh watched it. it sounded completely depressing to me


#4 mards

Posted 15 February 2013 - 07:10 AM

Yes it was depressing - but I think so many people will be able to relate - Yep Brazen I think it's on Iview...

#5 leisamd

Posted 15 February 2013 - 07:16 AM

Yeah we watched it, sparked some good conversation with dh. He found the couples very frustrating!

#6 brazen

Posted 15 February 2013 - 07:45 AM

being able to relate was reason #2 for hating it wink.gif

#7 ThatsNotMyName

Posted 15 February 2013 - 09:20 AM

I watched it, DH did sudokus while it was on but was half watching/listening. We talked a bit about what came up & were both so appalled by the way Allison spoke to her husband. So sad sad.gif I hated the way they did the scoring in a stage like environment, so cheap & commercialising.

#8 Goggie

Posted 15 February 2013 - 09:30 AM

I thought it was really interesting to watch. It's good to see the differing expectations and pressures from both sides of a relationship. I will keep watching.

#9 alwayshappy

Posted 15 February 2013 - 09:34 AM

I also thought it was really good to watch.  I think it will open up discussion in a whole lot of households.  With so many 'reality' shows that are just basic entertaining but I think this one has some real substance and many people will relate to the challenges seen, as we navigate our own relationships.

#10 ekbaby

Posted 15 February 2013 - 11:55 AM

It was good to watch with DP. We both laughed at some of the comments from the couple with the young children, where mum was a SAHM and Dad was WOHP, because we could recognise having said exactly the same things ourselves. Nice to know they are common issues- our kids are a little older so we have worked through things to an extent but I could definitely relate to how much of a stress having little kids and different roles can put on a relationship. I hope they work things out.



#11 Aquarium

Posted 15 February 2013 - 12:13 PM

I thought it was excellent and have series linked to record the rest.  Dh and I chatted afterwards about the exercise of recording 3 things that you're grateful for each day, and we're going to give it a go.

I thought the resentment exercise was great and made me think about my own.

#12 Mpjp is feral

Posted 15 February 2013 - 01:56 PM

OMGosh.... the Bensons made me want to cry....

I feel so sorry for Paul...

#13 mards

Posted 22 February 2013 - 10:00 AM

Oh My that Alison has issues - I can not believe her poor husband has stayed with her after all those years!! - She couldn't even look at him... ohmy.gif

#14 zande

Posted 22 February 2013 - 10:14 AM

I'm watching. DH and I are trying to get the spark back in our marriage (so far so good) so came at the right time for me.

I feel sorry for Paul particularly, and actually find myself sympathising with most of the men, hearing the women and the way they speak makes me cringe actually, and sadly recognise I've been guilty of the same. Really thought-provoking.

#15 mards

Posted 22 February 2013 - 10:40 AM

how bad was it when Carla's husband said the best time was on the honeymoon when all his family showed up! ohmy.gif  !!

they have issues - so glad they don't have kids yet...

Yep my hubby and I are watching - really good to get the little reminders of how hard it is when someone is NIT picking at you all the time and Nagging..... VERY thought provoking..


#16 steppy

Posted 22 February 2013 - 10:53 AM

I've been watching. I think all the couples have issues and there are no innocents. I am very interested to see how much Paul and Alison can repair their relationship - over the years she has lost all respect for him so it will be interesting to see if there is a way she can regain that respect. I understood why she was like that when they talked about their issues with the kids - it's very easy to see that behaviour as letting the kids walk all over you. Mind you, she was quite enabling herself, complaining about tons of laundry she had to do as no one else would do it. She should just shove it all in a basket in their rooms and leave it - if they want clean clothes they'll figure out how to make that happen, they're not 5 years old. It's an easy answer there. I get this impression of a woman waiting to be saved and not realising that the more she gives, the more they'll take and the less they'll appreciate it.

In the couple with the children, I was interested to see how waspish the guy was as soon as the woman admitted she felt bad about making him feel like a failure. Suddenly he was up on his high horse and nothing was his fault anymore. Peevish.

The young couple really do have issues - the young woman needs to get out of that house and do something. ANYTHING. There is no chance of happiness while he puts his family first so she needs to make herself happy and then see if she wants to hang around any longer. If she can't work in with the family it just isn't going to work for her as far as I can see - her husband lives and breathes family very obviously while she wants a man all to herself. What a mismatch! Interesting to see their end result also.

The working couple - I think they can make a go of it. The guy does seem really bullheaded though.

I am watching with great interest. I love the ABC shows like this - the one with the grown up kids who wouldn't move out was wonderful.

Edited by steppy, 22 February 2013 - 10:56 AM.


#17 darcswan

Posted 22 February 2013 - 01:22 PM

I agree there are no innocents - having watched the first episode only, Alison and Paul were definitely the most troubling of the couples.  

To hear her be so outright cruel was like a punch in the guts and it wasn't even aimed at me!  But there are 2 sides - she seemed to constantly try to provoke him, to push him and see if she got a reaction.  But his denial was so deep, he wasn't giving her anything.  I have no idea what is keeping them together and am very interested to see how they progress.

