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#1 Academic

Posted 14 February 2013 - 02:07 PM

I don't have kids yet but hopefully they are in my future. I was just pondering where I grew up, where I live now and what I would want for my children. DH and I both grew up on the Gold Coast and hated it, except for the beaches (and our friends). We now live in inner-city Brisbane and love it. We've also lived in inner-city Sydney and inner-city London, and loved those too. So it's safe to say we're city people. Having said that, we're also both very comfortable in rural environments, quite interested in permaculture etc. For a lot of my friends, their ideal environment to raise kids would be the bush, where they have wide open spaces, get up close with nature, have a relaxed sort of environment etc. I think I'd actually like to raise my kids in the inner city, right where we are now. Our suburb has such a strong community, you can walk everywhere and there's always something to do. I would have loved to have grown up here.

I've decided my ideal would be having a main home in the city, and a holiday home in the bush - on acreage in Northern NSW, perhaps. And when I say holiday home, I mean a rustic cabin, or a yurt (I'm obsessed with yurts). It could be rented out at other times of the year and weekends we weren't using it. Best of both worlds!

(I know - wouldn't we all like a holiday home? I'm not saying it's realistic, just ideal! happy.gif)

If you were lucky enough to have the choice, what would be the ideal environment for your family? And is the same as the area you grew up in, or vastly different?

#2 cinnabubble

Posted 14 February 2013 - 02:09 PM

I would raise them as inner city as possible. I honestly don't understand why anybody would want to live anywhere else. I grew up in the dire suburbs and they scarred me for life.

#3 Feral Mozzie

Posted 14 February 2013 - 02:12 PM

Somewhere near the beach, with an inner city feel to it. Unfortunately, that's WAY put of our price range sad.gif.

#4 R2B2

Posted 14 February 2013 - 02:15 PM

in the country.
not too country though.
a nice medium sized town that has all the good facilities, but is small enough to feel "close knit"
or right where we are biggrin.gif they are happy and don't know the difference. we can take holidays to the country to visit family and get a "fresh air" fix original.gif

#5 Domestic Goddess

Posted 14 February 2013 - 02:20 PM

Not the same envirnonment. Not even the same country lol. I moved to Europe when I was a preschooler.

Anyway, I HATED living in a small, wet, cold and overcrowded country. We used to have 40 acres in Kurrajong NSW, so I got a major culture shock when moving onto a 450m2 block with a 2 story house.

This is why we moved back in 2003. I will never ever move to a crowded area (like one of the major cities in Australia)  again. I now live in the "burbs" up on the North Coast of NSW and its great for kids to live here. Beautiful beaches on 1 side, pristine rainforests on the other. All while still having the conveniences of a big city. Ie: buses, airport, harbour, shopping centers, etc.

#6 PrincessPeach

Posted 14 February 2013 - 02:24 PM

by the beach!

I've made the seachange to the Gold Coast from the suburbs & am loving every minute of it.

#7 mel43

Posted 14 February 2013 - 02:33 PM

I've lived in the mountains my entire life. I can't imagine being happy anywhere else.
My kids have also lived here their entire lives (obviously) and they're pretty happy too.

#8 Ally'smum

Posted 14 February 2013 - 02:40 PM

QUOTE (cinnabubble @ 14/02/2013, 02:09 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I would raise them as inner city as possible. I honestly don't understand why anybody would want to live anywhere else. I grew up in the dire suburbs and they scarred me for life.



I hated our suburb and even now when I visit my parents I wonder why anyone would live there, as a teenager I dreamed of living inner city, that's where I moved when I out and no amount of living space or media rooms would get me back to the outer suburbs!

#9 wish*upon*a*star

Posted 14 February 2013 - 02:40 PM

DH and I grew up in a large country town and this is where we plan to raise DD

#10 Feral Grey Mare

Posted 14 February 2013 - 02:41 PM

As mine ride horses/motorbikes I would love to have lived in the country when they were younger (now 14 & 18). I grew up in a small country town and loved it. Moving was not really an option as DHs job does not really come up very often in rural areas.
In an ideal world where money was no object I would have liked country acres, a beachouse and a flat bang in the middle of Sydney CBD.

