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#1 claptrap

Posted 06 February 2013 - 05:58 PM

So the shops around town where I work are filling up with mawkish oversized stuffed bears carrying hearts made of cheap red satin.  
The florists have dollar sign in their eyes (no offence to any EB florists reading).

What do you think?  A big commercialised con, or a chance to be reminded to spoil the one you love, even if it's tongue in cheek?

And whilst you're sharing your world view in regard to Valentine's Day, help me out here folks... what do I do re my new romantic interest?  Should I raise the subject?  There is no way we could meet on the day anyhow, but we are going out the day after.  I'm really not fussed about it and certainly cannot think of anything worse than a big fluffy teddy bear (in fact he would decrease in my estimation if he chose such a gift for me).  But I don't want to look not interested, if he does send a card or more.  He's already sent flowers after our first real date.  I can't decide if that means it's MORE likely he will do something for 14/02, or LESS?

Advise me, oh wise ones.  Say nothing?  Be proactive and get him a small gift? or discuss in advance?

Edited by dogged, 10 February 2013 - 07:10 AM.


#2 PurpleWitch

Posted 06 February 2013 - 06:07 PM

I'd go a small gag gift,
Personally.

Last year I got the guy I was seeing a red balloon gift.
He got me a $2k ring. It didn't last wink.gif

#3 Excentrique Feral

Posted 06 February 2013 - 06:12 PM

get a bottle of wine to share with him.

I don't do valentines day. Its corny, a waste of money, hallmark occasion. DH and I agree to spend time with one another but not to waste money on it. We might cook a nice dinner, hire a movie to watch together, thats about it. No money for the florists or hallmark!

#4 CupOfCoffee

Posted 06 February 2013 - 06:14 PM

I love a chance to get a gift...

So I love Valentine day.  

Last year I made my husband a stop motion valentine card (because I am cheap). clicky

#5 Peppery

Posted 06 February 2013 - 06:15 PM

Nice bottle of wine sounds like a great idea

#6 CountryFeral

Posted 06 February 2013 - 06:17 PM

Well I was in the Family Planning office the other week and I saw a large poster informing me that February 14th is "World Condom Day"...

I have also heard it described as "BJ and a Steak Dinner Day"...


Under NO CIRCUMSTANCES give a man a stuffed toy - EVER.

Ever!

That's all I have to add..

#7 niggles

Posted 06 February 2013 - 06:18 PM

It tends to be a night in with pizza and a movie around here. DH sometimes suprises me with flowers and I usually get him something sweet. I like Valentines Day. It's meaningful to me, even if Hallmark have co-opted it.

In your case I would get a small gift and a plain card without a predetermined message that could trap you into saying something you don't really mean.

#8 niggles

Posted 06 February 2013 - 06:21 PM

QUOTE (CupOfCoffee @ 06/02/2013, 04:14 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I love a chance to get a gift...

So I love Valentine day.  

Last year I made my husband a stop motion valentine card (because I am cheap). clicky


That's awesome. By coincidence we've had that track on repeat in our house lately. Which was cute until DD started finding it hilarious to sing it while sticking like glue to ones leg and refusing to let go. Do you take customised orders?  wink.gif

#9 CountryFeral

Posted 06 February 2013 - 06:21 PM

Just thought of something else...

I once got a poem for Valentines Day when I was separated by a mighty ocean (well - 1/2 a strait) from my first love..


QUOTE
Roses are red
Violets are blue
If I weren't over here
I'd be home bonking you...



I thought it was terribly romantic.... still do 20 odd years later - bless him!

#10 claptrap

Posted 06 February 2013 - 06:24 PM

QUOTE (countrymel @ 06/02/2013, 07:21 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Just thought of something else...

I once got a poem for Valentines Day when I was separated by a mighty ocean (well - 1/2 a strait) from my first love..





I thought it was terribly romantic.... still do 20 odd years later - bless him!


Awww  wub.gif

It's so tricky because it's a very new romance and so I'm keen to avoid putting my foot in it.

#11 SlinkyMalinki

Posted 06 February 2013 - 06:25 PM

It's a bit naff, I don't really care either way.

Sometimes DH and I get each other things, sometimes we don't.


#12 CountryFeral

Posted 06 February 2013 - 06:29 PM

QUOTE (dogged @ 06/02/2013, 07:24 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Awww  wub.gif

It's so tricky because it's a very new romance and so I'm keen to avoid putting my foot in it.


