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#1 Jupiter123

Posted 06 February 2013 - 08:28 AM

I am attending a Military Dinner on Friday night, and just have a couple of questions about what I am wearing. Dress Code is after 5 wear. DH will be wearing his Mess Kit.

I am a jeans/shorts and t-shirt kind of girl nowadays, so I just want to check what you all think of this dress and shoes and should I be wearing stockings.

This dress I already own, the only difference is the belt loop on mine is black not silver.

http://tlbde.com/images/D/ring-wrap-dress-...ter-sleeve3.jpg

The shoes are totally me, I am not one for plain simple shoes and these are about as plain as I can go.

http://cdn2.bigcommerce.com/server1600/132...8.1280.1280.jpg

What do you think, and should I be wearing nude stockings with this?

#2 Funwith3

Posted 06 February 2013 - 08:44 AM

OMG love the shoes!!! You'll look hot. I wouldn't bother with stockings.

#3 ~sydblue~

Posted 06 February 2013 - 08:49 AM

Looking at what my SIL & niece used to and still do wear. The dress is a go, but the shoes may be a bit OTT.

#4 .MrsM.

Posted 06 February 2013 - 08:55 AM

outfit is nice, shoes add a touch of cool. i'd wear a chunky silver necklace to match the studs on the shoes.

don't wear stockings though original.gif

#5 katpaws

Posted 06 February 2013 - 08:57 AM

Think i have to agree with SydBlue. The shoes are more disco than after five/formal. Plus your feet will be aching something chronic in them if you have to stand for any length of time in them. Plainer and less high shoes may be better.

#6 Jupiter123

Posted 06 February 2013 - 09:36 AM

Ok thanks ladies, I will keep that in mind.

I am going shopping for shoes shortly, but I just wanted some opinions as these were the only ones I found that I liked that were "me".

I like understated clothing but I can't do understated shoes it's just not in me lol

I also live in a small town, so not a huge range of shoe stores available unless I travel to the big city.




#7 *LucyE*

Posted 06 February 2013 - 10:15 AM

I think the shoes are fine for 'after 5' wear.

I'm conservative so would wear stockings though.

Some matching bling and you'll look fabulous.

#8 a letter to Elise.

Posted 06 February 2013 - 10:21 AM

I think the dress is simple enough that the shoes won't look over the top. I think it would only look "nightclubby" if you wore them with a skimpy outfit.

Get them. It's a great outfit.

#9 ~sydblue~

Posted 06 February 2013 - 10:25 AM

QUOTE (jupiter123 @ 06/02/2013, 10:36 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Ok thanks ladies, I will keep that in mind.

I am going shopping for shoes shortly, but I just wanted some opinions as these were the only ones I found that I liked that were "me".

I like understated clothing but I can't do understated shoes it's just not in me lol

I also live in a small town, so not a huge range of shoe stores available unless I travel to the big city.

I am only thinking about the whole Military thing my SIL used to talk about. They had to dress right and act a certain way etc. due to her husbands position.

#10 Tobias'smum

Posted 06 February 2013 - 10:29 AM

ifmthe toes are open toes please do not wear stockings unles they are toeless ones

I am also the same as PP the shoes are a bit much for after 5 military type function dress code  the same without the spikes would be better



#11 noi'mnot

Posted 06 February 2013 - 10:32 AM

I think the shoes with that particular dress, in my opinion they are pretty understated, for what they are!

With a different pair of shoes I might suggest that the dress isn't "after 5" but I think those shoes make it work.

Enjoy! original.gif

#12 TheGreenSheep

Posted 06 February 2013 - 10:33 AM

Im going against the grain and say that the dress is too casual, not 'after 5' IMO.

#13 rosie28

Posted 06 February 2013 - 10:45 AM

I like the dress, but it probably is a little casual to be "after 5". The shoes without the spikes would probably make the dress a bit more formal looking, but with the spikes just make it look more casual I think. I'd go for a similar shaped shoe in patent leather perhaps? Or you could wear colourful shoes, that would brighten up the black dress. Regardless, if the shoes are open toe, please, for the love of all things shoe related, do not wear stockings. It looks awful. If you think stockings are necessary (and I often do, I'm sitting here at work on a 35 degree day in stockings because I work in a coservative law firm), then wear closed toe shoes.

#14 Mitis angelam

Posted 06 February 2013 - 10:51 AM

I think the dress is casual (but might just do with the right accessories if you didn't have/couldn't afford something else), the shoes are more nightclub than formal (I'd say go for something closed, without the spikes and in a more conservative style), and I agree with others that stockings with open toes are a no.



#15 2sweetbabies

Posted 06 February 2013 - 11:02 AM

I think it depends what is stated is it a cocktail affair or a dinner.I've gone to plenty of  officer mess functions and have seen people interpret dress code differently  I would say the dress is suitable for cocktail but not for a sit down. Having said that I have seen people turn up with much less formal attire than that dress for Officer Mess balls so you will be safe in that dress. Hope that helps.

#16 Jupiter123

Posted 06 February 2013 - 01:26 PM

QUOTE (~sydblue~ @ 06/02/2013, 10:25 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I am only thinking about the whole Military thing my SIL used to talk about. They had to dress right and act a certain way etc. due to her husbands position.


I get that, and I am expected to act and dress a particular way which is why I thought the dress would be suitable.

With the shoes, I am an out there shoe girl generally loud and proud, which is why I was after something a little less loud but still me.

My DH has seen the shoes, and he is fine with them even if they are a little higher than he would like (they make me a smidge taller than him), but he is use to that.

I just had another look at the dress and it is of this style I posted but it does appear to be a little dressier. It is a below the knee, 3/4 sleeve and does look more evening/formal once on that what that dress I uploaded does.

I did buy the shoes as I have been eyeing them off they go beautifully with the dress. Gives it a little bit of an edge.

I have some nice necklaces and earrings to wear which will add to the dress. I am just tossing between which earrings and which necklace at the moment lol.

The dinner is a sit down dinner and after 5 is the dress code that I was given. Its just a dinner so no long evening gowns etc I will save them for a Military Ball.

I do have another dress I could wear but I don't feel comfortable in it at the moment and I don't think its quite suitable also I could go and buy another dress but I don't really want to, its rare that I wear them at the moment and don't really want to spend the money on a dress that I might not wear again for another 12 Months.

Thanks 2sweetbabies, safe is good. My biggest fear is of being either overdressed or under-dressed.

Thank you for your help ladies, I really appreciate it and you gave me something to really think about whilst shopping.




#17 Cheryl_v

Posted 06 February 2013 - 02:54 PM

If it's a mess dinner you should be ok.  There will be a wide range of dresses if the last one I went to is anything to go by but as long as the dress is relatively conservative (which yours is) and close enough to knee length it fits the dress code.  The last one I went to there were people wearing everything from ball gowns to what I would consider work skirt suits.




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