Since I met Dh 17 years ago, we have never had a car. He didn't have a licence because he didn't need one - always living in the inner suburbs of Melbourne. Being legally blind, I couldn't get a licence.
When DS#1 was six months old we started talking about Dh getting a licence, but I guess his confidence was a bit low because he didn't actually start lessons for another 8 years. I think he only did that then because of my relentless nagging
Trying to parent four kids without a car in Melbourne has no been easy, and as they get older it has become progressively more challenging. There has been a lot our kids have missed out on because it was just 'too hard to get there.'
Dh did 3.5 years of lesson and did 9 driving tests before he finally got his licence back in June last year. He is a good, very cautious driver, and because he was so cautious he used to stall manual cars, eep! So, eventually he changed to automatic to get his licence.
Getting an automatic licence meant he couldn't use his deceased father's car. We thought MIL would sell the car and help us get an automatic as with FIL gone there was no one to drive her around either. She has really resisted doing this - I think she is worried about her only child driving and possibly being in an accident and then she would be 'all alone'.
Without MIL's assistance we had no hope of affording a car on our own. Neither Dh or I are working at the moment. He has been trying to get work for nearly four years but even having been offered a couple of position, the offers have been withdrawn at the last minute by the bosses of people who offered him the job, people who never met him, but who we believe saw his age (50+) on paper and thought him 'too old'. It has been very frustrating as he has retrained and tried everything he can to get work.
In recent months it has become more and more obvious that the kind of jobs he probably can get in his capacity as an aged carer require him to have his own car.
The catch 22 is that without a car, he can't get a job and without a job, he couldn't get a car!
But then my parents stepped in and traded in their second car - their nest egg, their only little piece of insurance - and bought us a car!!!
We finally have a car!
Dh can finally apply for jobs that require him to have a car!!!
I'm really hoping this will make all the difference to us and well will now be able to drag ourselves up beyond the poverty line!
If you have read this far - thank you! We're all so excited, the kids keep saying, 'We've got a car!' with a look of amazement on their faces, this is a whole new world for them!