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#1 karen13

Posted 09 February 2013 - 08:54 PM

Hello all,

After my DD was born 1 year ago, I had real problems with breastfeeding.My milk didn't start to come in until the second week and to increase my levels to a mildly acceptable level (at best I could only provide half a feed and was always topping up with formula) I had to take medication and regularly pump. It was a tiring, upsetting and stressful process, until my GP wouldn't allow any more medication and I dried up.
I have just discovered that i am pregnant again biggrin.gif and am concerned about how the breastfeeding may go the second time around, especially as I will not have as much time to pump with a toddler to run after. I would love to hear some stories from people who have attempted to BF after problems the first time, particularly from those with supply issues.

p.s. I had much support from midwives and lactation consultants; in the end my problems were put down to a low supply.

Thank you!

Edited by karen13, 09 February 2013 - 08:59 PM.


#2 ~Mintie~

Posted 09 February 2013 - 09:17 PM

I've moved this to the breastfeeding area for you original.gif

#3 FearsomeFeralFreak

Posted 09 February 2013 - 09:37 PM

I had lots of difficulty breast feeding my first. He lost lots of weight, we then has to comp feed expressed milk or formula when I wasn't getting much milk. Saw lactation specialist, end up with some rare nipple shields imported from Israel because others were no good...honestly it was just ridiculous! Struggled on for months. Finally gave up and just fed him formula and he grew up 2 clothes sizes in a couple of weeks!
Imagine my surprise when number 2 latched on first go and fed with zero problems! Both number 2 and number 3 both breast fed for over a year each and never ever had a bottle!
I didn't do anything differently, just different babies!

Edited by challice, 09 February 2013 - 09:38 PM.


#4 belindarama

Posted 09 February 2013 - 09:45 PM

For me number 1 was a horrible experience and it almost broke me. No need to go into the details but he pretty much only fed from a bottle once we left hospital and nothing I tried made it better. I was exhausted from pumping and feeding and we were both unhappy. Switched to formula at 8 weeks and things improved.

I kept an open mind about number 2. Second time around things went perfectly from the first feed. Just perfectly. I never had a moment's discomfort. Not one single problem for the year we breastfed.

By the time we started going out and about at a week or two old I could confidently feed in public without even looking to make sure he was attaching. I could feed walking around, I could feed in bed, I could have fed him standing on my head. It was that easy. It was amazing and I appreciated it all the more for the struggles I had the first time round.

Good luck OP, I hope you have the same experience the second time around that I did.

#5 zogee

Posted 09 February 2013 - 09:47 PM

Yes...I had a horrible experience with DD and only weaned DS about a week ago, aged 11 months original.gif I can understand your anxiety, I was really concerned about trying (and 'failing') again. I made contact with the LC in my antenatal visits and asked for their help a lot during my hospital stay. I also went to their bf clinic when DS was about 10 days old due to cracked nipples and poor attachment. Good luck, hope it works out hheart.gif

#6 karen13

Posted 09 February 2013 - 09:53 PM

Wow, thanks ladies for your responses! It sounds as though the second can be quite different to the first.

Challice, I'm curious with your story, was it a latching issue for your first that was causing the low milk? My DD's latch was perfect, just a problem with me! If I tried to go without comping she'd be screaming by the second feed and would be so distressed she couldn't sleep.

#7 lucky 2

Posted 09 February 2013 - 10:00 PM

Breasts often will grow a bit more in the next pregnancy and  have the potential to make more milk.
Did your breasts grow/change in your first pregnancy?

#8 karen13

Posted 09 February 2013 - 10:03 PM

Hi lucky2,

They seemed to grow a tad, but not too much. I always joked that I missed out on the good part. I'm quite small to start. It was quite unusual, I rarely had leaking, didn't have to wear breast pads except at night, and didn't have the 'let down' feeling. I did have large blue veins running along my chest though, suggesting good blood flow! So, I can produce more ducts this time around? That gives me hope

#9 lucky 2

Posted 09 February 2013 - 10:16 PM

Hi, it tends to work that way with most women and it is a good sign, ie to have some breast changes as it shows the breasts are responding to the hormones of pregnancy and once again preparing for lactation.
So yes women often have a higher milk production with subsequent pregnancies (to varying degrees though).

eta, but the proof is always in the pudding so to speak, consider your breasts "innocent until proven guilty" and see what happens after the birth.
Seeing a LC prior to the birth can be very helpful as pp's have said.
All the best.

#10 IShallWearMidnight

Posted 09 February 2013 - 11:42 PM

my first child was a nightmare (I have a medical condition which inhibits lactatoin, but wasnt diagnosed, she couldnt latch, and had no suck reflex etc) and my second was on the boob before I birthed the placenta original.gif

#11 SeaPrincess

Posted 09 February 2013 - 11:51 PM

I really struggled to BF my first, and gave up at 5 months.  I was very worried about the next baby, and he was born over 3 weeks early, so keeping him awake to BF was hard.  I had him in private hospital and they kept us there until he was feeding well, so we were there for 2 weeks after he was born.  I didnt have any grazing, bleeding nipples or pain with him and I BF him until I found out I was pregnant with baby #3 when he was 11 months old.  Establishing BF with her was hard - she had a great latch, but I was so sore! Once we got past the 2nd week though, it went well and I BF her until she lost interest at 17 months.

#12 LoveMySnuggles

Posted 10 February 2013 - 09:46 AM

First baby DS I only BF until 6-7 weeks due to low milk & PND, I needed to go on medication & just didnt have it in me to try increase my supply. This time around DD is 4.5 months & we are still going strong original.gif I even have more confidence this time & can feed in public without thinking twice original.gif I also believe giving DD the chance to find my breast after birth when she was ready (feed for 45min straight up lol) made a huge difference rather than a nurse just grabbing my boob & sticking DS on. Give it a go & you might find second time around a lot different, good luck.

#13 SummerStar

Posted 10 February 2013 - 09:53 AM

I had issues with number 1,2 and 3. 1 I could only bf for a week, 2 & 3 a little longer but they weren't getting enough.
I had number four 8 years after the 3rd and she has been fully breastfed. Now 17 months later she is still breastfeeding.
I was proud of myself for getting to 6 months which was my goal. Still going now is an absolute accomplishment for me.
It is possible!

#14 Corella

Posted 10 February 2013 - 10:11 AM

There's a really good book called Mother's guide to making more milk (or something like that) that helps to work out why you might have supply issues - insufficient glandular tissue like my sister had for eg.

#15 lucky 2

Posted 10 February 2013 - 10:19 AM

Corella mentioned the "Making More Milk" book, the link below is to the website of the authors of that book, you'll find lots of information about low supply.
http://www.lowmilksupply.org/index.shtml




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