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#1 flowermama

Posted 05 February 2013 - 06:42 AM

DD1 has never been to daycare and has just started kindy (yesterday was her first full day after 2 half days last week). She got a bit upset yesterday during the day missing me but otherwise has been pretty good. Last night though she was awake endlessly in tears, probably 8-9 times. She's got a sniffly nose this morning - it's not running but her breathing is congested (DD2 has had quite a bad cold for a few days). I'm not sure whether to send her to kindy today or not - her nose isn't actually running yet but I can tell she's definitely getting a cold. I don't want her to miss any kindy so early into the term as think it's important for her to get into the routine of it all but don't want to be the mum passing on her kid's cold! So where do you draw the line, how do you decide whether they're ok to go or better to stay at home??

#2 Natttmumm

Posted 05 February 2013 - 06:53 AM

Sounds like she will be miserable and tired but it is an important day. It's its only half a day and she's eating ok and no temperature I would probably give some panadol and send her.

#3 The Falcon

Posted 05 February 2013 - 06:56 AM

As my kids are in LDC and I have to work its a pretty simple decision.  If they have one of the exclusion symptoms they stay home, if not they go to kindy.  Exclusion symptoms are a fever, diorea (sp?), green snot, any contagious rash, or they are unable to cope with the daily routine.

If your DD hasn't been to daycare or kindy before you are likely looking at 12 months of colds, coughs etc so I don't think you should keep her home just because she might be getting a cold.

#4 Crap Napper

Posted 05 February 2013 - 06:59 AM

If is is a full day, I would keep her home. You know how crap you feel when you are coming down with something? Imagine dealing with that, being away from home in a strange environment AND having a full day of learning and socialising with strangers. She'll be happier at home, and will hopefully get over it quicker if she is allowed to rest. She's got plenty of time to get into the routine, and the experience will be much more positive for her if she is well.

#5 Tesseract

Posted 05 February 2013 - 07:02 AM

I usually send her if she doesn't have exclusion symptoms and is not miserable. In the instance you've described I probably wouldn't just because if I'd been up all night I wouldn't want to go to work. But it is an important day, if you think she'll perk up no harm in sending her. I also have grandmas on call when DD is sick so I don't need to miss week I can be a but more forgiving.

#6 ~Tranquillity~

Posted 05 February 2013 - 07:02 AM

I wouldn't send her if she's been up all night and is genuinely miserable (the early stages of a cold when you feel achey, tired etc can be horrible!). It's not like it's the very first day and there's plenty of time to get into the routine.

It can be hard though, my DS is complaining of a vague 'sore tummy' and campaigning hard not to go to school! Seeing as he's just polished off two pieces of toast and appears otherwise fine he will be going.

#7 Crap Napper

Posted 05 February 2013 - 07:07 AM

QUOTE
It can be hard though, my DS is complaining of a vague 'sore tummy' and campaigning hard not to go to school! Seeing as he's just polished off two pieces of toast and appears otherwise fine he will be going.]


Mmmmm. DD1 did this late last year and then vomited in the car on the way to school  laugh.gif . Be warned!

Edited by Schnitzelvonkrumb, 05 February 2013 - 07:09 AM.


#8 podg

Posted 05 February 2013 - 07:10 AM

Sounds like the poor little girl has been miserable. I'd keep her home. Not to avoid the other kids catching it, but for her sake.

#9 ~sydblue~

Posted 05 February 2013 - 07:14 AM

Well I have DD8yrs at home today. She was playing with her sister yesterday afternoon and kissed the floor with her forehead. Big egg and bruise. She said it still hurt this morning even an hour after panadol. So am just keeping her quiet for the day and will see how she is before going to the doctor tonight.

#10 Julie3Girls

Posted 05 February 2013 - 07:16 AM

Hard call as it is possible part of it is not wanting to be away from you. The sleeplessness might have been worry about school, which is really only going to get better by getting used to school.

I'd probably get her ready for school, see if you can her a bit up about seeing the other kids and the teacher. Sometimes my girls perk up once they are up and moving.

If you do send her, have a quick word to the teacher, about her night, and point out you are available to pick her up if she gets worse at all.

#11 Isolabella

Posted 05 February 2013 - 07:16 AM

Actually Green Snot is not bad. That came from the Dr when I took my child with Green snot.

http://www.careforkids.com.au/newsletter/2.../sick-kids.html

Is Green Snot More Infectious?

Certainly many child care centres now adopt a policy of "green snot, child stays home" and would have you believe they are desperately infectious with this…According to most GPs, generally speaking, green snot for up to a week is a natural part of the common cold and does not mean your child has a bacterial infection. It simply means his or her body is fighting the cold. Green snot is of course unpleasant for the sufferer and carer to deal with, but it's no more infectious than any other part of their cold.

Edited by lsolaBella, 05 February 2013 - 07:18 AM.


#12 CalEliKat

Posted 05 February 2013 - 07:19 AM

Yesterday I had DS dressed and ready for school, despite his carry on about a sore stomach, and dammit he was going, right up until he projectile vomited across my kitchen.

#13 caroldiem

Posted 05 February 2013 - 07:20 AM

I would not send her to school if u do she will be a lot worse tomorrow, if u keep her home now there's a good chance she will fight it off and be much better tomorrow. Plus sending her means she has just potentially infected her whole class original.gif isn't that just wonderful

#14 SnazzyFeral

Posted 05 February 2013 - 07:55 AM

QUOTE (caroldiem @ 05/02/2013, 08:20 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I would not send her to school if u do she will be a lot worse tomorrow, if u keep her home now there's a good chance she will fight it off and be much better tomorrow. Plus sending her means she has just potentially infected her whole class original.gif isn't that just wonderful


The OP said she went to school yeterday so there is a good chance that the kids are already infected.



