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#1 VickiLong

Posted 06 February 2013 - 01:20 PM

Can the names we give our children affect the type of person (and child) they will be?
Do certain names conjur up visions of a nerdy boy, popuar girl or bully? are these visions founded or simply a reaction to people we have met or heard of in the past?

On the same note, should you consider what you child may look like when deciding on names, for example a blue eyed/blonde hair boy may be better suited to Cody that Antonio.

Two boys names on my current favourite list are Preston and Lincoln, but I cant help invisioning a Preston as a bit of a nerd, lacking in friends, and to me when I hear Lincoln I see a strong, ruff, bully type of kid.
I dont want to offend anyone, at all, I love these names!!! but want to know if others have pre-existing opinions of the type of child when they hear a name and if that could potentially have an affect of the child.

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Edited to correct spelling original.gif thanks Julie

Edited by VickiLong, 06 February 2013 - 02:37 PM.


#2 Dylan's Mummy

Posted 06 February 2013 - 02:22 PM

I think that people associate certain names with a personality and different people have different views in the personality that goes with a name. Funny you mention the name Preston, too me that name conjors up a preppy rich boy but my SS went to school with a Preston who was a bit of a bully who got into a lot of trouble, he is very good at sport though. A name like Ivan seems really nerdy to me. There are some girls names that are really cute for a little girl but seem bimboish for an adult. Some name seem like stripper names.

#3 niggles

Posted 06 February 2013 - 02:22 PM

I read an article once that presented pretty good arguments that it does. But I think it slots in next to a range of other influences and so could easily become insignificant.

It's important to me that the sound, feel and association of names are positive but it's all so varied, and people are so experimental and wide in their choices these days that I think the influence of a name will lessen.

I think meanings can be important to the individual and their family but they aren't usually well known so I think it's unlikely that they will shape the social responses of people in the child's life. I have a brunette daughter whose name means 'golden haired' so it clearly didn't stop me.

#4 Hattie

Posted 06 February 2013 - 02:28 PM

It's Lincoln.

I think certain types of names are likely to mark a person in a certain way, but that is not a popular opinion on EB.

Cheers,
Julie

#5 Feral Madam Mim

Posted 06 February 2013 - 02:33 PM

There are some names I have certain associations with, for example I picture a Wesley as a bit of a geek (I think we can blame Buffy for that lol), and then there are names I think are awful for the tease factor, another example is Apple or Blue. I don't think we all see the names the same way, for instance I rather like Preston and personally picture a sporty guy everyone likes, same goes for Lincoln.

#6 Feral_Pooks

Posted 06 February 2013 - 02:35 PM

I think some names are a lot more loaded then others. In some cases they might have some kind of impact on how the kid is perceived. IME, when a name either clashes with or amplifies a characteristic, it's a bit of a shame. For example, if you have a really shy kid and give them a name with major swagger like Baron, Axel, Blaze, the contrast can be a bit amusing, or perhaps people form the perception of a more outgoing kid from the name then have to review that IF they give time and attention. Or if they are really shy and then you name them Colin or Nigel, the tendency to pigeonhole them as a quiet nerd could be a bit irresistible, especially for passing acquaintances.

I met a little girl with a name that sounded just like Fierce, but spelled differently, and she was sweet and timid, I did think that was quite a name to live up to and I wondered what a new teacher would be conjuring up in her head as she read it on the school roll, as opposed to an Isobel or Lucy.

#7 niggles

Posted 06 February 2013 - 02:36 PM

QUOTE (mad madam mim @ 06/02/2013, 12:33 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
There are some names I have certain associations with, for example I picture a Wesley as a bit of a geek (I think we can blame Buffy for that lol),


You're watching the wrong things. This is Wesley:




#8 cinnabubble

Posted 06 February 2013 - 02:38 PM

It's best not to use a name if you can't spell it.



#9 ellebelle

Posted 06 February 2013 - 02:38 PM

It seems nearly anything goes nowadays. When I was at school and there were 6 Lisa, 3 Susan and 4 Michelles, Yasmin was pretty strange....but I marvel at the vast array of names in my son's class. Hence, I think it is less likely you will be judged.

#10 FeralBob!

Posted 06 February 2013 - 02:41 PM

I've always had problems within people who call their dark skinned children Bianca or their pale as the driven snow children Ebony, as one example.

#11 steppy

Posted 06 February 2013 - 02:42 PM

QUOTE (niggles @ 06/02/2013, 03:36 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
You're watching the wrong things. This is Wesley:



Indeed. And also, by the end of Angel, Wesley was ubercool and the best character in the whole series.

Edited by steppy, 06 February 2013 - 02:43 PM.


#12 ellebelle

Posted 06 February 2013 - 02:43 PM

dp

Edited by ellebelle, 06 February 2013 - 02:44 PM.


#13 TinyTeddys

Posted 06 February 2013 - 02:56 PM

I think it is us who judge a child's name more than other children. My son had his FYOS last year and I was stunned at the some of the names in the class where as my son wasn't fussed.