#11 skylark

Posted 14 February 2013 - 02:42 PM

We've made the decision to go with the Gold Coast for our permanent home. Right on the beach, perfect for us. We were in Bondi before and also Elwood in Melbourne, but Burleigh Heads is where we are happiest. I think the vibe/scene around here has come a LONG way from what it was like when op grew up here, even in the 7 years since we first came up here it has changed hugely (once the options for lunch in burleigh were 3 pie shops and a Subway, now there is a wealth of awesome options and the one remaining pie shop is barely clinging to life). The train to brisbane is an hour if you are in need of more culture than is available here, and the lifestyle is fantastic.  The outdoors/sport/beach lifestyle is what we had growing up, and what we want for our son too.

#12 More than a Mother

Posted 14 February 2013 - 02:49 PM

I've actually been leaning towards moving this week.

We have a new build on an average sized block in the suburbs and I'm not happy.

I'd like to move into the hills onto an acre block, with trees and somewhere for our son to explore, have a dog etc. I'm a farm girl, and while I couldn't live on a farm again, having neighbours in a suburb with no character isn't my ideal for our son.

#13 starseed

Posted 14 February 2013 - 02:55 PM

I grew up on the Gold Coast and left to go solo overseas at 19 - couldn't wait to get away! Now after living in the suburbs of Melbourne for the past 14 years I am dying to get back to the Gold Coast to bring my DD up with the out-doorsy beach lifestyle. I want her to do nippers and for us to have the luxury of a backyard pool and have beach bbq's every weekend. Fantastic weather, superb beaches. Heaven!

QUOTE (skylark @ 14/02/2013, 03:42 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
We've made the decision to go with the Gold Coast for our permanent home. Right on the beach, perfect for us. We were in Bondi before and also Elwood in Melbourne, but Burleigh Heads is where we are happiest. I think the vibe/scene around here has come a LONG way from what it was like when op grew up here, even in the 7 years since we first came up here it has changed hugely (once the options for lunch in burleigh were 3 pie shops and a Subway, now there is a wealth of awesome options and the one remaining pie shop is barely clinging to life). The train to brisbane is an hour if you are in need of more culture than is available here, and the lifestyle is fantastic.  The outdoors/sport/beach lifestyle is what we had growing up, and what we want for our son too.


I agree Skylark- Burleigh is rockin' these days- I love all the little boutiques, cafe's and bars. The alternative therapies, holistic health & yoga industries are booming up there and this all really interests me too. The GC has come a long way! It would be my pick.

#14 YodaTheWrinkledOne

Posted 14 February 2013 - 03:32 PM

QUOTE (Academic @ 14/02/2013, 02:07 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
If you were lucky enough to have the choice, what would be the ideal environment for your family? And is the same as the area you grew up in, or vastly different?

Major regional town that is only an 1-2 hours from a capital city.

And that's where we live.  Love it!

If it were just DH and I, no kids - back in inner Sydney.  Upon saying that, even once the kids grow up and leave home, I don't think we'd move back there now.

#15 Ireckon

Posted 14 February 2013 - 03:42 PM

We did this too. 2 hrs from the centre of Sydney. 30 minutes from town, great school, great people, and room for the kids to run.

This is perfect for us. For some, the country air is just not kosher.

#16 steppy

Posted 14 February 2013 - 03:44 PM

I think these days I'd prefer the city. There's so much censure for letting your kids do anything by themselves or go outside and all those kind of things. If my kids can't roam free like wild creatures, then they may as well be where the indoor supervised activities are frequent and available

#17 FeralLIfeHacker

Posted 14 February 2013 - 03:50 PM

In an ideal world I would love my kids to grow up in the country or at least not in a city.  We are working on it.  

I would not want my kids to grow up where dh and I did.  It wouldn't be the worst thing in the world but there certainly are a lot better places.



#18 Ianthe

Posted 14 February 2013 - 03:55 PM

I guess it is similar although we moved out of Sydney to get it. And we are near the beach. I love it. It's a really nice laid back lifestyle but it isn't too far to head to Sydney for any major events. I could not live in Sydney again, the traffic drives me mental. Locally it doesn't take me any longer than 10 minutes to drive anywhere we need to go on a day to day basis. We have an excellent public primary school and private highschool and they are a 2 minute drive. My kids go out and play out the front with the neighbour kids. I love that.

