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Anyone Not Use Their Double ?
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Posted 08 February 2013 - 11:45 AM
Hi, we will have a 2y3m gap between our two and I’m so torn between getting a double or not. If it was another 4 months on, I’d be confident to wing it but I’m not sure with this awkward gap.
So I’m wondering, did anyone with a similar gap buy a double pram and end up barely ever using it?
Or did anyone think they could manage without one, but then realised they needed one afterall?
Posted 08 February 2013 - 11:53 AM
I have exactly that gap and we are out and about almost every day, walking around our local area.
I didn't buy a double. We stuck with our old trusty bugaboo cameleon. I don't like prams that don't allow the newborn to rear-face (especially when you are chatting to the toddler). Which rules out many of the double arrangements. I also would guess that a side-by-side arrangement would be fine for twins, but not so easy to push if the kids in it are very different weights. Not that I've tried it, though.
I did get a kid-sit buggy board for it, which allowed DD1 to sit down while being pushed along. This has a comfy seat with a strap to hold onto. She loved it. With it we could be out all morning but not all day, because she couldn't lie back in it and doze. I also used a carrier for DD2 (ergo), but not so often because I got too hot and she was a big bub (4.5kg at birth).
It was fine, actually. The upshot was that DD1 is now a great walker. I sold on the kid-sit when she was about 3 and haven't missed it.
Posted 08 February 2013 - 11:55 AM
I have a similar gap between my first and second and second and third. Before my 2nd was born I bought a strider plus mainly for the travel system aspect but I got the toddler seat and was sooooooo glad I did - my oldest insisted on being in the pram, didn't want to walk etc until well past 3. This time around I still have the pram but haven't used the toddler seat even once - my middle child won't use a pram and only wants to walk. All I can put it down to is my first is a boy, second a girl. In my mothers group 6 of us ended up with that age gap and the 3 of us with boys first ended up with double prams and the 3 with girls first didn't. Coincidence or inherent gender difference I wonder?
Posted 08 February 2013 - 11:56 AM
2yrs 4m between my two and could not have coped without the double - getting around with a newborn and a toddler means lots of stops for feeds, nappies etc so outings take much longer, DS1 would not have coped without a seat! That said he was always happy to go in the pram and I don't drive. I used the double daily for at least a year but also had a Maclaren Quest with a buggy board for shorter trips where the double was too cumbersome.
Posted 08 February 2013 - 12:03 PM
My DD is turning 4 in April and i'll still use the double pram to walk to playgroup/kindy. It's a 3km round trip so can take quite a while to get there if she's walking!
2y3m is also quite young to not have them strapped in and kept contained when you need to. I wouldn't have a 2 year old 'loose' in shopping centres/malls with another baby to be tending to.
Most 2 year olds are still napping as well, so having that extra seat for naps is very helpful.
I had an 18 month gap between #1 and #2 and used a double. A 2y11m gap between #2 and #3 and used a double. And a 2y4m gap between #3 and #4 and used a double.
Posted 08 February 2013 - 12:05 PM
We have a smaller age gap, but we have recently just sold our double and we probably could have done without it.
We had a BJCS and it was really only getting used as a single so we decided to downgrade to an umbrella stroller for DS when needed. DD has always been a good walker though and has never wanted to stay strapped up in the pram and she can go for hours. I know that's not always the case though.
Posted 08 February 2013 - 12:16 PM
We will have a 2yr 4 month gap. DD doesn't nap, especially not in prams and she refuses to use one at all for the most part. Even the ladies at Baby Bunting told me not to bother when I went in to buy a Strider Compact to use as a double.
I am sticking with my BJCM and getting a buggyboard. I'm also getting a good carrier so if DD does insist on using the pram on the odd occasion new baby can go into that.
DD has barely used the pram for the past couple of months, I've focused on road safety, hand holding etc so I can be a bit more confident going out with 2 of them on my own.
Posted 08 February 2013 - 12:25 PM
I had 2 under 2 and didn't get a double. Never needed one.
Posted 08 February 2013 - 12:35 PM
I will (hopefully) have that gap between DS and the twins. After long deliberation we have gone for a double instead of a triple. We got the MB duet with buggy board. Since we made the decision we have stopped using the pram for DS ans he has learnt to walk everywhere holding hands. I think it really depends on the temperament of you elder child (ie if they are a runner) and what you are likely to be using the pram for (i.e. trip to the zoo and full days out or just for the shops/around town.)
That being said, you can pick up bargains on ebay that have rarely been used. If you were to get one I would get one where the toddler seat detaches, not a side by side. I have a phil and teds sport I was intending to use until we found out about the twins and think that would be great for you age gap.
ETA I plan on having a baby carrier (I have an ergo) under the pram so I can out one of the babies in that if DS desperately wants to hop in the pram.
Edited by Jo-Anna, 08 February 2013 - 12:38 PM.
Posted 08 February 2013 - 11:36 PM
DS1 was a bolter. Seriously, when I was 8 months PG he was running everywhere, and I had to strap him in because I couldn't chase him down and wrestle him into submission.
He was 2y5m when DS2 was born. We have a Duet which has been used a handful of times. We're mostly using the MB Urban with DS2 in the carrycot and DS1 on the buggyboard. He has stopped bolting!!! He does flit around sometimes in a shop and has to be told to get back on his board, but I am somehow more 'no-nonsense' than I was before and he's more responsible.