You hear of teachers saying things about particular names but there will always be children who don't fit the mould...

OP - I like Lincoln.

#14 Feral Madam Mim

Posted 06 February 2013 - 03:52 PM

lol I know, but I will forever remember him like this

#15 Dylan's Mummy

Posted 06 February 2013 - 04:00 PM

QUOTE (ellebelle @ 06/02/2013, 02:38 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
It seems nearly anything goes nowadays. When I was at school and there were 6 Lisa, 3 Susan and 4 Michelles, Yasmin was pretty strange....but I marvel at the vast array of names in my son's class. Hence, I think it is less likely you will be judged.


I take it you are a 70's baby? I remember in high school and beyond, the number of guys named Jason and Michael.

#16 la di dah

Posted 06 February 2013 - 04:02 PM

QUOTE (WingBob @ 06/02/2013, 03:41 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I've always had problems within people who call their dark skinned children Bianca or their pale as the driven snow children Ebony, as one example.


I had always thought of Ebony as a black pride name, and that was the context I was used to it in, along with the several Cinnamons I knew, and one really gorgeous girl I knew long, long ago (so born in the '80s) named Topaz. I kind of had Raven half in that box as well.

I was rather surprised when I moved out here and was told on EB that for many Aussies, Ebony was no more a racial statement than Violet.

I was REALLY perplexed when on EB someone said "how could you use Sienna, it means brown?!" like that was the worst thing in the world.



#17 mini mac

Posted 06 February 2013 - 04:11 PM

20-30 years ago definitely. These days, not so sure as there are sooo many names out there.

What I would like to know is if it is the name choice, or the type of parent that named them that encourages that personality type???

Like maybe a more specific demographic is likely to have more names like Jayden and Kai type bully/rough or hippy/surfy names etc and another will have more of the Charles and Preston proper nerdy type of name (bad examples, I know and sorry if I've offended anyone)

#18 Guest_Dinah_Harris_*

Posted 06 February 2013 - 04:12 PM

Only on EB.   If you name your daughter Crystal, for example, you are dooming her for a life on the strippers pole.   If only you'd named her Margaret,  she would have been prime minister.
Obviously I think what parents name their children is nobody else's business.

#19 archygrouseferal

Posted 06 February 2013 - 04:14 PM

QUOTE (VickiLong @ 06/02/2013, 02:20 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Can the names we give our children affect the type of person (and child) they will be?


Only if it's a boy and you call him Sue.

(Can't believe I'm the first to say that)

#20 blackbird

Posted 06 February 2013 - 04:32 PM

QUOTE (niggles @ 06/02/2013, 03:36 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
You're watching the wrong things. This is Wesley:




^ oh yeah!

sorry, not much else to add..

#21 kpingitquiet

Posted 06 February 2013 - 04:33 PM

I've only ever known one Preston and he was/is tall, black, quarterback of the high school football team, smart, popular, and is now the reverend of a beautiful country church.

#22 Guest_Dinah_Harris_*

Posted 06 February 2013 - 04:43 PM

QUOTE (kpingitquiet @ 06/02/2013, 04:33 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I've only ever known one Preston and he was/is tall, black, quarterback of the high school football team, smart, popular, and is now the reverend of a beautiful country church.


You have given me a new appreciation for the name Preston.  He sounds.....delightful.

#23 chickenpants

Posted 06 February 2013 - 05:05 PM

QUOTE (niggles @ 06/02/2013, 02:36 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
You're watching the wrong things. This is Wesley:



Yay, Wesley!


I know we had 2 names picked out in case my DS was a DD.  Because I am fair and my DH is dark, the name the baby got depended on whose colouring the baby took after. One suited a fairer complexion while the other we thought was better for a girl with darker features.

#24 Ingrid the Swan

Posted 06 February 2013 - 05:33 PM

QUOTE (niggles @ 06/02/2013, 03:06 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
You're watching the wrong things. This is Wesley:



Sorry to be pedantic but that's Westley.

Having accepted that DP will never like Wesley due to the kid on Star Trek, I'm relying on the distinction to get Westley over the line :-P

#25 CountryFeral

Posted 06 February 2013 - 05:46 PM

Well the only Preston I've known was a gorgeous uber cool guy whom I made a giant horse bum of myself in front of in a dreadfully misguided, drunken attempt to impress.

He was SO cool he just politely moved along and never mentioned it again..

Lincolns have been either naughty little LSE boys or adult binge drinkers!






QUOTE (WingBob @ 06/02/2013, 03:41 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I've always had problems within people who call their dark skinned children Bianca or their pale as the driven snow children Ebony, as one example.


I'm Melanie.

I practically glow in the dark, and have Germans approach me speaking IN German so I am not what a Melanie should be pigment wise!

I like to think I am also not "a mealy mouthed minnie" but I guess that is in the eye of the beholder....




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