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#1 kpingitquiet

Posted 14 February 2013 - 04:41 PM

A comment on social media made me wonder, do Aussie men have a reputation for being unromantic? Is it true in your experience? To whom are they being compared? Do you really care at all? Maybe Aussie women are unromantic, too? biggrin.gif




To answer my own questions:

I have no idea, hence the topic.
No more or less so than with anyone else.
In my head, lots of Americans, a Canadian or two, a handful of Brits, and a Frenchman.
A little, yes. I like romance of a non-cheesy variety.
I'm not one so I have no idea!

#2 niggles

Posted 14 February 2013 - 04:45 PM

Not in my mind but I don't generally trust those kinds of generalisations. Romance is a little subjective anyway. There are some kinds of romance I would not welcome at all.

#3 statua angelam

Posted 14 February 2013 - 04:47 PM

I think they do have that reputation, a bit.  I don't have a wide experience, but what I notice is that the Australian culture as a whole is very practical and down-to-earth.  Things like spending money on flowers can seem like a waste when the flowers just die (something my DH said once; I thought he was spectacularly missing the point).

I also wonder if it's a bit of a class thing.  The grand romantic gestures surely were something done by men with leisure time and money, more than the working class guys who struggled to earn a living?

I think sometimes it's nice to be spoiled, just because.  Made to feel special.  Mostly in a happy marriage I don't think it's a big deal, but occasionally it can niggle.

#4 F1widow

Posted 14 February 2013 - 05:36 PM

QUOTE (niggles @ 14/02/2013, 05:45 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Not in my mind but I don't generally trust those kinds of generalisations. Romance is a little subjective anyway. There are some kinds of romance I would not welcome at all.


This.
I don't think "Aussie men" are anything.
Why must we do this to ourselves? You can't put people into a neat category based on sex, age, nationality, religion and its in very poor taste to try.

Edited by F1widow, 14 February 2013 - 05:37 PM.


#5 LynnyP

Posted 14 February 2013 - 05:42 PM

Quite possibly but romantic as defined by many is not appealing to me.

Adoration, objectification and pampering by expensive gifts is not my cup of tea.

Talking to me about things I find interesting, giving me space when I want it, touching me with respect and love on a daily basis - thats romantic.

But I am quite happy to compromise about a suprise trip to Paris.

#6 mad madam mim

Posted 14 February 2013 - 05:43 PM

Some people are some people aren't, I don't think DH and I are very romantic, more like horny teenagers that will do what they have to to get the job done lol.

#7 sa5ha

Posted 14 February 2013 - 05:45 PM

I don't think they have a reputation for being particularly romantic or unromantic in my mind.

Perhaps if you go with the idea of "an Aussie guy" being a bit of a Crocodile Dundee style bogan that stereotype might be valid.

But as far as the men I know - my fiance, my friends spouses and my male family members - I'd say they're a very romantic bunch. original.gif

#8 B.3

Posted 14 February 2013 - 06:12 PM

No idea because my DH is English. What I do know is that if he bought me flowers I'd kill him... what a waste of money!!

#9 WinterDancesHere

Posted 14 February 2013 - 06:23 PM

QUOTE (Bek+3 @ 14/02/2013, 07:12 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
No idea because my DH is English. What I do know is that if he bought me flowers I'd kill him... what a waste of money!!


I see flowers as a waste of money as well.

5 hours ago I would have said DH is as unromantic as they come, but he came home from work today, a little bit late, with a bunch of flowers he had made himself. When he finished work he went around his worksite, and for a bit of a bushwalk to find them for me.

It's been a rough weekand I was very happily surprised!

#10 kpingitquiet

Posted 14 February 2013 - 07:22 PM

QUOTE (F1widow @ 14/02/2013, 06:06 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I don't think "Aussie men" are anything.
Why must we do this to ourselves? You can't put people into a neat category based on sex, age, nationality, religion and its in very poor taste to try.

