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#1 Chelli

Posted 13 February 2013 - 09:15 AM

Hi Ladies,
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#2 clarisse83

Posted 13 February 2013 - 09:43 AM

GOLD!!!

#3 pixii

Posted 13 February 2013 - 09:57 AM

Hi Ladies

K I really hope the clot resolves itself and I think it will. Its nice to know other women here have had the same thing and it has taken care of itself in time. FX for you lovey and lots of sticky baby dust for you.  I just know everything will work out for you.

Dreaming, Wishing, chelby, glamour and Wishfully and any other lovely pregnant lady here I hope your pregnancies are progressing wonderfully. I look forward very much to reading all your updates. I know what I have to look forward to reading them.

Please do make sure you stick around here as you really do give us all hope that we too can go on to have a little one.

Ally I am really sorry this has happened to your relative. I have had similar feelings to you and its normal to feel that way after having a loss like we have and in no way are you responsible for what happened to her. She will probably really need your support right now and you are probably the perfect person to help her through this if she needs it. My heart goes out to her and to you also because I know how bad your feeling as well.

KLR glad you had a great scan that is wonderful. It must be very exciting for you now original.gif

Ella hope everything is going ok do let us know

FX that all you lovely ladies who have specialist apps this month wont need them xx

I know I have missed some of you but just so you know I am thinking of you all I am just finding it hard to catch up on the posts right now

AFM well still no AF for me I am cd31 now and perhaps my cycle is a little messed up because of the last two months.  I even BD last night in the hope it would bring on AF as it usually seems to if I am due lol

I hate this waiting game. Just get a move on AF and come will you so I can start again jeez!

#4 2puzzled

Posted 13 February 2013 - 10:06 AM

I call silver for Pixii. (and I hear you about waiting for AF - so frustrating!)

Bronze for me original.gif

#5 pixii

Posted 13 February 2013 - 10:36 AM

oops sorry I am not up with the procedure, good thing I am silver as gold does not suit me lol

OMG AF must have heard me she just arrived wohooo!

Edited by pixii, 13 February 2013 - 10:54 AM.


#6 Schmig

Posted 13 February 2013 - 11:29 AM

K- rest up and look after yourself. I hope it resolves very soon for you.

Hello everyone.

Today I'm feeling very emotional and upset for some reason. It is testing day tomorrow so I guess I am just getting upset in readiness for another BFN. I thought this would get easier with time but I'm just finding it all very depressing today. At the same time I feel like I have no right to be depressed as there are so many people who have a much harder time of everything than I do and I am ungrateful.

I just booked DH and my 10 year wedding anniversary weekend away. I am looking forward to it- It is so hard to believe it has been 10 years already.

Valentines day tomorrow...it would be so good to get a BFP but I really am not feeling like this is my month.

I hope everyone's partners get them some lovely flowers or choccies tomorrow.Mine is not much of a romantic so I'm not likely to get any but he will save it all for our anniversary.

#7 2puzzled

Posted 13 February 2013 - 11:45 AM

Ladies, I just wanted to share this but must issue this WARNING - this website has been set up by friends of mine in Canada who have experienced two losses (one shortly after birth and one at 35 weeks) and they are keen to help other parents who experience loss at any stage in a pregnancy. If you think you will find this site too hard then please do not read it. I don't want to fuel anyone's fears or sadness. If you want to though, feel free to read through their blog and website.

This particular post in their blog has a link to another site where a woman has described the change in her language once she lost the innocence of pregnancy through loss. It is very poignant and I am sure many of you will relate.

http://www.marlon-and-tobias.com/blog/lang...f-the-innocent/

love to all.


#8 AllyK81

Posted 13 February 2013 - 12:52 PM

Thank you girls for your kind words. She did not know we had had a loss and I have reached out to her. The only thing that really made me feel even a little bit better was knowing that this experience was not confined to me. So I hope I have helped her in some small way. She has two healthy children that were easy pregnancies so I think she is really in shock.

Pix, sorry AF found you hun. It's great you're looking forward though.

2P
- what special friends you have. I cannot imagine what they have been through. I thought the site was lovely, although I couldn't read too much of it.

Schmig - FX for you for tomorrow! Will be ph34r.gif . 10 years! What an achievement. Enjoy your anniversary.

K darling, look after yourself. Be selfish and put yourself first. Rest up. Everything WILL be OK.

