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#1 Guest_~Coffee~_*

Posted 13 February 2013 - 11:55 AM


Edited by *SnowFlower*, 18 February 2013 - 07:41 PM.

#2 QueenIanthe

Posted 13 February 2013 - 11:58 AM

Maybe they have to drop other kids off? Maybe they have to get to work?

It wouldn't occur to me to hang around at the bus stop.

#3 niggles

Posted 13 February 2013 - 12:00 PM

Hmm. I don't know. I walked to school from the day I started school and caught the bus alone (after walking to the bus stop) from an early age too. It never seemed too big an ask when I was living it and there were always older kids around. The most my parents did was always check I had coins in my pocket for the pay phone. Maybe some people don't view the world as being quite as big and bad as others?

It's not something I'd be comfortable with myself despite never worrying about it as a kid.

#4 ~sydblue~

Posted 13 February 2013 - 12:03 PM

I walk DD to the bus stop. On the occasion her sister has a day off, she walks her and I sit on my cushy bed and watch them behave themselves over there.
There are a couple of kids who also sometimes catch the same bus. 1 whose mother or older sister has to sometimes physically push or lift her onto the bus. The other 2 are in years 1 & 2.
I take the home phone with me(has great range) so that if the bus doesn't turn up or it drives past, I ring the bus company and complain. It usually comes back around with a couple of minutes.
I would hate though for a parent to do a drop and run of a little one and the bus not turn up.
The most my parents did was always check I had coins in my pocket for the pay phone.

We have 1 payphone and that is about 15mins walk up the road and in the opposite direction to the school.

Edited by ~sydblue~, 13 February 2013 - 12:05 PM.

#5 Guest_~Coffee~_*

Posted 13 February 2013 - 12:05 PM


Edited by *SnowFlower*, 21 February 2013 - 04:10 AM.

#6 niggles

Posted 13 February 2013 - 12:07 PM

QUOTE (~sydblue~ @ 13/02/2013, 10:03 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
We have 1 payphone and that is about 15mins walk up the road and in the opposite direction to the school.

Yes. It's a very different world. When I was a kid you never had to look far for a pay phone.

#7 protart roflcoptor

Posted 13 February 2013 - 12:08 PM

QUOTE (~Coffee~ @ 13/02/2013, 12:05 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Nope they all drive back home again.

How do you know this? If you can see them do this perhaps they can see the bus stop from their house?

Or perhaps they are just nasty cows and have to rush back home to post on EB?

#8 orangepeanut

Posted 13 February 2013 - 12:08 PM

I 'dump and run' as you put it with my daughter. We park in a carpark that the bus stop is in front of and she walks to the bus stop. Then I leave so I can get to work.
There are approx 20 kids waiting all ranging in ages. If every single parent parked and waited there would surely be a traffic jam.
I too care about my childs safety but I live in the real world

#9 Xiola

Posted 13 February 2013 - 12:10 PM

I've got a friend who's a single mum who has to do this with her 8 year old DD so she can get to work on time.  It breaks her heart everyday but her DD has a mobile to text her when she's safely at school.  Maybe try not to judge everyone original.gif

#10 kpingitquiet

Posted 13 February 2013 - 12:10 PM

Dunno. My friends and I were waiting at the bus stop alone from around 1st or 2nd grade so I guess I probably wouldn't judge others for letting their kids do the same. There were enough of us that I don't remember ever having to wait alone.

#11 Guest_~Coffee~_*

Posted 13 February 2013 - 12:10 PM


Edited by *SnowFlower*, 20 February 2013 - 04:07 PM.

#12 wannabe30

Posted 13 February 2013 - 12:11 PM

Because they are trying to teach their child independence?

No one asked you to "babysit".

#13 Guest_~Coffee~_*

Posted 13 February 2013 - 12:13 PM


Edited by *SnowFlower*, 20 February 2013 - 04:06 PM.