#15 MrsLexiK

Posted 05 February 2013 - 07:56 AM

Was she up crying because she is getting sick or for a different reason? I know when I cry a lot my nose gets all stuffed up and sounds like I am coming down with a cold.

#16 *cough*

Posted 05 February 2013 - 07:58 AM

Isn't this when she would be contagious?

Ie before major symptoms?

#17 SnazzyFeral

Posted 05 February 2013 - 08:04 AM

QUOTE (*cough* @ 05/02/2013, 08:58 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Isn't this when she would be contagious?

Ie before major symptoms?


Yeah but you are contagious for a couple of days before symptoms show so if she has a stuffy nose today then she could have been contagious since saturday or sunday. Although she would now be entering her mot contagious stage so anyone not already infected has a greater chance of getting it today but I wouldn't not stend her for just that reason because i think it is a bit stable doorish.

Edited by SnazzySass, 05 February 2013 - 08:07 AM.


#18 EsmeLennox

Posted 05 February 2013 - 08:04 AM

Are you sure she's not just sniffly because she's been up crying a lot? Are you sure the distress isn't to do with the separation from you? I don't know if I would think this is necessarily her getting sick.

My rules for 'sick' kids (I has one who tries it on A LOT):

Produce vomit or diarrhea or you're going to school.
Have a temperature.
Be genuinely lethargic.

This generally works out pretty well... I have only sent the faker once where he's actually been sick and got the call at work to pick him up.

Edited by Jemstar, 05 February 2013 - 02:51 PM.


#19 Le-a

Posted 05 February 2013 - 08:15 AM

QUOTE (kate789 @ 05/02/2013, 07:56 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
As my kids are in LDC and I have to work its a pretty simple decision.


DS started daycare last year and was sick the whole time. I missed a lot of work because either 1. I refused to send him to DC when he was miserable and sick (despite often not having exclusion- worthy symptoms), and i wanted to do my best to make sure other households didnt catch it, or 2. I had caught a bug from him, and didn't think it fair to spread the love throught my workplace. I get the feeling if other DC families took this approach there would be less sick-days all-round.

I wouldn't send her, op. She'll catch up on things soon enough.

#20 The 7 Dwarfs

Posted 05 February 2013 - 08:24 AM

If they have something infectious which may be spread to others they stay home. However I wouldn't keep a child home who I thought might get a cold. I'd need to see some kind of evidence of infection.  

If not the above, if they are impacted by the condition enough that they wouldn't be able to learn anyhow, there is no point them suffering through a day of school for no benefit.

As for spreading it to the rest of the class, well they would have already done it unknowingly the day prior and I'm not letting my children miss a day of school on a 'what if'.

#21 lozoodle

Posted 05 February 2013 - 08:41 AM

If she seems miserable, I would keep her home.

A slight sniffle is one thing if the child is otherwise happy and running around and eating as usual, and no fever. But when they are miserable thats a fairly good indication that they feel like crap. How would you like being fobbed off to school if you felt like that.

That, and no one else wants to get it!

#22 cward

Posted 05 February 2013 - 09:39 AM

QUOTE
If she seems miserable, I would keep her home.
yes but is she just miserable because she doesn't want to go to school.

I am assuming when you say Kindy you mean FYOS?  if so I would defintely send her.  If she is not really sick enough to stay home but wants to because school is different and she wants to be with you then I would send her because otherwise you are opening yourself up to her trying to stay home all the time.  Also she needs to get into the routine of school and make some friends.

If you are talking pre-school, I would probably feel the same but may be more inclined to let her stay home.



#23 lozoodle

Posted 05 February 2013 - 09:42 AM

QUOTE (cward @ 05/02/2013, 10:39 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
yes but is she just miserable because she doesn't want to go to school.


I mean miserable as in seems a bit lethargic, not quite herself, not just bunging it on to get out of something miserable original.gif



#24 flowermama

Posted 05 February 2013 - 10:15 AM

I decided to send her, she was happy running around and playing and her nose isn't blocked at all, just a bit sniffly. It's kindy in Queensland so similar to pre-school (she does a 5 day fortnight). I'm not overly worried about her spreading something as there were several kids there yesterday with runny noses and coughs so I imagine it's a bit late to worry about germs spreading! I think some of it is genuine early stages of a cold and some is separation anxiety. I spoke to the teachers and asked them to call me if they think she needs to be at home but they agreed she seemed fine and she was happy to go. So hopefully I made the right decision! If she deteriorates I'll keep her home tomorrow but seems a bit preemptive to keep her home for something she doesn't really even have yet.

#25 The Falcon

Posted 05 February 2013 - 11:31 AM

QUOTE (Le-a @ 05/02/2013, 09:15 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
DS started daycare last year and was sick the whole time. I missed a lot of work because either 1. I refused to send him to DC when he was miserable and sick (despite often not having exclusion- worthy symptoms), and i wanted to do my best to make sure other households didnt catch it, or 2. I had caught a bug from him, and didn't think it fair to spread the love throught my workplace. I get the feeling if other DC families took this approach there would be less sick-days all-round.

I wouldn't send her, op. She'll catch up on things soon enough.


Thats a really nice idea, but unfortunately when you have 2 children you use up your sick days pretty quickly with the exclusion symptoms, you can't afford to let your clients down or take a day without pay just because a child has a bit of a sniffle and is a bit unhappy.  Most employers trust that you will only take a sick day when it is necessary, and those that take advantage will pretty quickly find they have earned themselves a bad name with everything that brings.




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