Otherwise we are using a stroller and putting DS2 in a sling.
DS2 is about to outgrow the carrycot, so I guess the Duet might get more use. Also, I haven't been doing long walks outside and hope to get back into those where the Duet will be handy.
At this point, I think the Duet was unnecessary, but will use it to get some value before I resell.
Posted 09 February 2013 - 12:01 AM
There is 2yrs 4mths between DD2 and our twins.
We had a double when they were born but I made sure she would fit in it. She didn't spend all that much time in it but did like to sit in it when I was feeding a baby
I think unless you do A LOT of walking, a single would be fine
There are also heaps of doubles available second hand at good prices so that might be a good option.
Posted 09 February 2013 - 07:57 AM
I needed a double with #1 and #2 (2 yr 3 month gap) as number 1 was not a fan of walking and was terribly distractible. I had a P & T Sports which I hated - it did the job but was awful to push. I sold it. I plan on getting a double BJCM second hand for #3 and #4, as #3 will not walk where I want him to go. They are easy to sell on later so it's not a waste of money imho.
Edited by ednaboo, 09 February 2013 - 07:58 AM.
Posted 09 February 2013 - 08:11 AM
I had 2yrs (and 4 days) between #1 and #2 and used my double for about six months, maybe a little more. It was a side by side stroller. It was necessary for me, DD1 was a runner who is also not a huge fan of walking more than about 10 metres - it's a lovely combination - and. Needed her strapped in while I dealt with the baby etc.
DS was 2.5 when DD2 w born and we haven't used the double at all, he was much more compliant and happy to walk, sit in the trolley etc, and I used the baby carrier more.
As a side note, congratulations Ednaboo! (From a fellow car seat enthusiast)
Posted 09 February 2013 - 08:21 AM
I couldn't have managed without a double. It not only provided somewhere for the older toddler to rest when they were tired but it kept them safe and out of everyone else's hair.
Some children are good and compliant walkers others aren't so I think much depends on that.
We did a lot of walking and there were times when the older child really needed a nap and I was glad I had the option.
There are several prams which give you two seats facing you now if that is your preference. DD had a BJCS and will use the second seat for her 3 year old if she knows they are going to be out for a while and in single mode when she is happy for him to walk.
Edited by soontobegran, 09 February 2013 - 08:23 AM.
Posted 09 February 2013 - 09:26 AM
I think it really depends on the child more than the age gap. I had a 20mth gap between DS1 and DS2 and fretted over whether to invest in a double. I had a MB single which I loved and would have had to trade it in to afford the double. DS1 was also Mr. Independent and would only happily sit in the pram for about 20 mins max before he'd be screaming to get out and walk. He liked to walk everywhere but fortunately wasn't really a bolter. So in the end, I used a sling for DS2 and put DS1 in the pram if we had to walk a long way and then I could always put DS2 in the pram if need be when DS1 was walking and when DS1 got tired (rare) then I swapped them back.
This won't suit everyone of course but it worked really well for us, especially as DS2 slept better close to me than in the pram. As STBG said, it does depend on whether your older child is a good and compliant walker.
Posted 09 February 2013 - 09:56 AM
I think it depends on the older child. We have a 2yr2mo gap and I kept my old pram and got a toddler skateboard for it. But DS hasn't been strapped into the pram since he was 12mo. We had a travel stroller until he was about 20mo and he has walked ever since. If your eldest is a good walker and not a runner and you are going to just do part day, shopping trip style activities then you could get away with not needing the double.
Posted 09 February 2013 - 10:07 AM
I had a 20 month age gap and only used the double pram a few times. DS1 was very active so had the energy to walk around, but also not a runner, so I could trust him to hold onto the pram when needed and he wouldn't go running onto the road or anything.
Actually once my kids turned 2 I never used a pram or stroller for everyday stuff, it was only if I did big trips. DS3 is a bit more of a runner though, so he may be in it for a bit longer until I can trust him.
If you've got a pouch or similar, you can get away with that plus a stroller for a few months.
Posted 12 February 2013 - 01:42 PM
We have a 13mth gap and my wife insisted on getting a double before DS2 came along. We go out a lot but in 6 weeks we've only used it once. If we're going to busy places, and most of them have been, the double is just too big. We didn't buy a very big one but we're much happier with DS1 in a stroller and DS2 in our new Mini Monkey. I find it much easier to get around even if it's me hauling both boys. I'm still hoping to get some use out of the double but it just hasn't been very practical so far.
Posted 12 February 2013 - 02:05 PM
There is 2 years and 18 days between DS1 and DS2 and I have used our double (BJCS) almost daily from day 1.
We do a lot of walking so to get anywhere in decent time, they both need to be pushed!
Ds1 is by no means a runner and will happily walk next to the stroller if he wants to get out, but also enjoys sitting in it as we go about our day- walking, shopping etc.
I could not have done without ours and it was my lifeline and kept me sane. Getting of of the house easily with a toddler and baby happily contained within their stroller seats made the world of difference to me.
Posted 12 February 2013 - 02:49 PM
I think it depends on your kids!
With my first two I didn't get one...DS1 was either a lazy boy or a runner! I use to strap him into the stroller and have DS2 in the baby Bjorn.
With DS2 & DS3, I tried without but the age gap was too small (20mths) so ended up buying one on eBay. Was in excellent condition and 1/4 of the price! We still use the double occasionally when DS2 is having an off day.
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