Jump to content
2.5 DS hitting
3 replies to this topic
Posted 07 February 2013 - 11:11 AM
First time OP here! DS has always been fairly placid but recently he has starting hitting and pushing other kids. He is an only child but I take him to the park each day so he is not completely unsocialised. I have tried giving him 1 warning and then leaving if he does it again but it still happens nearly every day. How else do I stop him?
Posted 07 February 2013 - 03:15 PM
DD has days when she can be a bit like this (she's 23 months). I recently read somewhere to turn your attention to the victim so I might say something like this (DD often attacks her cousin) "Niece, please tell DD to stop" while standign next to niece and doing the extended arm "stop" action. Although at this age it might take a while to work, I also read somewhere that they just do not have much of a capacity for empathy at this age.
Posted 07 February 2013 - 03:39 PM
Close supervision and talking about 'using your gentle hands' when a situation arises that you think he might get frustrated or hit out. Discuss ways to say he is angry or frustrated with words - even just 'you look really angry. Are you feeling angry?'
So you are helping him recognise triggers and stop the behaviour, rather than punishing as a first option. Hopefully he can learn the skills to then prevent the behaviour himself. And lots of sharing practice talking about being a kind friend, liking people who are kind to us, hitting makes us feel sad, playing together nicely etc.
Some people use 'you hit, you sit' so a person who hits gets time sitting with their carer with little attention being paid to them. Sort of 'time in'. Afterwards you can redirect.
My sympathy. You can feel really judged by other parents at the park when you really are trying your best.
Posted 08 February 2013 - 08:31 AM
thanks for the advice! I was starting to think that leaving immediately wasn't working as he just doesn't seem to care. I like the directing attention to the other child and gentle hands approach. I find it embarrassing when he does this and I'm becoming reluctant to go to the park when I used to love taking him. Hopefully it won't last!
1 user(s) are reading this topic
0 members, 1 guests, 0 anonymous users
Two young boys have been rushed to hospital after falling out a second-storey window of a home in Eastwood.
Vote for your favourite pregnancy, baby and toddler products for your chance to win your share of $2500 in cash prizes.
Thousands of same-sex couples with children will have the right to be jointly recognised as parents by Victorian law.
Cutest snap find on the planet - bee rompers, tees and dresses for babies.
A two-year-old girl who disappeared on Friday night from her great-grandparents' home in rural Ohio was found alive Sunday evening in a nearby field.
The transition from cot to big kid bed might be a little easier if every toddler had a bed like this one.
Woolworths appears to have taken the upper hand in its price battle with Coles after investing millions of dollars lowering the cost of groceries, according to new figures.
Parents say Australian babies are being "kept captive" and cannot come home after a ban on commercial surrogacy in Nepal.
If virgin women can become mothers through IVF, maybe we're ready for another miracle - genuine equality for men in the parenting debate.
What I once assumed about health and fitness is wrong.
I have two children: one living, the next an angel baby.
Planning a wedding can be stressful – and, as most newlyweds can attest, it can be very costly, too.
They had just decided on a name they both agreed on, but then the grandparents threw in an offer of $10,000 in exchange for choosing something else.
After 17 years of trying, this man had given up hope of having a family.
Actress Claire Danes found it difficult pretending to have postnatal depression in Homeland, as she had just become a new mother herself.
It's a heart-warming photo this family will treasure forever.
While every woman's breastfeeding journey is different, many hurdles are shared. Knowing what to expect will enable you to make informed decisions if - or when - you meet challenges along the way.
We do love ourselves some brand new designs in tried and true products. The renowned bamboo dinnerware from Love Mae has just had several more members join the family, in addition to a brand new website.
A mother-of-five who killed a paedophile has had her jail sentence reduced by a judge who described her case as a "truly exceptional" one.
We just spotted Geleeo, a brand new self-cooling pram liner you can buy in time for summer.
He might not utter a single word - but this toddler is having a great debate with his mother about nap time.
Top 5 Articles
Fashion designer Stella McCartney has honoured her late mum, Linda McCartney, by designing a special bra for post-mastectomy patients.
Mark Harris has helped deliver 500 babies. And he's now telling fathers what to expect.
Being a calm parent takes a lot of work, sometimes more than is obvious to those around us.
It's cool, kind of like a second childhood. I love him to bits and think, on average, I'm an okay dad. But I also want to talk about the other stuff.
He may have only lived for 100 minutes, but that didn't stop baby Teddy from saving the lives of others.
A haunting reminder to stay mindful about babies in cars, especially as we approach summer.
Tongue-tie can cause feeding problems. However once it is diagnosed, the condition can be easily treated.
Some people move frequently, while others like to stay put. But everyone finds it stressful.
The birth of her first child should have been happiest of times for Campsie mother Phuong Cao, but friends say it marked the beginning of when her life began to unravel.
It was an experiment doomed to failure - they were looking for male cells in female bodies. And their search was stunningly successful.
A gorgeous photo series shows babies in the first hours after their birth - as they were positioned in the womb.
We don't know what he's saying, but this baby has a very clear message for his bulldog pal: let's walk - NOW.
Without a doubt, one of the best gifts for a toddler turning two or three is a play kitchen.
With a few simple tips you can take your images from random happy snaps to lovely clean images that create beautiful lasting memories.
The Essential Baby Awards are on now, and we need your help! Have your say on your top picks and you'll go in the draw to win a share of $2500.