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#1 ~~HappyMummy~~

Posted 10 February 2013 - 12:08 PM

Hi, wondering what's normal re driving teens around on weekends - drop off, pick up from friends houses etc.

My situation:  we live on a train line so I think it's reasonable for 16yo DSD to catch train to shops, friends houses (if within walking distance to a station), etc.  She walks to and from the station every day to school.

But on weekends she wants lifts everywhere?  Why?  I think she's old enough to be independent and catch the train but its causing grief between her dad and I.  I'm talking local trips here - 2 stops or whatever.

I also think its good for her to be active and walk the distances to from the public transport - incidental exercise and all that.  Personally I also think we are enabling her laziness by driving her everywhere.

Am I being a grouch?

Edited by ~~HappyMummy~~, 10 February 2013 - 12:11 PM.


#2 Kafkaesque

Posted 10 February 2013 - 12:11 PM

I think it's reasonable for her to get herself around. I did as a teen.

#3 Feral Grey Mare

Posted 10 February 2013 - 12:14 PM

If you are close to transport I would tell her to make her own way during daylight. At least if you are driving them around you know where they are going and who with. Once they start driving themselves you lose all of that.

#4 gina70

Posted 10 February 2013 - 12:18 PM

Not too much.  I drive dd1 to work and pick her up on Saturdays (5 mins away).

Once a fortnight I might drop her at a friends or the local shops.

She is catching the train with her friend to the city next weekend for the first time.

Our local train station is very rough, she would need to be with a friend to walk there.

#5 ~~HappyMummy~~

Posted 10 February 2013 - 12:18 PM

We are within walking distance from a train station so no worries there.

I'm tired of the 'its too hot to walk home' line....  Why are teenagers so lazy?

I absolutely got around (during the day) via public transport when I was 16.

I think I'll chat with my hubby about it again.

#6 FiveAus

Posted 10 February 2013 - 12:22 PM

Very reasonable. We used to live right where the bus stopped on it's regular town route......we also lived a brisk 15 minute walk (downhill) from the shopping centre, 10 minutes from school and very close to most friends houses.
Unless it was dark, they could walk or catch the bus.
If they wanted to go to the mall, they could walk there and catch the bus home if it was all too hard to walk uphill.

#7 Dresden

Posted 10 February 2013 - 12:27 PM

Ugh! My life at the moment is every weekday, drive mr17 40km to work, drive myself back home, wait a few hours and repeat. 160km a day. For very little gratitude. Fingers crossed he passes his "P's" test this coming Thursday, because the routine is getting very old, very fast.

Thankfully he's not too bad with wanting weekend running around, and if he does it's usually only on the really hot days, otherwise he with hoofs it, or rides the skateboard.

No doubt it will all be repeated next year, because Mr 16 is looking to also do an apprenticeship through the same or similar organisation.

Oh well, at least at the end of the apprenticeship, Mr 17 will be able to fix my cars for me.

#8 EBeditor

Posted 10 February 2013 - 12:29 PM

I took public transport or walked everywhere when I was a teen. Mum would give me  a lift if she was heading that way anyway, or if it was night time.

#9 Dresden

Posted 14 February 2013 - 02:38 PM

It's Thursday, and the examiner has just picked Mr 17 up for his P's test. I am so freaking nervous. Really hoping he's up to scratch and passes, the running around is really draining.



cry1.gif Automatic fail cry1.gif He failed to indicate as he went around a streetsweeper.

Bum poop bugger crap! back to driving for me again.

Edited by Dresden, 14 February 2013 - 04:21 PM.





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