#14 bakesgirls

Posted 13 February 2013 - 12:13 PM

I'm talking about the parents that drop their kids at the bus stop and then drive off straight after, no staying to make sure they are ok or the bus turns up etc. I have seen this happen time and time again even with kindergarten children. As sometimes the only adult at the bus stop it p*sses me off that apparently I am the babysitter for all the kids, should an emergency happen or the bus doesn't turn up. I stay because my child is only 9 and I value his safety. If anything did happen of course I would help all of the kids and have helped some in the past. But WHY do so many parents just dump and run?. It is irresponsible to say the least.

I don't see an issue with it. Surely the parents are capable of deciding what their children are capable of. You are the one who has decided that you are the 'babysitter' for the kids. No one is forcing you into that position. As for your insinuation that you must care more for your childs safety than other parents care for their kids, because you choose to stay, well all I have to say about that, is get off your high horse. You have no idea about other people personal circumstances. Most parents are doing the best they can for their kids with whatever circumstances they have.

#15 steppy

Posted 13 February 2013 - 12:16 PM

I don't think anything of it really.

#16 Guest_~Coffee~_*

Posted 13 February 2013 - 12:18 PM


Edited by *SnowFlower*, 20 February 2013 - 04:06 PM.

#17 Feraldadathome

Posted 13 February 2013 - 12:18 PM

DP drops DS9 at the bus stop each morning and then crosses the road to the railway station. We wouldn't do it with DS5.

#18 FiveAus

Posted 13 February 2013 - 12:19 PM

Children have the capacity to get extremely distressed anywhere. They don't need adult supervision every second of the day though.

I used to drop my kids off and go to work. If I'd stayed, I'd have been late and they'd have been annoyed.

#19 mrsmuffintop

Posted 13 February 2013 - 12:19 PM

I don't even drop my kid at the bus stop. She walks there herself.

#20 Mozzie1

Posted 13 February 2013 - 12:21 PM

QUOTE (wannabe30 @ 13/02/2013, 01:11 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Because they are trying to teach their child independence?

No one asked you to "babysit".

This. I believe not allowing your children independence is as big, if not bigger, a parenting sin compared to 'not caring about their safetly'.

#21 kpingitquiet

Posted 13 February 2013 - 12:21 PM

Hmm... bus not turning up = walk home? go to a neighbors? use the phone half the kids seem to carry from birth, now? wait for the next one?

How do you know what contingency plans they've worked out with their children?

#22 BadCat

Posted 13 February 2013 - 12:23 PM

What do I think of them?  I think they are people who make choices to suit their own family without reference to you.  I doubt they consider you a babysitter when they see you sitting there.  In fact I doubt they think about you at all.

#23 niggles

Posted 13 February 2013 - 12:24 PM

When I was 9 I used to have to catch the bus through a city. On the way home it would stop at the train station for exactly 3 minutes. If you were quick, and the lines weren't long and you had 20 cents you could get to the shop and back with 4 little strawberry candies in packets. They were the bomb.

If you took too long you'd have to race the bus to the next stop. The bus had to go around the block and you could cut through the car park.

If you took too long even for that someone would throw your school bag out the bus window at the next stop for you as the bus pulled out so it would be waiting for you. Then you'd have to walk around to another stop and wait for the next bus and catch that instead to get yourself home.

I was just an average kid. Somehow I don't think we give kids these days enough credit. Or maybe just not enough practise.

#24 76 others

Posted 13 February 2013 - 12:25 PM

I think nothing if it. If they're in the same estate the child can walk home if the bus doesn't come.

I hate when other parents expect others to adhere to their standards.

#25 bakesgirls

Posted 13 February 2013 - 12:26 PM

QUOTE (~Coffee~ @ 13/02/2013, 12:13 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Would you like your child to be left extremely distressed at a bus stop when you knew an adult was there that could help them?. It's called a conscience and being a good person.

So what, you hang around because of the slight chance that some child may become distressed about something? People who chose not to hang around or have things to do, places to be are now considered as having no conscience and are bad people? rolleyes.gif

Actually my point was that people don't seem to think about what their child would do or what would happen to them in an emergency or the bus not turning up. So get off your high horse

Actually, I think you'll find that parents who do this, do worry about what may happen and have most likely discussed this with their kids as well as what the kids should do if something happens.. As for me up on my high horse, it's not me judging the personal situations of people I don't know, and insinuating that I care more for my childs safety than other parents care for theirs. That's all you.

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