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What do you do during your hospital stay?
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Posted 13 February 2013 - 07:39 PM
When I had DD I went private and had a 5 day hospital stay. I don't think I made the most of it- I got up and showered pretty much straight away every day and then sort of tried to do 'stuff'. I didn't rest much and ended up sick and exhausted when I got home and my stitches burst whilst in hospital - probably because I was moving around too much.
I am due to give birth again this year and plan to do things differently. I will go private again so I am wondering - what do you do during your hospital stay? Do you stay in your PJs all day, stay in bed, watch tv? I need lessons in relaxation! I felt like I had to get up, get showered and get dressed because of all the cleaners, food staff and nurses coming and going all day.
Posted 13 February 2013 - 07:55 PM
I showered, but put on tracky and soft tops. I did private for my second and tbh, once they realised I knew what I was doing and didnt need help, I was lucky to see them once or twice a day, especially towards the end of the stay.
DH and I just hung out, took bubs for a bit of a walk around the ward, watched TV, ate and I read when he would go home.
Was very nice.
Oh they also had me tucked away into a back corner, so I think that helped with the peace and quiet too.
Posted 13 February 2013 - 07:57 PM
With my second (my first was far from normal after birth hospital stay.) I still got up each morning and had a shower and got dressed after I had breakfast otherwise I felt yuck - but then I found in the first week after birth I had about 3 showers a day anyway.
Then I spent my day watching TV, sleeping and reading. I found with my second I only had 2 visitors over 5 days, so didn't have to entertain whereas my first I had about 15 visitors in the first 12 hours before finding out how sick my son was and we were transferred.
Only work I did was tend to Ben if he woke up and wanted a feed or needed a nappy change, otherwise he pretty much just slept, sometimes when he was awake I would lay him on my bed and just talk and stare at him and enjoy it. For the first 3 nights the nurses even took him for me so I could sleep - so I really relaxed.
Also the hospital offered a candle light dinner one night of your stay with your partner, had a fancy menu to choose from, they would take the baby if you wanted and yes you ate at a nice table done up and brought in with 2 candles. It also included a bunch of flowers and a card to go with the teddy they gave on the first day.
I treated it like a hotel stay really, didn't clean my room or make my bed, they did that. Just sat and ate and slept. It was bliss.
Posted 13 February 2013 - 08:01 PM
I liked getting up and sorted in the morning. This took ages because of pain from c-section. Then the rest of the day would pretty much be a blur of feeds, crying baby, expressing, sterilising, feeding, expressing, sterilising, crying (me as well as him)....repeat. Last baby I did get to watch the Olympics while doing all this....and I saw it all, there was no sleeping LOL.
In all three stays there was a moment when I lost my shiz in the nursery and just broke down sobbing and begged them to have him for just one hour so I could sleep.
But I believe my experience is not the norm and that some newborns actually sleep a fair bit.
Edited by Kay1, 13 February 2013 - 08:04 PM.
Posted 13 February 2013 - 08:10 PM
DD1 was a c/s so spent a bit of time getting over pain, learning to breastfeed and all the new baby stuff.
DD2 was fantastic, was only in for about 36hrs but basically slept and feed DD the whole time. I did get up and dressed tho. Nursing staff mostly left me alone when they realised I had some idea of what I was doing and only came in if I buzzed them. Best day and a half ever.
DD3 I only spent just over 24hrs in. I'd been so looking forward to spending a couple of days in hospital relaxing and just worrying about new bub, however, the maternity unit hadn't had a baby in just over a week before DD3 was born (small rural hospital, had 3 babies in the day after I went home), so the nursing staff kept wanting to "do something" for me, when all I wanted to do was sleep and feed! So I went home the next day, disappointed not to have my 2 days of doing nothing!!
Posted 13 February 2013 - 09:40 PM
DS1 - hand expressed, then pump expressed and tried to feed up my little 2.5kg boy. I was desperate to fatten him up, and he was slow and sleepy. I did snooze in the afternoons. Always had a shower and dressed in comfortable day clothes.
DS2 - BFing was easier. Showered every morning, comfy day clothes. When not looking after DS, I snoozed or watched TV. DH was with me a lot of the time so sometimes we chatted, and DS1 visited us every day for an hour or so. Still got home feeling sufficiently rested.
Each time, I've only sent them to the nursery for one 3-hour stint about 24 hours after the c/s, when I hit a wall and was afraid I'd drop them and needed the sleep. Felt guilty both times.
Posted 13 February 2013 - 10:56 PM
I had a CS with DS, so couldn't move around too much at first. I showered and dressed in my comfy maternity clothes, then pretty much spent all my time focussing on breastfeeding - getting DS to have a go, expressing with a pump, expressing by hand with a nurse 'catching' drops of milk with a syringe (!). DH was with me all day and we'd sit and chat and he'd feed me my meals, as DS was on the breast pretty much every time my food came! I didn't have the TV on at all and was pretty exhausted from a very long pre-labour and active labour, so wasn't too hard to just chill out.
