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We've never had one.


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#1 Sif

Posted 10 February 2013 - 09:15 AM

Since I met Dh 17 years ago, we have never had a car. He didn't have a licence because he didn't need one - always living in the inner suburbs of Melbourne. Being legally blind, I couldn't get a licence.

When DS#1 was six months old we started talking about Dh getting a licence, but I guess his confidence was a bit low because he didn't actually start lessons for another 8 years. I think he only did that then because of my relentless nagging  unsure.gif ...

Trying to parent four kids without a car in Melbourne has no been easy, and as they get older it has become progressively more challenging. There has been a lot our kids have missed out on because it was just 'too hard to get there.'

Dh did 3.5 years of lesson and did 9 driving tests before he finally got his licence back in June last year. He is a good, very cautious driver, and because he was so cautious he used to stall manual cars, eep! So, eventually he changed to automatic to get his licence.

Getting an automatic licence meant he couldn't use his deceased father's car. We thought MIL would sell the car and help us get an automatic as with FIL gone there was no one to drive her around either. She has really resisted doing this - I think she is worried about her only child driving and possibly being in an accident and then she would be 'all alone'.

Without MIL's assistance we had no hope of affording a car on our own. Neither Dh or I are working at the moment. He has been trying to get work for nearly four years but even having been offered a couple of position, the offers have been withdrawn at the last minute by the bosses of people who offered him the job, people who never met him, but who we believe saw his age (50+) on paper and thought him 'too old'. It has been very frustrating as he has retrained and tried everything he can to get work.

In recent months it has become more and more obvious that the kind of jobs he probably can get in his capacity as an aged carer require him to have his own car.

The catch 22 is that without a car, he can't get a job and without a job, he couldn't get a car!

But then my parents stepped in and traded in their second car - their nest egg, their only little piece of insurance - and bought us a car!!!

We finally have a car!

Dh can finally apply for jobs that require him to have a car!!!

I'm really hoping this will make all the difference to us and well will now be able to drag ourselves up beyond the poverty line!

If you have read this far - thank you! We're all so excited, the kids keep saying, 'We've got a car!' with a look of amazement on their faces, this is a whole new world for them!

#2 TeaTimeTreat

Posted 10 February 2013 - 09:22 AM

I am so happy for you, I cannot drive due to a medical condition and even though we do have a car mon - fri if I want to take DS anywhere I have to use public transport, makes it tough with after school activities etc, it can be quite limiting sometimes.

And you have lovely parents!

#3 copham

Posted 10 February 2013 - 09:22 AM

This post has made me smile original.gif congrats on getting a car OP and hopefully your DH gets a job he likes now you have it.

Good things come to those who wait.

#4 CAWO

Posted 10 February 2013 - 09:26 AM

Wonderful news, enjoy your car. Where are you going for your first outing?

#5 MinionMaster

Posted 10 February 2013 - 09:32 AM

Congratulations Sif!! You must all be very excited about the car- it really will make life much easier by the sounds of it.

I hope it helps out on the job front for your DH also- could be in for a very exciting 2013 original.gif It is amazing the difference a car can make in making it possible to get to events etc isnt it ?  I am sure the kids will also enjoy the novelty and can see you DH making many inpromptu trips due to their excited requests!

Your post has my morning- love a bit of good news!




#6 .MrsM.

Posted 10 February 2013 - 09:40 AM

that put a smile on my face that your kids were so excited. biggrin.gif

we should all really learn to appreciate things more. i just take for granted that i can jump in the car and go.

#7 Sif

Posted 10 February 2013 - 10:02 AM

QUOTE
Where are you going for your first outing?


Grocery shopping, hahaha! No more hauling groceries home on the bus in oversized backpacks, or having to take a cab for the fortnightly shop, woot!

We want to take the kids to beach while the weather is good, we've never taken them to the beach because coming home wet and salty on a tram with tired kids never seemed worth it...

Edited by Sif, 10 February 2013 - 10:03 AM.


#8 EssentialBludger

Posted 10 February 2013 - 10:08 AM

That's wonderful news. I'm in awe that you've managed for so long! With 4 kids too! I would be screwed if my car ever broke down and I've only got 2 kids!

Don't forget your 4yo needs a booster seat (I'm sure you already know this! Just in case! wink.gif )

#9 StopTheGoats

Posted 10 February 2013 - 10:12 AM

Enjoy original.gif

#10 Sif

Posted 10 February 2013 - 10:28 AM

QUOTE
Don't forget your 4yo needs a booster seat (I'm sure you already know this! Just in case!  )


Four year old and seven year old both in boosters - we had to have them for getting lifts with friends and family original.gif.

Edited by Sif, 10 February 2013 - 10:28 AM.


#11 TiredbutHappy

Posted 10 February 2013 - 10:34 AM

I was 26 when I finally got my first car, a 90 minute commute on public transport turned into a 15 minute drive - it was awesome!  Enjoy! And I hope DH will be able find a job soon to take some of the stress off. Good luck.

#12 namie

Posted 10 February 2013 - 12:04 PM


Congratulations, Sif! Enjoy your first family outing and all the easier trips to the supermarket original.gif

And good luck to your DH finding a job, we're in the same predicament at the moment and the longer it gets, the harder it gets.

#13 *melrose*

Posted 10 February 2013 - 01:31 PM

Op that is good news!!! i am so happy for you, it will be so much fun now, you will be able to do all those things you were not able to do before.


Happy driving...

#14 EssentialBludger

Posted 10 February 2013 - 02:00 PM

QUOTE (Sif @ 10/02/2013, 10:28 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Four year old and seven year old both in boosters - we had to have them for getting lifts with friends and family original.gif.


Great stuff biggrin.gif

#15 soontobegran

Posted 10 February 2013 - 02:13 PM

I take my hat off to you. I am in all sorts of awe that you have managed this long without wheels in Melbourne which is not known for an effective public transport system.
Enjoy your car original.gif

#16 threeinnyc

Posted 10 February 2013 - 02:21 PM

That's fabulous, Sif, congrats!

#17 little lion

Posted 10 February 2013 - 02:33 PM

Good for you! That's nice of your parents to help.

#18 Guest_Sunnycat_*

Posted 10 February 2013 - 07:37 PM

Yay! That's awesome!

#19 ~THE~MAGICIAN~

Posted 10 February 2013 - 09:34 PM

I have been following your story along for years, and really hoping your MIL helped you out.

But HOORAY for your parents. You won't know yourselves!

All the best!

#20 belinda1976

Posted 10 February 2013 - 09:42 PM

What wonderful parents - enjoy the new wheels!

#21 dolcengabbana

Posted 10 February 2013 - 09:44 PM

Congratulations. I can just imagine how excited everyone was and what gorgeous and generous parents.

Edited by dolcengabbana, 10 February 2013 - 09:45 PM.


#22 Therese

Posted 12 February 2013 - 08:32 AM

That is fantastic news!

#23 missy78

Posted 12 February 2013 - 08:45 AM

Awesome!

#24 FiveAus

Posted 12 February 2013 - 09:15 AM

No one has asked the most important question. What colour is the car?

#25 Sif

Posted 14 February 2013 - 10:44 AM

The car is dark green and we call her Clover  biggrin.gif




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