Oh I agree! I didn't even know there was a stereotype on this which is what prompted me to ask. After all, I've only ever been involved with one Aussie dude so figured maybe I was missing something.

I think sa5ha might be on to something with the Crocodile Dundee thing. Maybe a stoic outdoorsy stereotype strikes people as unromantic? I dunno. I married a semi-outdoorsy geek so meh.

I love getting flowers... but only the kind I can transplant biggrin.gif

#11 BobTony

Posted 14 February 2013 - 07:31 PM

No more or less than anyone else  biggrin.gif I'm with Bek+3 though, I'm no fan of cut flowers having read far too much about young South American children dying of respratory illnesses in their mid teens due to prolonged exposure to the chemicals used to grow flowers for the European market.

I always felt that dead child workers were really the very antithesis of romance, just quietly.

And while I know that we in Australia don't get huge amounts of flowers from overseas, it's an image that has stayed with me sad.gif

#12 bakesgirls

Posted 14 February 2013 - 07:34 PM

I think my DH is pretty romantic. Infact I had a thread a while back with a 'poem' he wrote me. He's more romantic than me, it didn't occur to me to get him anything other than a card today, but he went all out.

In general though, I don't think Aussie men are any more or less romantic than anyone else.

#13 niggles

Posted 14 February 2013 - 09:18 PM

QUOTE (WingBob @ 14/02/2013, 05:31 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
No more or less than anyone else  biggrin.gif I'm with Bek+3 though, I'm no fan of cut flowers having read far too much about young South American children dying of respratory illnesses in their mid teens due to prolonged exposure to the chemicals used to grow flowers for the European market.

I always felt that dead child workers were really the very antithesis of romance, just quietly.

And while I know that we in Australia don't get huge amounts of flowers from overseas, it's an image that has stayed with me sad.gif


We'll always have chocolate.

#14 Coffeegirl

Posted 14 February 2013 - 09:31 PM

I think the Canadians and Americans are bombarded with so many advertisments telling them that they have to buy this that or the other to prove their love at Valentines that they feel they are not part of society if they don't buy something.

I remember Valentines day stuff showing up in shops immediately after Christmas. Department stores sold packs of little Valentine cards that grade school kids gave each other.  We even made heart shaped envelopes in school so we could 'mail' them to each other.  Then Hallmark came up with Sweetest Day (in Sept/Oct). So they could sell more sappy romantic stuff.  

But it's not so commercialised here. Which I think is a good thing.  We shouldn't need to have a day that we show our love to our partners.  It should be done everyday.

#15 ~Supernova~

Posted 15 February 2013 - 04:06 AM

My DH is American, and he is no more or less romantic than most of my exes. I have only really been involved with two very romantic men, and they were both Australian. I hated it and it was smothering. I much prefer little random acts of affection (like DH bringing me home wine and chocolate when he knows I'm having a bad day) to big over the top displays of nauseating commercialism.

#16 BadCat

Posted 15 February 2013 - 12:38 PM

I'm not a fan of the contrived romantic gesture.  The chocolates and flowers on specified days seem forced and unnatural to me.

DH shows me his romantic side when he lets me stand under a shelter while he dashes to get the car in the rain,  when he wakes just enough to pull the covers open for me when I come to bed after him, when he gets a little catch in his voice when he's singing along with a love song and looks at me.

As for the rest of the Aussie male population?  Who knows?  I dare say there are plenty out there who are romantic in their own way, just as in any other articficial division of people.

Edited by O TheHugeManatee, 15 February 2013 - 12:39 PM.


#17 threeinnyc

Posted 15 February 2013 - 12:54 PM

I don't think so OP. Tough Aussies, yes, unromantic? No biggrin.gif

DH is very romantic and PIL also is; he still showers MIL with flowers even though they've been married for long time, he just loves her to bits just like DH to me. My cousin's DH who is French is nowhere near romantic. My sis's English husband is not that romantic. Well he used to apparently but after 4 kids not anymore according to my sis. Whilst mine has not changed  happy.gif




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