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#1 Mummzy

Posted 13 February 2013 - 07:46 AM

So my two sons went to childcare yesterday. Their dad picks them up and my youngest sons carer states to DF that DS aged 2 is adorable, and she wants to keep him and take him home and wishes he was hers..... blink.gif  unsure.gif

Am I reading too much into it. All my warning signs just went off. It made me a little un easy. I just think a comment like that is not called for.



#2 Missy Shelby

Posted 13 February 2013 - 07:53 AM

Possibly over thinking it, if my kids were at child care I would much rather the carers were fond of them, than possibly not standing the sight of them.

Maybe she got carried away in her comments but I think alot of us at one point in time have bonded with someone else's child, I think she sounds passionate about her job.

#3 elmo_mum

Posted 13 February 2013 - 07:56 AM

totally over thinking it!!

our nurses, who "had" ds for 4 months decided that they werent ready to discharge him, so wanted the drs to keep him. cos he was the cutest thing they had seen!!!

.. fwiw there was an unofficial ds fan club...

i thought it was cute!

#4 ~sydblue~

Posted 13 February 2013 - 07:56 AM

I think you are totally overthinking it.

#5 Ianthe

Posted 13 February 2013 - 07:56 AM

This is possibly the most overthinking overthink I have ever seen on EB.

#6 Mummzy

Posted 13 February 2013 - 07:58 AM

hahaha thanks everyone for letting me know.  biggrin.gif I am happy that she adores DS and maybe did get carried away.

#7 MrsTradie

Posted 13 February 2013 - 07:58 AM

I'm a believer in instinct but that is a pretty normal remark.  Along the lines of "ooh I could just eat him up".  Is it a centre where other carers are present?

#8 Banana Pancakes

Posted 13 February 2013 - 07:59 AM

I wouldnt be worried by that comment. Sounds like she is young and has bonded with your ds. Like a p.p said, I would rather that she liked him rather than the alternative.

I have also found that some of the young child care workers speak differently to my dh as opposed to me. Im not sure if they get intimated talking to an older male but sometimes they come across a bit nervous, where as with me they seem a lot more comfortable chatting. Maybe she just got nervous and just blurted all that out?


Edited by Banana Pancakes, 13 February 2013 - 08:03 AM.


#9 JECJEC

Posted 13 February 2013 - 07:59 AM

QUOTE (Ianthe @ 13/02/2013, 08:56 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
This is possibly the most overthinking overthink I have ever seen on EB.

Agreed

#10 Funwith3

Posted 13 February 2013 - 08:00 AM

QUOTE (Ianthe @ 13/02/2013, 08:56 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
This is possibly the most overthinking overthink I have ever seen on EB.

Absolutely. I can't believe you would actually have had this conversation with your DF. Do you think the woman is going to steal your son and keep him? I think its a whole lot more likely that she was just trying to express how cute she thinks your child is. She can't win...if she paid him no attention or affectionsshe'd be complained about.

Lucky you don't know me - often I find little babies so cute I could eat them!!

Edited by Funwith3, 13 February 2013 - 08:02 AM.


#11 Banana Pancakes

Posted 13 February 2013 - 08:01 AM

dp

Edited by Banana Pancakes, 13 February 2013 - 08:03 AM.


#12 elmo_mum

Posted 13 February 2013 - 08:01 AM

dp

Edited by elmo_mum, 13 February 2013 - 08:01 AM.


#13 Musk Sticks

Posted 13 February 2013 - 08:01 AM

I would say you're over thinking it.

I think "adorable, and she wants to keep him and take him home and wishes he was hers" are common expressions of affection used about young children.

People also say things like "s/he is so gorgeous I could eat him/her".
I think expressions about "eating" "yummy" children are ridiculous, but I don't think it is a sign of cannibalism.


#14 Great Dame

Posted 13 February 2013 - 08:01 AM

Over thinking and paranoid.

#15 PurplePaperFrog

Posted 13 February 2013 - 08:01 AM

I don't even think its just overthinking it.

Its twisting it into something which it is not, then over thinking it.

#16 I'm Batman

Posted 13 February 2013 - 08:03 AM

I think she just likes him.

I can't imagine that it means shes going to kidnap him and have surgery to look more like him some trippy little tart off Days of our Lives.

#17 Mummzy

Posted 13 February 2013 - 08:04 AM

The thing is she is not that young and she is the early childhood teacher. But I do think I have read to much into it. I always read between the lines. Just habit.

#18 BeachedAsBro

Posted 13 February 2013 - 08:04 AM

QUOTE (I'm Batman @ 13/02/2013, 09:03 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I think she just likes him.

I can't imagine that it means shes going to kidnap him and have surgery to look more like him some trippy little tart off Days of our Lives.


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#19 skepticaemia

Posted 13 February 2013 - 08:05 AM

QUOTE (PurplePaperFrog @ 13/02/2013, 09:01 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I don't even think its just overthinking it.

Its twisting it into something which it is not, then over thinking it.


... and based on second hand information.

#20 livvie7586

Posted 13 February 2013 - 08:05 AM

god, DS would have so many mothers if everyone who said they wanted to take him home had done so.  It's just a saying

#21 ~Supernova~

Posted 13 February 2013 - 08:05 AM

QUOTE (PurplePaperFrog @ 13/02/2013, 08:01 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I don't even think its just overthinking it.

Its twisting it into something which it is not, then over thinking it.


Yup. Pretty common comment IME. I would have laughed and told her to take him lol.

#22 Bluenomi

Posted 13 February 2013 - 08:05 AM

Overthinking! DD's carers have said that since she started, I take it as a sign they really like her and she doesn't annoy them too much  biggrin.gif Most of them don't have their own kids so don't really know what they are getting themselves into if they take her home, the ones with kids don't say it  tongue.gif

I also tell them they are more than welcome to have her for the night!

#23 PurplePaperFrog

Posted 13 February 2013 - 08:09 AM

QUOTE (Mummzy @ 13/02/2013, 09:04 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
The thing is she is not that young and she is the early childhood teacher.


She fits the profile of a kidnapping psychopath perfectly. Better call the police.

#24 Funwith3

Posted 13 February 2013 - 08:14 AM

Genuine question OP - do you really think she's going to kidnap your child?

#25 Mummzy

Posted 13 February 2013 - 08:16 AM

No I didn't think that at all. I asked if it was inappropriate to say to a parent... Nothing about kidnapping just warning signs went off thinking if carers are allowed to make such comments as I never heard another carer say anything like that before.




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