AFM 3DPO. Boring boring boring.

#9 emmy-g

Posted 13 February 2013 - 12:57 PM

Schmig- don't give up hope lovely... The month I got my BFP I was the most horrible moody cow in history and was crying at the drop of a pin! I think K was pretty similar when she got her BFP as well... So don't give up... I've got everything crossed that you receive the most fantastic V'day gift of all bbighug.gif

#10 N@K

Posted 13 February 2013 - 02:03 PM

K - make sure you rest up  bbighug.gif

glare.gif  I HATE my stomach, and I hate being "sick". Stupid hiatus hernia! For those who don't know (most people don't  original.gif ), basically it's something that can cause acid reflux. I've had the stupid thing for 12yrs, and with removing some foods from my diet (such as tomato) and not eating majorly big meals, I've not had any problems with it for about 10yrs.
But NOW it decides to come back with a vengeance! I do not need nor want this right now.
It's so bad, that I've got to keep myself on strict portion sizes, basically eating about every 3hrs, and no liquid with meals or 1hr either side of a meal. Plus taking Zantac twice a day.

No, it's not killing me (though if I over eat by one mouthful I know about it for the next 2hrs!), but it is SO annoying, and a bit stressful. And happens just when I'm going to be going out to two very nice restaurants this weekend!  glare.gif

Saw the gastro specialist yesterday, and will have a camera down my throat / biopsies done in a few weeks - basically to make sure it's still the hernia and not something else / more concerning.

DH hates it when I (or any family member) has to go under general, which makes me worry about the procedure, because I'm worried while I'm under he'll need me! (I personally have never had issues with surgery / hospitals, and actually when I was a teen, loved it all, lol)

*SIGH* *phew* thank you for listening, really needed to get that out  bbighug.gif

In other news, DH and I are going away this weekend for our 2nd wedding anniversary - so very much looking forward to it  biggrin.gif  ddance.gif  and appt. with Dr Jenkins on Monday, which I am also looking forward too.

CD 6 today - boring lol.

I hope everyone has been having a good week, and the next two days fly by  bbighug.gif  (sorry about the me post  blush.gif )

#11 Wishing2011

Posted 13 February 2013 - 04:36 PM

N@K when you say Dr Jenkins you aren't talking about the specialist from Norwest Private Hospital in Sydney are you? Just tell your DH with your procedure it's just a sedative so not so nasty as a General Anaesthetic. You don't usually get the side effects of the general. I had to go under for the other end when I had stomach problems and I woke up feeling like i just had a nice sleep original.gif Oh and Happy 2nd Wedding Anniversary. My 2nd wedding anniversary is coming up in a week or 2 so we aren't far apart original.gif

Schmig I didn't feel like it was my month (even though I had help the last time) both times I've been pregnant so don't give up hope until you really know it's coming. Fingers crossed for you hun.

Pixii hmm is AF late? Hope it stays away grin.gif



#12 pixii

Posted 13 February 2013 - 06:05 PM

QUOTE (Wishing2011 @ 13/02/2013, 05:36 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Pixii hmm is AF late? Hope it stays away grin.gif


Thank you wishing but AF showed up about 2 hrs after my post lol. I am glad though as I knew I was not pregnant because of all the BFN I was getting the last few days so AF showing meant I could move onto this next cycle original.gif

#13 spokie

Posted 13 February 2013 - 06:06 PM

Checking in...
K I hope the clotting disappears all on its own I'm very hopeful for you!
Sorry about the lack of personals and posts so tired today

#14 kmaharaj

Posted 13 February 2013 - 06:25 PM

Hi lovelies thank you all do much for your kind thoughts and encouraging words. I am quietly hopeful that this will resolve itself. Thanks to dreaming and Emmy for sharing. I worked from home today and will go do for the rest of the week.
On other sad news. My BFF has only one ovary and tube coz of endo. She's been battling on ivf for the last 3 yrs. last week she had 14 eggs and 10 fertilised but today day of tfr no blastocyst so all 14 down the drain. She's devastated. Has had enough. I don't even have the guts to share my news with her or tell her abt my battles.  Shocker.
Pixi I love your attitude hope af bugs off soon.
Spokie rest up hun
Glamour how are you feeling.

