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#1 SusieBlue

Posted 07 February 2013 - 06:25 PM

DS has slept in our bed on and off since he was 1 yo. Now he is almost 3 and can get out of his bed and get into our bed in the middle of the night...so often I will wake up in the morning and find him there!! I do wish I could encourage him to stop doing it - he will often wake up when DD is feeding next to him and there are plenty of times he keeps us awake with his antics. However whenever we try to encourage him back to his bed he gets quite upset!

So I was wondering whether you think he will grow out of it soon? How long did your little one sleep in your bed before moving on? (My sister's 9yo still comes into her bed...)

#2 Water Dragon

Posted 07 February 2013 - 06:34 PM

2.5yo still going here! I don't mind it at all, but if it starts to get uncomfortable for either of us I'll probably transition her to a bed on the floor and then, when she's settled with that, a room of her own. I'm comfortable with the fact that might not be for a few years though.

Edited by Water Dragon, 07 February 2013 - 06:35 PM.


#3 Jaffacakes

Posted 07 February 2013 - 06:34 PM

Still waiting for my boy (2y 8m) to stop the midnight run into our bed (at least I don't always notice him)

#4 froggy1

Posted 07 February 2013 - 06:36 PM

My DD2 has just stopped doing that, roughly around the time she turned 4. I used that birthday as a milestone and it seems to have worked, ie: when you turn 4 you won't need to go in the pram any more. When you turn 4 you're old enough to sleep in your own bed. When you turn 4 you are going to kinder! So far all is working well. She only comes into bed if she's had a bad dream, or is particularly restless. So down to about 1 night a week. This a major victory after 4 years of co-sleeping non-stop. I thought I'd miss her little kicking feet - but happily, I don't! Now for the first time in almost five years, I'm getting uninterrupted sleep most nights. Touch wood. I feel like I'm jinxing myself by typing this, she only turned 4 about 8 weeks ago!  cool.gif

#5 Always amazed!

Posted 07 February 2013 - 07:03 PM

My 5 1/2 year old ds1 still comes to bed with s most (if not every)night

my 4 1/2 ds2 rarely comes to bed with us..

2 1/2y0 DD1 & DD2 come to bed with us most nights

Needless to say our bed is very FULL .. Thank God its a KING!

#6 Verurtle

Posted 07 February 2013 - 07:10 PM

Maybe about 5 years old.

Probably when he started kindergarten.


#7 luke's mummu

Posted 07 February 2013 - 07:28 PM

My 7 year old still does! 3 year old cannot open his bedroom door. But he will be able to soon. Most nights one of us ends up in the kid's bed anyway.

Oh well it's not forever.

#8 jo-v

Posted 07 February 2013 - 07:33 PM

DS 4.5 still comes in most nights anywhere between 1am and 6am. DD (2) is pretty good and only comes in for a cuddle when she hears DH get up.

DS gets really upset when we suggest he can't come in so I'm just leaving it, doesn't bother me enough to upset him.

#9 ChickenortheEgg?

Posted 07 February 2013 - 08:06 PM

We bed shared with ds until he was 2yr9months (only 3 months ago now). Yesterday he asked to come into bed with me.

#10 chickendrumstick

Posted 07 February 2013 - 08:11 PM

QUOTE (luke's mummu @ 07/02/2013, 08:28 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
My 7 year old still does! 3 year old cannot open his bedroom door. But he will be able to soon. Most nights one of us ends up in the kid's bed anyway.

Oh well it's not forever.


Isn't this a bit of a safety issue? What if there was a fire in his room while you were sleeping?

#11 Hootabelles

Posted 07 February 2013 - 08:19 PM

Dd is now 4.3 years and still sneaking in at night.  We have tried every tactic but her reply to us is why can't I sleep with you? I want cuddles and don't like to be alone...you don't sleep alone - you have daddy so I will too!!'   Mmm. What do you say to that!!!
My dd2 at 20 months has never come to our bed!
Now I'm expecting again we have to start getting dd1 out of the bed before I'm too big though.