#19 LovingTheBeach

Posted 14 February 2013 - 03:57 PM

DH and  I both grew up in a large regional town and are still here with our baby, intending to stay for the foreseeable future. To me it's perfect as only a couple of hours outside the city for semi-regular trips but the feel of the country which I loved growing up! I don't think I would cope with city traffic

#20 againagain

Posted 14 February 2013 - 04:07 PM

I'm in the outer suburbs of a capital city, I would much prefer to be a little further out. 3-5 acres would be ideal.

Problem is, that is what I had always envisioned for my kids, but as time has gone on I feel like I can't do it to them. They are happy and settled at school, they love the area, they are involved in local sporting clubs and have friends in the streets surrounding us. They are not country kids, or even semi-country kids. They are children of the suburbs and this is where they are happy.

It kills me that we will never go now  sad.gif  I'm working on letting the dream go, as the only person it would seem to benefit now is me.

ETA I grew up in very remote country and then moved a couple of times to larger regional towns (still not huge though). I loved the environment but hated moving, which is why I am so reluctant to move my kids when they are so happy.

Edited by againagain, 14 February 2013 - 04:08 PM.


#21 Guest_Sunnycat_*

Posted 14 February 2013 - 04:08 PM

I want my kids to grow up in the inner city or a big city like London, Melbourne or Sydney or in a semi rural area close to a big town centre. It's never going to happen though.

I have lived in Perth suburbs for over 20 years and I hate it, but I do actually think it's a nice place to raise kids. It's a shame I'm still here and didn't ever manage to escape for a bit before settling down.

I'm seriously considering a move to Melbourne or Sydney in the next couple of years but I think that would break my parents heart as they would be devastated to be away from their grandchildren.

#22 Kay1

Posted 14 February 2013 - 04:16 PM

QUOTE
I would raise them as inner city as possible. I honestly don't understand why anybody would want to live anywhere else. I grew up in the dire suburbs and they scarred me for life.


I love the inner city too and lived there for many years pre kids. But we love the space our suburb offers. We love our big(ger) house, large backyard, having direct access from our garden into a park. Very green, leafy school environment, no traffic or parking hassles. We have lots of parks and national parks to choose from within a few minutes drive and we can get into the city in 25-30 minutes so we still do lots of museums, outings in the city etc.

#23 Feral timtam

Posted 14 February 2013 - 04:27 PM

Right where we are biggrin.gif

We have a rambling old Queenslander on a bit over 1 acre just outside of Ipswich. The house is right on the train line, I can be on the platform between the time the boom gates drop and the train stops! We've got a lovely park not even 5 minutes walk from the house and good, cheap schools within 4km of the house. On a nice day I've been taking DS1 to kindy by train and walking home.

The weather is pleasant most of the year, the kids have room to roam, the neighbours are lovely and it's such a safe neighbourhood that a lot of people don't lock their houses.

We would like something a bit better laid out and are tossing up between getting the house removed and rebuilding or having someone in to do modifications on the current building.

#24 MintyBiscuit

Posted 14 February 2013 - 04:35 PM

Where we are is ideal. It's outer suburbs, but close enough to the city that we can get in there pretty often. We have a huge yard, loads of space, parklands across the road so lots of room for riding bikes and playgrounds and picnics and bushwalking and all that fun stuff. DH and I loved living in the city, and have always said we'll retire to Surry Hills, but for bringing up kids I like the 'burbs.

I grew up in the 'burbs but in dodgier areas than where we live now. DH moved all around the country (army kid) but almost always in suburban areas.

#25 FiveAus

Posted 14 February 2013 - 04:41 PM

I raised my kids in the same town I lived in most of my life....a large country town 2 hours from the city. It was fine, but now I live 15 minutes from there, in a tiny rural village and I absolutely love it. Would have loved to raise kids out here, they'd have had a whole different upbringing. However, at least one of my kids would probably have hated it. She lives in the city now.

My husband was born and raised in San Francisco and says he loves inner city life. When he speaks like that I look at him in absolute horror. The only thing I can think of that would be worse is the suburbs.

He assures me that he's very happy where we are though.




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