#15 kmaharaj

Posted 13 February 2013 - 06:25 PM

Hi lovelies thank you all do much for your kind thoughts and encouraging words. I am quietly hopeful that this will resolve itself. Thanks to dreaming and Emmy for sharing. I worked from home today and will go do for the rest of the week.
On other sad news. My BFF has only one ovary and tube coz of endo. She's been battling on ivf for the last 3 yrs. last week she had 14 eggs and 10 fertilised but today day of tfr no blastocyst so all 14 down the drain. She's devastated. Has had enough. I don't even have the guts to share my news with her or tell her abt my battles.  Shocker.
Pixi I love your attitude hope af bugs off soon.
Spokie rest up hun
Glamour how are you feeling.

#16 spokie

Posted 13 February 2013 - 08:49 PM

Pretty sure I'm 4-5 dpo
Have tender boobs once again and was completly turned off the chicken with dinner tonight little bit of niggly cramping twitching today?
Not sure hmmmm....
Eps or imaginary ps? Lol

#17 Wishing2011

Posted 13 February 2013 - 09:10 PM

oh K your poor friend. to go through all of that and not have one blast would be so hard. I know I was stressing out and worried more than I ever knew I could once I knew I had some fertilised eggs. Of the 10 we collected 6 fertilised. Then from that 6, only 4 became blasts. And from those 4 we transferred one and only 2 were strong enough to be frozen. I was told by the embryologists I had a great outcome as less than 50% of patients get to freeze any embryos! Crazy huh. Shows just how much of a miracle a baby really is! Don't hide your news from your friend too long.. Just remember it will hurt her more if you keep it from her (and tell other people). But it is very considerate of you to be thinking of her right now while she is going through her own issues hheart.gif Life is just not fair sometimes.

#18 Glamour

Posted 14 February 2013 - 07:37 AM

Good Morning ladies,

Well it’s been an anxious few days to be honest. I can’t seem to stop thinking that this is all going to go south again. I'm trying to do positive affirmations but it’s not working. I went and got bloods taken a few days ago, and HCG was above average. But off again today to confirm that they are increasing as they should. I had a spare few FRER lying around and the darkness doesn't seem to be increasing over the last few days... I know I shouldn't be testing, but it’s scaring the life out of me not to see that progression you know? Every part of me is consumed by all of this and I'm trying to be calm.. but it’s not working... I thought I’d be relieved to get a BFP, but it’s only made me worse!! I need some positive thoughts and guidance ladies... xx


#19 2puzzled

Posted 14 February 2013 - 07:47 AM

Glamour - chuck out the pee sticks! please don't do this to yourself! blood tests are a good idea but do not use the home tests from this point on because you will only send yourself batty. I can understand - we can all understand - how you feel. It is a helpless feeling and it is scary and heart breaking when you are frightened things aren't going to plan. But nothing is certain, and there's every chance things are just fine, so even if you can't tell yourself everything is A-OK, at least tell yourself that it is beyond your control and that you are happy to be pregnant and that you remain hopeful and that what will be, will be. Try to find that quiet place in your mind and breathe out and tell yourself you can do this.

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#20 2puzzled

Posted 14 February 2013 - 08:03 AM

K - that is so very hard for your friend. you will have to tell her asap of your news - don't wait, because it would feel awful for her to have your news sprung on her later down the line. She would look back and realise you were pg at the time she told you her news and wonder why you kept it a secret (and probably wouldn't understand your wishes not to hurt her further). Tell her what you have been going through lovely. xx I hope you are feeling OK.

ha ha Spokie the 2WW mystery symptoms... we can read anything we like into the littlest of things original.gif FX for you.

Pixii it is funny to celebrate AF turning up hey? good to know you're back on track.

N@K the procedure sounds unpleasant but I hope it finds something easily remedied so you can feel better. I HATE general anaesthetic - I used to get nightmares from it and so when I had generals for my 2 D&Cs I told the anaesthetist that and they changed the pre-op sedative to something else and I had no dreams upon waking, which was a relief. Good luck with it!

ahhh work schmurk. best get on. AFM CD18. Usually O on CD 19 of 32 day cycle, but last 2 cycles have been 29 days, so who freaking knows? did an OPK POAS last night and no line - found I had a couple in the drawer and decided to use them, but wish I hadn't cos had no plan to sad.gif Have DTD on CD9, CD11, CD14 and CD16 and now will aim for the next 3-4 nights straight if we can muster the energy LOL. If no luck this month then will poss temp next month, but let's see how we go...  am kinda worried that if I O on CD 19 and AF is due CD29 then my luteal phase has shortened.  farrrrrk why did I just google luteal phase defects? WTF? Why would I do that?!  cry1.gif TTC is so freaking hard.