Posted 14 February 2013 - 01:57 PM
With my first I thought it was going to be a nice time with visitors and having new baby. I went private on a very busy weekend in September where it seemed all of Sydney was having babies. We were overwhelmed with visitors in the first 48 hours and exhausted. Ds1 was a screamer so no sleep. I had no time for more than a quick shower mornin and night. Bf was a disaster because I was so tired and a horrid dose of third day blues. I was happy to go home frankly.
2nd time very different birth and we had ds1 at home. I got up and showered every morning, and focuses on bfing, and trying to relax as much a possible. He slept more so I was better rested on coming home. But I was lonely in hospital, the midwives still gave a plethora of conflicting advice, and I found being cooped up just as awful as the first time. I discharged myself after 3 days...I missed Dh and ds1 I'm used to noise and people, and I told visitors to stay away so I was actually pretty lonely
Posted 14 February 2013 - 04:35 PM
With DS I ended up spending almost two weeks at a public hospital, due to pre-eclampsia and a c-section, so I was well and truly over it by the end!
Before DS arrived, I spent my time lounging around and reading Agatha Christies, which was lovely! My DH also brought around lots of chocolate and Grapetiser to offset the bland food!
After DS came it was a blur, but I spent a lot of time seeing the in-hospital lactation consultant (I needed a nipple shield and practice with attachment), which I found really useful when I got home.
I didn't end up having any visitors apart from family, as I was doped up on pain killers and feeding DS every three hours, so that took the pressure off having to be presentable and sociable!
It's hard to relax in a hospital though, too much noise and bright light. I did enjoy having a shower first thing, so that I felt nice and clean and then wearing comfy stretchy clothing or pyjamas all day. If I have another baby, I will be bringing in lots of trashy magazines! Good luck with your impending birth!
Posted 14 February 2013 - 04:43 PM
I'm not very good at doing nothing but my second time around a very lovely, very firmly reassuring midwife talked through with me the details of my labour the next day and insisted I cancel or put off afternoon visitors and rest. She reminded me that my body had been through a great deal and needed the chance to recover. She also firmly encouraged me to sleep every afternoon. I'm really glad I took her advice. Those first few days went quite smoothly for me and the baby, with me making every effort to get that regular rest.
I showered, dressed comfortably and got back into bed each morning with baby in reach. I sat up for lunch and then stayed horizontal and slept for the afternoon (that really does help take the pressure off wounds and swelling). I'd freshen up when they came around with afternoon tea and then hop back into bed sitting up for visitors through the evening. I'd then shower again and potter quietly - TV, reading - before the late evening feed and then go to sleep.
Posted 14 February 2013 - 04:49 PM
DS1- I got the bounty bag straight after the birth so between my very few visitors I alternated between reading bounty bag items and sleeping. I'm not a TV watcher, I was in there 3 days and went insane from boredom.
DD- Again stuck in that hell hole for 3 days. I had a substantial bleed after her so wasn't strong enough to wander far from the bed. I didn't get the bounty bag until I was discharged, I hadn't packed a book, DH kept forgetting to put one in the car for me and had the room to myself. My phone had been left behind so I couldn't even play games on that. By the end of the first day I was begging to get discharged even though I was in no fit state to go home!
DS2- I managed to get early discharge! I showered, got dressed, fed DS2, had a sleep and they gave the go ahead for me to go home.
I hate being in hospital. The food was decent, nurses were lovely but I am claustrophobic and a very private person. If I don't get a room with a window to myself I start to get rather panicky. I'm also not a TV person and if I don't have a good supply of books and puzzles I go insane.
Posted 14 February 2013 - 05:00 PM
I think second time around you're more relaxed in general, I found I definately was. What do you enjoy? A good book? A soppy movie? Prepare yourself with whatever you enjoy.
The things I did with DS I didn't do with DD - watched movies, had 2 massages (bliss!!) went for walks outside, went out for lunch, even got a pedicure! With DD I was more focused on learning how to care for her, utilizing the lactation consultant a lot! I didn't have as much time to relax.
I would get up and shower or have a spa in the morning just to feel clean, did at night too. Put on comfy clothes, nothing too fancy. Then just relax, put my feet up a lot as I had swelling, enjoyed the classes, got a lot from physio ones, just enjoyed the time knowing I didn't have to cook or clean!!
Posted 18 February 2013 - 02:26 PM
I have been in hospital and have made the most of it.
I do get up around 7 ish have a shower, get dressed, eat and have a coffee.
I spend the day feeding bub(bottle feeding plus expessing) so it's spaced out and resting while he's asleep which has been the whole time. I watch tv, enjoy the visiting times or use my iPad.
I have2 other kids so enjoy the break from the chaos at home.
5 days I'm over it though
Posted 18 February 2013 - 02:32 PM
Second time around hubby stayed two nights, I was alone with my daughter for the other three nights. I just watched TV, read magazines, messed about on the iPad, slept and recovered. I also only had immediate family visit so as to optimize rest time before going home with a newborn to my 18mth old
Posted 18 February 2013 - 02:47 PM
I was a private patient but in a public hospital in my own room with both boys who were c-sections.
