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#1 Rachaelxxx

Posted 11 February 2013 - 04:20 PM

I've just started a new job, Mon-Fri school hours.  I was just wondering what do you do when your kids are sick, do you take the day off, does hubby take the day off, have you carers/parents you can call on.

Given I have 5 kids and we are meant to be in for a shocker of a year sickness wise, I think I am going to need some sort of back up when my husband and I can't take the time off.

#2 cinnabubble

Posted 11 February 2013 - 04:26 PM

There's just us. No back up.

#3 Giltine

Posted 11 February 2013 - 04:26 PM

I take DD to work, but I'm lucky that I can. Being a cleaner I work when the business is closed so it's just me and the manager who is happy to play with DD for hours. Tounge1.gif Depends on the illness though, because she will only sleep in a cot and there isn't one at work.

On weekends she stays with my Dads girlfriend or my cousin.

Otherwise, I stay home.

#4 Rachaelxxx

Posted 11 February 2013 - 04:32 PM

My youngest started prep this year so to date I've only worked Saturdays and Mondays since the kids were born and my preppie had a cold today, not overly sick but had I not had to go to work I probably would have kept her home, but instead I drugged her up and sent her  unsure.gif

#5 YodaTheWrinkledOne

Posted 11 February 2013 - 04:34 PM

QUOTE (Rachaelxxx @ 11/02/2013, 04:20 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I've just started a new job, Mon-Fri school hours.  I was just wondering what do you do when your kids are sick, do you take the day off, does hubby take the day off, have you carers/parents you can call on.

Given I have 5 kids and we are meant to be in for a shocker of a year sickness wise, I think I am going to need some sort of back up when my husband and I can't take the time off.

There's just DH and me, no back up. No family within 1000km and our friends work as well.

DH and I try to alternate as much as possible, but I probably do a bit more sick leave than DH, purely because my workplace is more flexible.  Last year was our first hideous year with the kids tag-teaming being sick for 4 months or so (it really felt like forever).  Thankfully our bosses realised there was nothing we could do about it.  When I could, I worked from home, even if it was just a few hours each day.  I was so glad when we came out of the other side of that.

#6 -*meh*-

Posted 11 February 2013 - 04:37 PM

generally it boils down to me... sometimes DP can help out if he isn't at uni or work but he only works as casual so doesn't get paid sick leave.

Rarely Ex can help, he usually helps if i have to work late etc.

#7 Rainbow Brite

Posted 11 February 2013 - 04:38 PM

DS dad lives over 5 hours away so my back up plan is my mother and would ask my father if desperate. Otherwise, I call in sick.

#8 littleboysmum

Posted 11 February 2013 - 04:39 PM

I'm forced to take a day's leave with no pay. We have no back up.

#9 liveworkplay

Posted 11 February 2013 - 04:41 PM

there us just us. We take turns. Sometimes if we both have something on, we will do half days each. we have three kids but luckily, they are pretty healthy.

#10 Casii

Posted 11 February 2013 - 04:41 PM

I call in sick...  no back up for me!

#11 niggles

Posted 11 February 2013 - 04:45 PM

One of us takes the day off work. I can't imagine asking someone else to take care of our kids when they are sick. Unless they are not very sick in which case there are occasional days when a sister or my MIL might be free but even then it's not something I'm likely to spring on someone at the last minute.

#12 Tiger Lilly

Posted 11 February 2013 - 04:46 PM

We have no back up at all. It is just the two of us and it is hard. DH has a job where he is not always local and I work full time so it's hard.

Have no choice though - have to work and have to look after sick kids.

#13 ~THE~MAGICIAN~

Posted 11 February 2013 - 04:48 PM

Just curious why you are going to be in for a shocker year sickness-wise?

I take the day off when kids are sick. DH is FIFO, so if he is home, bonus.



#14 Dub74

Posted 11 February 2013 - 04:50 PM

One of us takes the day off. I have been thinking tough that I may need to get in touch with a casual nanny agency for this purpose... If I got an agency nanny in I'd essentially be working for nothing but that would be better than lots of sick days off.
I am lucky too that both employers are fairly understanding.

#15 MAGS24

Posted 11 February 2013 - 04:56 PM

I just started a new job as well and both my kids are sick this week so I have to take time off without pay and let everyone at work down. But that is that way that life is sometimes. We don't have a back up, no family life near by and all of our friends work as well. DH will try to take the day off if he can but it is difficult and he ends up with a huge extra pile of work waiting for him when he gets back because no one else does his job at his workplace.

#16 halcyondays

Posted 11 February 2013 - 04:58 PM

It's hard, and I often cry over it. I take the day off if the kids are very sick and need me. If they are recovering or not very sick, I try and call a babysitter in. Sometimes DH and I tag team it- I go into work in the morning, and DH goes in in the afternoon.
I lose a lot of business if I don't go in on my "self employed" days, and create a fair bit of hardship for my patients if I don't go in on my "salaried" days. The waiting times for a public hospital clinic can be horrendous as it is.
Most of my female friends who work in my line of work have their DH's to take the day off. I'm a medical specialist.
When kids were very young, I had a nanny so I took limited time off work. Did end up spending more than half my income on nanny, though.

#17 wish*upon*a*star

Posted 11 February 2013 - 05:00 PM

My mum or sister help out when they can.
DH and I share 50/50 if one of us has to call in sick.

#18 CallMeProtart

Posted 11 February 2013 - 05:00 PM

I tend to work from home and plant the kid in front of the tv  ph34r.gif

Once I absolutely HAD to be in, for a meeting with the CEO - so I had to take in both kids. Trying to keep them quiet in the corner of the boardroom for 2 hours was interesting!

Sometimes DH can take the day off, but that's rarer.
We have family but can't really use them when the kids are sick as we don't want them to get sick, they are all getting on a bit in age and it affects them more than us.

#19 Chchgirl

Posted 11 February 2013 - 05:02 PM

I have worked for myself for the last couple of years, it's only me and the kids, and where I live I have no backup at all....thankfully they are getting older and sick a lot less!

#20 Guest_Sunnycat_*

Posted 11 February 2013 - 05:06 PM

My parents look after DS while I work. If he is sick then I stay home. DH works casual so can't afford time off. If I really had to go to work then my parents would happily look after DS while he was sick, but I don't think it's fair for them to have to. They don't mind, but I think they do enough already.

#21 .Jerry.

Posted 11 February 2013 - 05:46 PM

There is just us nearby.   No backup.  All family lives an hour away at minimum.  Friends all work.

If Molly is sick DP and I take turns to stay home with her, depending on how busy the other's work is.  

Luckily she rarely gets sick.

#22 #tootired

Posted 11 February 2013 - 05:52 PM

I think this is the hardest thing about being a working parent!

My DH can take one to work with him, if they not too sick. MIL if she happens to be at home that day.  I work 3 days per week and if I miss one of my rostered days, I can go into work on one of my non rostered days to catch up.

#23 OneProudMum

Posted 11 February 2013 - 05:57 PM

I call in sick. I wouldn't want anyone to look after my unwell children. When I was little and unwell the only people I wanted near were my mum and my nana.

#24 naturalgoodness

Posted 11 February 2013 - 06:00 PM

All me usually as DH is self employed in a trade and is booked weeks ahead and they can't be changed. Luckily I have worked in a female dominant/family friendly field where everyone is part time and have children so its not unusual for people to have kid commitments!



#25 naturalgoodness

Posted 11 February 2013 - 06:00 PM

Odd double post!

Edited by naturalgoodness, 11 February 2013 - 06:01 PM.





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