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#1 orangepeanut

Posted 13 February 2013 - 08:41 AM

Not sure why Im posting but I am tired and I want to whinge lol, but this is not 'venting room worthy'

I cannot remember when I last had a full night sleep and I am DONE!! I have 2 kids a husband 3 cats and a full time job!!

Our DS who is almost 3 is in this habit of getting up and coming into our room, now I dont have a problem with this at all, but he doesnt go back to sleep. He wants to wriggle and chat and play with my face lol. So I take him back to his room and Im not even back to bed yet and he is up again. This can go on for sometime 5-6 times and usually around 11pm and then again between 3-4. He is usually up between 6-630 for the day and goes down about 7-730. We have just dropped his day sleep as he would still be up until about 8-9 at night. Im not sure how I can break this habit, Im sure its a habit, he is not upset or anything and he is wide awake when he comes in. He does not get upset when i take him back

Any suggestions?

I think Im just ultra sensitive today, DD 13 was digging around in the kitchen last night searching for Panadol, and it freaked me out as she never gets up through the night. She knows she should wake me if she needs medication, but she knows how tired I am and didnt want to wake me! So that got me up at 1am. DS was up at 11pm and again at 4am. Then my stupid cats decided to have a fight on the end of my bed at 5am!!

Im thinking of checking into a hotel to get a solid nights sleep!!

#2 Etcetera

Posted 13 February 2013 - 06:39 PM

When DS gets up, leave him in bed with DH and go sleep in DSs room.

#3 opethmum

Posted 13 February 2013 - 07:02 PM

I would check in to the hotel too, if you need to do that don't be ashamed to do it, you need to rest and have a restful nights sleep and if a hotel stay is what you need, book it without delay and I am sure your DH would cope with one night away occasionally.

Perhaps sit and talk and have a family meeting and explain to everyone how you are feeling and really enforce that everyone must stay in their own beds until sun light and that coming into bed won't be tolerated unless it is an emergency. With regard to your son perhaps have a reward chart and really crack down and get him to stay in his own bed.

Relocate the cats and take them from the bedroom and place them into the laundry or another area of the house you are comfortable with. co sleeping with animals can hamper sleep as well and can form bad sleep hygiene.

You have the power to change it and it's not too late for change.

I do hope you can get the rest you deserve and need!

#4 orangepeanut

Posted 13 February 2013 - 07:45 PM

QUOTE (Etcetera @ 13/02/2013, 07:39 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
When DS gets up, leave him in bed with DH and go sleep in DSs room.

Ive done that sooo many times and DS always finds me lol!!

opethmum - Thanks for your kind words, They have helped. I have my fingers crossed for tonight and as usual I am forever optimistic!! I am staying at my mums this weekend without the kids so I will at least get a full night then!! DH is more than happy to stay here with the kids/cats! The issue is mainly DS wants mumma!!! Dam he is lucky he is cute!! Its our wedding anniversary tomorrow and we are too tired to go out lol sad sad lives!!

#5 opethmum

Posted 14 February 2013 - 10:28 AM

QUOTE (orangepeanut @ 13/02/2013, 08:45 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Ive done that sooo many times and DS always finds me lol!!

opethmum - Thanks for your kind words, They have helped. I have my fingers crossed for tonight and as usual I am forever optimistic!! I am staying at my mums this weekend without the kids so I will at least get a full night then!! DH is more than happy to stay here with the kids/cats! The issue is mainly DS wants mumma!!! Dam he is lucky he is cute!! Its our wedding anniversary tomorrow and we are too tired to go out lol sad sad lives!!

Oh dear, happy anniversary. I know your DS wants his mumma and he is used to that but you need your sleep and him expecting you to play is not on and not nice it is possibly taking a toll on everything else. His expectations in the evening need to be quashed and you need to enforce more discipline, short term pain for long term gain. Perhaps after staying at your mums place and having a decent night's sleep perhaps start a new week with the new discipline and please don't give in or placate him, he can get plenty of one on one time with you during the day and you can have special times during the day etc. Place him back into his bed each time he comes to you during the night , if he needs a night light then by all means get him one, if he needs a visual aid to when it is ok to get out of bed, purchase a cheap clock and place a sun at the time you can come out e.g. 7 am and remind him each evening.
Good luck, I hope you have a great sleep at your mum's!

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