I was in 5 days and we paid for DH to stay over night so he was there the entire time. I wore soft yoga pants and a comfy roomy exercise top as I felt a bit blerg just being in pj's. I did do hair and makeup everyday to make myself feel a bit nice too.
I spent most of the time lying or sitting in the bed or chair, talking to DH and visitors, read books, played games, checked emails Facebook etc on my phone, browsed magazines DH brought up from the hospital news agency. I took everything really easy and it was over 30 hours after both ops before I was told to get out of bed and shower. It then was another day before I could slowly shuffle to the bathroom without help. I was very conscious of my insicion and did everything slowly and took it easy. I knew I wouldn't have that luxury when I got home do I made use of all the help.
Edited by blue4me, 18 February 2013 - 02:50 PM.
Posted 18 February 2013 - 03:10 PM
DD - in for 3 days, public hospital but entire 4 bed room to myself. Aside from learning how to bathe her, bf and so on I was bored silly for most of it, would leave her sleeping with the nurses while I nicked off to the shop and even went out to see friends. Pestered the nurses to let me go home pretty well daily until I'd nagged them into acquiescence.
DS - in for 3 days again, private hospital own room with DH. Aside from visitors and getting bf sorted, we'd brought my laptop and a wireless internet connection for entertainment and access to the outside world, and even then I was climbing the walls to go home by the end of day 2. Would've left earlier but the painkillers wore off and I was a bit sore.
This time - planning to only be in overnight, or for the day if a morning birth. I hate hospitals.
Posted 18 February 2013 - 03:35 PM
I enjoyed the peace and quiet, well as much as you can on a maternity ward. I had visitors drop in but I liked having time with DD without the distractions of tv, cleaning, cooking etc. DH bought the laptop in so I spend some time on that and taking lots of photos of DD. I wanted to stay longer but that was mostly because MIL and FIL were staying at my house (univited )
Posted 19 February 2013 - 01:43 PM
I was lucky my hospital has a 'little luxuries' program where they move you to a hotel after a night or two if all goes well. It was bliss- we had ocean views, two queen beds, DH stayed with me the whole time and there was a special room service menu which was delicious. There are midwives there 24/7 and they come to check on you at regular intervals or if you call but otherwise they leave you to relax. And that's pretty much what I did, in between visitors. I had magazines to read and eBooks on my iPHone.
I am due with #2 in April and hoping so much that I get to go to the hotel again. I think we will bring DS though as I want him to feel part of everything and bond with his new sibling, so perhaps it wont be quite as relaxing as last time although I will have lots of family around to take him on excursions if he needs to get out, and he sleeps pretty well so hopefully it can be a mini holiday for all of us.
This post did make me think about the fact that I need to make sure I relax though, before we get home and the chaos escalates!!
Posted 19 February 2013 - 11:09 PM
With all three I was home within 24hrs, I go a bit stir crazy and start missing the kids at home.
This time though I might stay a day depending on how it all goes and how I feel afterwards, if anything like the last two I will be up and walking around as soon as I'm allowed. After having ds1 I showered while DP joined him down to scn, fresh out of the shower and the midwife asked if I wanted to see him and my eyes lit up and i said yes, so she told me she would organise a wheelchair, then looked shocked when I asked if I could just walk there. If he hadn't been in scn for a few hours we would have been home that evening.
Some times a break is great other times you just want out of there. I was a up in the morning shower, and dress and bug each nurse that came near me for when I could go home.
Posted 19 February 2013 - 11:29 PM
I was in for 5 days. I watched quite a few shows on Youtube and also had a reasonable amount of visitors, as DS was born 3 days before Christmas, so lots of people were off work. I didn't find the visitors intrusive as the hospital had pretty strict visiting hours (DH could room in though, private hospital)
I did shower and make-up every day, but mainly because the rest of me looked so blergh and it was nice to have a bit of normality up top when I'd been living in jersey shorts and Tshirts for days and had frozen surfboards in my undies.
TBH the last couple of days I was bored sh*tless. DS was under lights for jaundice and was sleeping most of the time that he wasn't feeding, there was nothing good on TV because it was Christmas and I had no library books. If I get to do it again, I'll remember some good books at least. I was also a little bummed at missing Christmas Day lunch although my family came in in the morning to do presents. I did get a couple of hours out to go to a Boxing Day BBQ, but by the time they said DS was OK to go, I was raring to get out of there!
Posted 20 February 2013 - 01:00 AM
This time I birthed at night, so showered, at dinner and slept/breastfed.
Next day I showered, ate, facebooked, introduced DS to DD and my mums and sisters and slept.
Then I went home
I was in for a month with DD, so wasnt staying a moment longer than necessary
Posted 20 February 2013 - 03:20 AM
The first 24 hours I couldn't get out of bed, when I did I showered then just relaxed with my little guy.
We had a few visitors but mostly I stayed in bed, I wore comfy yoga pants and a singlet top. DS slept a lot, so while he slept, so did I.
I stayed at a nice hospital so enjoyed the food, my OB sent someone to give me a foot massage, I felt pretty chilled out the whole time. I didn't want to go home.
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