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#1 fruitbat72

Posted 13 February 2013 - 06:56 PM

Sorry a bit detailed here. Our house has supposedly 3 bedrooms - 2 decent sized ones and one VERY small room.

DSD (11) and DD1 (6) shared one of the bigger rooms when DH and DSD moved in. When DD2 was born, she was initially in with us until we decided that she would move in with DD1 and DSD could have the smaller bedroom to herself.

DD1 refuses to sleep alone and has been sleeping with DSD in her room. We cannot convince her to stay in her own bed and it has been this way for about 6 months.
DH and I were talking and we think it may be best if DSD and DD1 share a room again (bunks) and DD2 gets the small bedroom.

This is all fine but DSD really likes having her own room even though it is TINY, smells and you can barely swing a cat in it. She would have more space in the shared bedroom and could hang up her clothes - currently they are bunched up at the end of her bed.  

DH and I want to do this but we don't want to upset DSD too much as she is getting to an age where her own space is important. We are hoping to renovate in the next few years so this is not a permanent solution.

What do you think?

#2 hiddensecrets

Posted 13 February 2013 - 07:01 PM

Is DD1 really sleeping alone with DD2 in her room?  Maybe a double bed for the DD's to share might stop her from feeling scared??

#3 twinboys

Posted 13 February 2013 - 07:07 PM

I would let DSD clearly know the options.
Talk about how the bigger shared room would be set out and let he have some input into how the room could be done.

Or let her have the smaller room with less options - but she will have made the choice.

Can the 2 younger children share a room so your 6 yr old still has a room buddy?

#4 EssentialBludger

Posted 13 February 2013 - 07:18 PM

I would let DSD keep her own room. 11 is heading on for the teenage years where they want their space and privacy, even if it is only a small space. I would hate to share with a 6yo if I were 11.

Why does it smell? Does it have windows?

#5 fruitbat72

Posted 13 February 2013 - 07:25 PM

DD1 just informed me that her bedroom is now for visitors and she doesn't sleep in that bed anymore.

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If it was me, I would rather have a shared bigger room. There are windows which she inexplicably keeps closed - go figure. It is very stuffy in there as well - I used it as a study and thought it was horrible.

I think we will talk with her about it and see what we can offer her - maybe a new wall colour or something. I am heavily into bribery at the moment.

#6 lunariviera

Posted 13 February 2013 - 08:21 PM

It might have to be some pretty awesome bribery!

Have you considered if all three could share the big room and DSD could have a study for a bit of privacy?  Three beds sounds like a lot in one room, but my nephew was in a smallish cot until 27 months at which time you could rethink the situation.




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