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#1 mrs_tee

Posted 04 February 2013 - 11:51 AM

I'm just looking for some advice from fellow EBers on how you and your partners managed to compromise/agree when coming up with a name? My DH and I haven't come up with boy names for our 1st baby due in May, and its making me feel like if it is a boy the poor little thing won't have a name!

I like:
Leo (my favourite)
Flynn
Patrick
Rhett (my all time favourite but doesn't work at all with our surname)

DH has hardly contributed any ideas but is very quick to poo-poo my suggestions...

Any advice on how to go about finding something we both love??

#2 Katie_bella

Posted 04 February 2013 - 11:56 AM

Both write a list of 15 names each, swap lists, cross off what you hate from the list and go from there....

Mind you, i've posted plenty of times in here desperate for advice for a baby name, so maybe i'm not the best one to give advice biggrin.gif

#3 PrincessPeach

Posted 04 February 2013 - 12:02 PM

What BIL & SIL had to do was come up with a list of 20 names each, they then sat down with the other person's list & had to circle 5 names they could live with.

Doing that, it turned out they liked 1 name the same & 1 name they could both live with - so that is how number 2 was named - 4 weeks after being born.

#4 Jax12

Posted 04 February 2013 - 12:04 PM

Can you maybe ask him to go away and make a list of names, say 20 or so, and then you can cross reference with your own list and see if there are any similarities?  I gave DH a baby name book and he went away and did the first name on both of our lists was the same!

(I was interrupted and late to post but it seems that this is common advice)

#5 sjm218

Posted 04 February 2013 - 12:06 PM

My DH was like yours until about 3 weeks before DS was born and then we got right down to business - list of 10 each - lots of overlaps - ended up going with two names we loved in his order. I wanted X Y, he wanted Y X about a week before he was born. I'm so glad we did it his way now.

With DD it was the same except we got to 3 variants of the one name and after she had been born she remained unnamed for 8 hours. He went home to get something and when he got back I said her name is z. He went cool and we were done.

I think even though May seems close for you, it seems forever to others. I also think men are more superstitious than they say.

#6 Bluemakede

Posted 04 February 2013 - 12:12 PM

I'm the same, if this baby comes out a boy it'll have no name. As it is for girls names he didn't like many of my suggestions, we have a girls list now of 3 names, we both have a favourite from the 3, but it's not the same name lol.

For the girls I ended up going through a massive list and wrote down the ones he liked, then removed the ones I didn't like. I think I read out about 150 names or so and we had a list of 6 and ended up with 3 from there, and will probably not agree on the final name till registration time is up  rolleyes.gif

#7 Gudrun

Posted 04 February 2013 - 12:14 PM

Sorry no help but it should be Leo Patrick original.gif

Lovely!

#8 FurryTongue

Posted 04 February 2013 - 12:27 PM

My DH was the same with my first child and shot down all my suggestions but had barely any of his own. So I told him if he had nothing to suggest then I get naming rights. He still didn't really contribute and in the end we went with the name I loved the most and DH's middle name. He was happy with that. The naming thing just wasn't that important to him.
With my second child my expectations were alot less on DH and I basically chose the name and he said "ok" and that was that.
Personally I would go with Flynn but I am totally biased as it is the name of one of my children!

#9 kerilyntaryn

Posted 04 February 2013 - 02:26 PM

Leo - is ok  or Leon or Theo
Flynn - is ok
Patrick - is nice
Rhett - is nice,  what about Rhys, Ryan,  Brock, Brant, Grant, Brent, Bryce







#10 busymumof1&1/2

Posted 04 February 2013 - 02:32 PM

Give him the baby name book and you have Veto power. This was how we named DD2, after 3 weeks  biggrin.gif

#11 Guest_divineM_*

Posted 04 February 2013 - 02:45 PM

Love Leo.  We also struggled with agrreing on names. The name DD ended up with was my absolute favourite but DH was originally not keen. I kept mentioning it and mentioning it and eventually he agreed it was ok. Now he loves it and cannot imagine her being named anything else!

#12 alwayshappy

Posted 04 February 2013 - 02:53 PM

My Dad is Leo and my brother is Patrick.  My brother was born one day before my Dad's birthday. So I suggest Leo Patrick or Patrick Leo, though I do LOVE Rhett.

Edited by alwayshappy, 04 February 2013 - 02:56 PM.


#13 mini mac

Posted 04 February 2013 - 03:20 PM

We had a list going both times and we constantly chopped and changed names we loved or hated. We had some very heated conversations about how on earth we would agree on names as our taste is very different.

And gee its hard to name someone you haven't met yet!

If there was something either of us hated it generally got chopped straight away. I even left a few on the list for a while as I felt so bad I didn't like most names DH picked out!!

Eventually a few kept popping up that we both liked and from that list I let DH choose both times at the birth once we knew the gender.

From your list I love Patrick (totally biased) and like Leo too.  

And OP, dont worry. You've got some time up your sleeve. Maybe take a break from the naming game for a few weeks and you'll not feel so pressured to make a decision when you come back to your list or keep looking for fresh names. It can get very overwhelming. The right name will come to you both.

Edited by Mini Mac, 04 February 2013 - 03:23 PM.


#14 Feral_Pooks

Posted 04 February 2013 - 03:28 PM

We each wrote a list of names we would be 100% happy to use over about a week. We swapped lists, We got to strike one of each other's list, no questions asked, the rest were up for debate. If we both ended up agreeing to scratch a name, we did. For instance, there was a family use of the name, or it was the name of the school bully, the initials were strange together, whatever. So we were left with about 6 names to play with, and in the end we both came to feel strongest about one and that's what we went with.

Your DH has to make some suggestions.

#15 fifi-trixibelle

Posted 04 February 2013 - 05:25 PM

Patrick Flynn, love that.




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