#12 libbylu

Posted 07 February 2013 - 08:25 PM

My 6.5 year old grade one DS is still coming into our bed at some point in the night probably 60% of nights.  Sometimes he sleeps through.  When he gets up to go to the toilet he comes in to us afterwards instead of going back to his own bed.  Not sure how that is going to work with the baby.

#13 Hedgehog Slice

Posted 07 February 2013 - 10:21 PM

QUOTE (chickendrumstick @ 07/02/2013, 06:11 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Isn't this a bit of a safety issue? What if there was a fire in his room while you were sleeping?


I don't see how it's any different than say a baby being in it's cot in their own room?  We have smoke alarms in all of our children's bedrooms and they have always had closed doors even when they can't reach the door handle, in addition to a monitor.

#14 HurryUpAlready

Posted 07 February 2013 - 10:52 PM

Oh wow, this thread has just reminded me to never let DD get in the habit of sleeping in our bed!!


#15 Lees75

Posted 07 February 2013 - 11:03 PM

DS started coming in to my bed every night when XH and I broke up when he was 5. He came in every night without fail for probably close to 18 months. Then it because less and less.  Now he is 9 and only comes in if it is very windy or stormy.

DD (6) goes through phases. Currently she comes in most nights, but for a while she wasn't coming in.

I don't care at all - in fact I really don't hardly even notice. But there is only one adult in my bed, so there is plenty of room, even for the nights when they both end up in there (rare these days).

#16 envs

Posted 07 February 2013 - 11:06 PM

We bought ds his own bed when he was 18 months old in preparation for dd1. He used it a handful of times but would always co-sleep (oh the embarrassment it caused for our in- laws!).

He kicks a lot, so at 4.8 we made him start sleeping in his own room.

OMG. He now wakes up screaming for me most nights. In order to encourage him to stay there, I rush over to h

#17 JJ

Posted 07 February 2013 - 11:21 PM

97 out of 100 nights I either have an 8yo or an 11yo in my bed (can't fit them both anymore). wink.gif

#18 Propaganda

Posted 07 February 2013 - 11:21 PM

3 months.

The only times since then she's slept in my bed is when she's been very unwell.

#19 poss71

Posted 07 February 2013 - 11:27 PM

Ours come in every morning for a snuggle.

They used to take turns it seemed at coming in, but I would just take them back to their own beds after a cuddle (unless I fell asleep). So they worked out what was the earliest time they could come in without being sent back to bed... It's somewhere around 6.30 to 6.45.

#20 Feralishous

Posted 08 February 2013 - 12:07 AM

DD (2.8) starts the night n her bed, but comes in with us every morning.
I slept with my mums until I was about 8 (infact Ive only slept on my own a handful of times in my life)

#21 ~Supernova~

Posted 08 February 2013 - 04:33 AM

DS (11mths) sleeps with us every night because he is a crappy sleeper and we were getting no sleep with him in his cot. DD comes in extremely rarely. She did the other night for the first time in around 2 years. We took our frame apart when DS started crawling and climbing, and we now have a single mattress next to ours, so it isn't squishy.

Sometimes it can be annoying, but ultimately I want my kids to feel safe and secure, and if sleeping in my bed gets us all some sleep, then so be it.



#22 Stoked

Posted 08 February 2013 - 07:59 AM

QUOTE (HurryUpAlready @ 07/02/2013, 11:52 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Oh wow, this thread has just reminded me to never let DD get in the habit of sleeping in our bed!!

Humans are the only mammals who sleep separately to their offspring! (and even that only in the last 200 years or so, and only in developed nations). I *love* bedsharing with my 9 month old wub.gif

#23 Jeyamoo

Posted 08 February 2013 - 08:06 AM

Ds1 stopped at around 7 prior to that he came in most nights

DD2 coslep from birth until around 11mths when she started sleeping much better on her own in her cot, she has only come into our bed once since then.





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