Wow - was up one minute and crashing the next... is that a symptom of O???? HAHAHAHAA - know I think I have gone nuts. entirely. Signing off before I lose it...

#21 clarisse83

Posted 14 February 2013 - 08:41 AM

Could be the hormones 2p!! FX you do O soon.

K, I agree with 2p. I think you should tell your friend, she might be hurt if she finds out later. Support each other with lots of love, she's going through a really tough time, but so are you x

Glamour step away from the pee sticks!!! Don't rely on them, just the blood tests as the sticks won't accurately show HCG increases and depending on the time of day you're testing they won't be consistent anyway.

#22 AllyK81

Posted 14 February 2013 - 08:59 AM

Morning girls

K, darling, so glad you are working from home. My boss is SO not congenial to flexible working arrangements. I agree with the other girls that you should tell your friend. My BFF is going to start trying in August and if she fell before me I would be really upset, but also really happy and would want to share her joy and fears.


Spokie - sounds promising!!

Glamour - your feelings are completely normal. Try meditating/relaxing. 2P is right - you cannot control what is going to happen to please, please, try to relax. It's about the only thing you can control.

N @ K - your post was so cute and frenetic. You poor thing having to deal with so much. Hope everything goes well. x

2P STEP AWAY FROM GOOGLE! If I didn't temp, I would have no hope of pinpointing O. It has been CD 25, 27 and 31 last 3 cycles. It is mega frustrating. Good luck catching the eggie! I have heard vitex can help with LP defects? Might be worth looking into?

AFM - 4DPO. Woke up in the middle of the night to pee (not an eps for me as I do that every night!) and could smell the rubbish bin SO strongly. But at the same time, I have a feeling this isn't the month.

I have do so some site inspections tomorrow so DH has the day off and we are making a long weekend of it. His parents live in the mountains but are on holidays so we are are taking our doggie up to their place for a weekend of fresh air, hiking and lazy nights in the backyard. Really looking forward. Ah, the serenity.

xx

#23 spokie

Posted 14 February 2013 - 09:23 AM

allyk looks as though we are both in the tww! fx'd for both of us

2p we all know the feeling - Dr google sometimes is the only dr I turn too and we all know it makes us stress even more than what we should be

K -still thinking the best will come to you try to relax

afm

nauseous this morning, weird cause I fricken love my food

#24 kmaharaj

Posted 14 February 2013 - 09:38 AM

I am scared to tell ppl before 12 weeks. I wanted to tell her and my other bestie after my nuchal scan. After my last mishap, my friends and I have talked about it and we all said that we would be ok if we told each other after the 12 week scan. I just can't bring myself to call her and say oh btw, i know you are giving up on your hopes to become a mum but i am pregnant and then tell her about my "difficulties" with the clot, the bleeding and what not. I feel that would be insensitive. I don't know girls.

Ally my dog of a boss isn't even happy that i am expecting. he is the most selfish greedy ahole on the planet as far as i can see, a wolf in sheep's clothing who pretends to be a man of faith and a good person unless something inconveniences him. It's the other people at work who are being supportive and encouraging me to "take it easy" and have given me the flexibility.

#25 kmaharaj

Posted 14 February 2013 - 09:38 AM

I am scared to tell ppl before 12 weeks. I wanted to tell her and my other bestie after my nuchal scan. After my last mishap, my friends and I have talked about it and we all said that we would be ok if we told each other after the 12 week scan. I just can't bring myself to call her and say oh btw, i know you are giving up on your hopes to become a mum but i am pregnant and then tell her about my "difficulties" with the clot, the bleeding and what not. I feel that would be insensitive. I don't know girls.

Ally my dog of a boss isn't even happy that i am expecting. he is the most selfish greedy ahole on the planet as far as i can see, a wolf in sheep's clothing who pretends to be a man of faith and a good person unless something inconveniences him. It's the other people at work who are being supportive and encouraging me to "take it easy" and have given me the flexibility.


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