I must say, after watching I gave my partner a big ol' cuddle and told him how much I appreciated him!  I can be critical and difficult, so this was a stark reminder of how important it is to consistently show love and respect to your partner.

#18 YodaTheWrinkledOne

Posted 22 February 2013 - 02:53 PM

QUOTE (mards @ 15/02/2013, 07:10 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Yes it was depressing - but I think so many people will be able to relate

agree.  It's quite thought provoking


QUOTE (Aquarium @ 15/02/2013, 12:13 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I thought it was excellent and have series linked to record the rest.  Dh and I chatted afterwards about the exercise of recording 3 things that you're grateful for each day, and we're going to give it a go.

I thought the resentment exercise was great and made me think about my own.

Yes, I thought the resentment exercise was well done.  

QUOTE (mards @ 22/02/2013, 10:00 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Oh My that Alison has issues - I can not believe her poor husband has stayed with her after all those years!! - She couldn't even look at him... ohmy.gif

Some years of serious denial and suppressed resentment.  I'm not sure they will pull through.  He obviously doesn't want to separate and wants to make his wife happy.  It looks like she doesn't want to be seen to have a failed marriage.  Not on the same page.  But she is trying.

QUOTE (darcswan @ 22/02/2013, 01:22 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I agree there are no innocents - having watched the first episode only, Alison and Paul were definitely the most troubling of the couples.  

To hear her be so outright cruel was like a punch in the guts and it wasn't even aimed at me!  But there are 2 sides - she seemed to constantly try to provoke him, to push him and see if she got a reaction.  But his denial was so deep, he wasn't giving her anything.  I have no idea what is keeping them together and am very interested to see how they progress.

I must say, after watching I gave my partner a big ol' cuddle and told him how much I appreciated him!  I can be critical and difficult, so this was a stark reminder of how important it is to consistently show love and respect to your partner.

I think she has stayed with him because of the children and the lifestyle he provides.  I'd be interested to know whether the kids recognise that their parent's marriage is in such bad shape and that their Mum has such a bad opinion of their father.

I really hope they change what they have done for years and start improving the relationship.

#19 gabbigirl

Posted 22 February 2013 - 05:50 PM

I have been watching with interest too.  I had a laugh with hubby as we have some of those issues that the family with young kids have...competing who has had a harder day.  I still maintain that it is me!  wink.gif

I am finding some of the exercises for the couples a little trite.  Great..lets do some jujitsu or whatever, but put them back into their homes and their familiar routines and I think couples fall back into the same routines.  But it's TV and think for a quasi reality show, it's done pretty well.  The couples are brave brave brave doing this..good luck to them.

#20 bestnot

Posted 22 February 2013 - 05:52 PM

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Edited by zedgirl, 19 September 2013 - 10:36 AM.


#21 gabbigirl

Posted 07 March 2013 - 10:03 PM

Did anyone watch the rest of this series?  Any bets on who'll make it? It would be great if they could visit in a few years.  I wonder about that young couple..will she be able to live away from her family married to a workaholic who really isn't going to change that much, it seems that work is part of his DNA.  

I felt for Paul and Alison...wow, so much unspoken about for 20 years.  I still don't think that Alison was yet able to look her husband in the eye by the end of the 8 weeks.

Edited by gabbigirl, 07 March 2013 - 10:04 PM.


#22 YodaTheWrinkledOne

Posted 07 March 2013 - 10:26 PM

QUOTE (gabbigirl @ 07/03/2013, 10:03 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Did anyone watch the rest of this series?  Any bets on who'll make it? It would be great if they could visit in a few years.  I wonder about that young couple..will she be able to live away from her family married to a workaholic who really isn't going to change that much, it seems that work is part of his DNA.  

I felt for Paul and Alison...wow, so much unspoken about for 20 years.  I still don't think that Alison was yet able to look her husband in the eye by the end of the 8 weeks.

My predictions :

The youngest couple - I think they will go downhill because as much as I think the guy knows he needs to prioritise his wife, his actions won't back up his intentions.  

the two next couples - I think they have seen such an improvement, they will be committed to putting effort into their relationship

Paul and Alison - I hope they can pull through.  the love letters that they read out to each other had me in tears.  It looks like they have made such positive progress, I really hope they continue with counselling.

#23 KT1978

Posted 07 March 2013 - 10:31 PM

With the young couple, yes he didn't priorities his wife but geez how demanding was she? Get a job, a friend a hobby and stop being so damn clingy! I can't believe they didn't say that to her, he made things worse by being late but so dd she by moping around with no life except for him.

#24 gabbigirl

Posted 08 March 2013 - 06:37 AM

QUOTE (KT1978 @ 07/03/2013, 10:31 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
With the young couple, yes he didn't priorities his wife but geez how demanding was she? Get a job, a friend a hobby and stop being so damn clingy! I can't believe they didn't say that to her, he made things worse by being late but so dd she by moping around with no life except for him.


Yes I totally agree. She very mu expected him to make up for the fact that she moved from Italy for him so did nothing for herself.  Sometimes I wanted to yell at her!

#25 bestnot

Posted 08 March 2013 - 05:03 PM

The show was quite short at just one hour a week for four weeks. They worked with the couples for eight weeks so I'd say it was heavily edited.




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