Dogged you have my permission to use that if you wish!

How about replacing "over here" with "stuck at work"?  Bung it in a card and Bob is your Auntie's 'special friend'!

Don't do anything saccharine - I have run a mile at high speed from the nicest of chaps when they did something too 'Hallmark'...  (but I am a cruel, cruel woman...)

#13 WizzFizz

Posted 06 February 2013 - 07:48 PM

Tough one !

Given its so early in the relationship I'd probably just send a cheeky "be my valentine ?" Text message or when you see him the following day give him one of those little chocolate love hearts and just say happy valentines.

Or you could just wait and see if he does anything first.....

#14 Beanbag Warrior

Posted 06 February 2013 - 07:53 PM

Are you up to the Valentine's bonking stage of the relationship, or still too soon? Tounge1.gif

#15 Ninja Lemur

Posted 06 February 2013 - 08:03 PM

I wouldn't do anything but be clearly appeciative if he does.  He is probably wondering what to do as well and even if he's not crazy about valentine's might not want to offend early in the game.

I suspect, from how you've discribed him, that it might be awkward if you do something and he doesn't.



#16 claptrap

Posted 06 February 2013 - 08:13 PM

QUOTE (WizzFizz @ 06/02/2013, 08:48 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Tough one !

Given its so early in the relationship I'd probably just send a cheeky "be my valentine ?" Text message or when you see him the following day give him one of those little chocolate love hearts and just say happy valentines.

Or you could just wait and see if he does anything first.....


Thanks, yes I think that's probably what I will end up doing.

QUOTE (Soprano-Cat @ 06/02/2013, 08:53 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Are you up to the Valentine's bonking stage of the relationship, or still too soon? Tounge1.gif


Errmmm - let's just say I've applied brakes for the time being; due to past history I'm rather wary of getting involved too quickly.

#17 Bunsen the feral

Posted 06 February 2013 - 08:16 PM

Personally I'm more excited about Pancake Day, and further proof I married the right man so is DH.

Showing both my age and how long it's been since I was last single my safe gift for Valentines if unsure was to make a mix tape - non committal, humorous and cheap but could carry the sentiment if required. How on earth do the kids to it these days?

#18 Beanbag Warrior

Posted 06 February 2013 - 08:19 PM

Understandable, but a pity, a V-Day bonk is always a good present!

#19 Jellyblush

Posted 06 February 2013 - 08:26 PM

If it's new, but you are expecting to spend the night with him, I'd splurge on a fancy bottle of bubbles to have when you get home. It's not too 'valentines' or naff, but it something that shows him you thought of him and marks the day.

If you're not, and are just catching up and going home separately, order glass of fancy bubbles and toast him.

#20 Riotproof

Posted 06 February 2013 - 08:35 PM

Dh and I don't always pay attention to it, but I do think it's nice to do something special every now and again. I have plans to put some heart shaped biscuits in my dh's work bag and I'm making a special dinner.
I'm not interested in massive heart hugging bears or even roses, its just a chance say love you doing something demonstrative.

For a new love, I think a small, token, gag gift would be cute. That waqy it's not embarrassing if he hasn't done anything.

#21 claptrap

Posted 06 February 2013 - 08:40 PM

I'm sorry Riotproof and Purple Witch, the notion of a gag gift has all kinds of other connotations for me.  I sincerely hope you mean a joke gift  tongue.gif



#22 madmother

Posted 06 February 2013 - 08:41 PM

My best effort is explained HERE.

He is still trying to come up with something... after 20 years.  ohmy.gif

#23 **Xena**

Posted 06 February 2013 - 09:43 PM

Champers and sex, works everytime wink.gif

#24 Riotproof

Posted 06 February 2013 - 09:44 PM

QUOTE (dogged @ 06/02/2013, 09:40 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I'm sorry Riotproof and Purple Witch, the notion of a gag gift has all kinds of other connotations for me.  I sincerely hope you mean a joke gift  tongue.gif

Ahem, well that depends, but I did mean something a little cute and sweet.

#25 Feral Madam Mim

Posted 06 February 2013 - 10:11 PM

I've told DH we are going to go see Hansel and Gretel (romance at its finest ladies  biggrin.gif  )




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