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#1 purpleblackqueen

Posted 04 February 2013 - 09:18 AM

I was going to finish DD's room today, (still not unpacked from moving in), there is junk everywhere.

DD started last night, and I was going to finish it today. But this morning she pleaded with me to let her do it and she has been pestering me for IPOD credit.

So I am thinking about giving her the chance to do it, in return for $30 Ipod Credit, but it has to be fully, properly finished by Thursday night (otherwise credit would be reduced and I finish on Friday)

We have people coming to visit on the weekend.

DD is 11.

WDYT? Am I making a rod for my back here, or doing the fair thing by her.

#2 Madnesscraves

Posted 04 February 2013 - 09:22 AM

I think you should let her do it.

#3 Nanaimo Girl

Posted 04 February 2013 - 09:22 AM

I'd give her the chance to do it, but $30 worth of credit seems excessive. Does she get regular pocket money?

#4 lafonda

Posted 04 February 2013 - 09:25 AM

I would let her

#5 purpleblackqueen

Posted 04 February 2013 - 09:25 AM

QUOTE (Nanaimo Girl @ 04/02/2013, 10:22 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I'd give her the chance to do it, but $30 worth of credit seems excessive. Does she get regular pocket money?


No they dont get regular pocket money, but that is something I want to start later in the year.

#6 Therese

Posted 04 February 2013 - 09:25 AM

I would let her do it as well.

#7 lozoodle

Posted 04 February 2013 - 09:26 AM

Yep I think let her do it, it will be a good chance for her to learn conseuqences if she doesn't do it also (i.e. no Ipod credit)

#8 iheartu

Posted 04 February 2013 - 09:27 AM

$30 seems like a lot just to clean her room really!

I would maybe give her $10 - $20 if she wants to earn her credit but make sure she knows its a one off and maybe set up a pocket money system so she (and your son) can help with your never ending lists original.gif maybe something like $2 for unloading the dishwasher, $1 for sweeping etc etc...

I've seen some great pocket money/ reward systems on Pinterest that you could use original.gif


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Edited by iheartu, 04 February 2013 - 09:34 AM.


#9 noi'mnot

Posted 04 February 2013 - 09:27 AM

I think it's a great idea, particularly since she suggested it.

Maybe that amount of credit is a bit excessive, perhaps you don't want to set the precedent that this is the normal payment for work - I'm sure you can talk to her about that, though, if you do think it's too much.

Good luck, I hope it works out! original.gif

#10 Heather11

Posted 04 February 2013 - 09:27 AM

I would let her do it too.

How long does her credit usually last her?

ETA:  I agree that $30 to clean a room does seem excessive.

You have found her currency though.  You can use that to your advantage.  She helps with unloading dishwasher, taking rubbish to bin etc, you can get her itunes credit.

Edited by Heather11, 04 February 2013 - 09:32 AM.


#11 Feral*Spikey*

Posted 04 February 2013 - 09:30 AM

Yep, let her at it.

DD 7yo decided to clean and tidy her room this weekend, because she wanted to.

Never mess with a good vibe from cleaning up your own stuff.... ph34r.gif It is to be encouraged, praised and rewarded at all times.

#12 Country (deci)Mel

Posted 04 February 2013 - 09:31 AM

Let her do it (it is her room after all) and then when she has (yes I'm optimistic!) give her the iPod credit as a special treat because she did such a good job.

I would be wary of using bribes (and that one is a whopper) to get basic family chores done.

The children need to understand that you are not their personal in house slave and that everyone pulls their OWN weight to keep a happy home running.

#13 bakesgirls

Posted 04 February 2013 - 09:35 AM

I'd let her do it, but the not for $30 credit. Maybe $10 (even then, the job has to be done properly, if not, no money). If she wants $30 she can save up her pocket money for it or earn it. I think $30 is excessive for something that she should be doing anyway.

#14 purpleblackqueen

Posted 04 February 2013 - 09:38 AM

QUOTE (Heather11 @ 04/02/2013, 10:27 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I would let her do it too.

How long does her credit usually last her?

ETA:  I agree that $30 to clean a room does seem excessive.

You have found her currency though.  You can use that to your advantage.  She helps with unloading dishwasher, taking rubbish to bin etc, you can get her itunes credit.



$30 should last her a while, depending on what she down loads. It is more than just cleaning her room, she has bags, boxes, baskets and pile of stuff everywhere from when we moved in.

#15 MrsLexiK

Posted 04 February 2013 - 09:39 AM

I would also let her do it OP.  I don't see something wrong with $30 credit considering you said she doesn't get pocket money at this stage.  I am imagining that it is not just clean up your clothes but she has to unpack some stuff as well etc.

#16 littlemissmessy

Posted 04 February 2013 - 09:39 AM

I think it's perfectly fair for your daughter to do it for credit. My children always do chores for their money or credit for their phone.

#17 YodaTheWrinkledOne

Posted 04 February 2013 - 09:45 AM

I'd let her do it, if that's what she wants.  But I wouldn't be bribing her with iPod credit.  If she wants to do it - fine, she has until Thursday.  Otherwise you finish it off on Friday, no ifs or buts.



#18 Ianthe

Posted 04 February 2013 - 09:48 AM

I think $30 is a lot of money.

Is she capable of doing it pbq? Does she know where things go? It sounds like it could be a pretty overwhelming job. I would be inclined to pay her $1-$2 per task she completes. I think that is more manageable. It would be a shame if she got a lot of it done but got nothing.

And I would clearly explain this is a one off and she won't be paid to keep her room tidy on a regular basis.

#19 purpleblackqueen

Posted 04 February 2013 - 10:41 AM

QUOTE (Ianthe @ 04/02/2013, 10:48 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I think $30 is a lot of money.

Is she capable of doing it pbq? Does she know where things go? It sounds like it could be a pretty overwhelming job. I would be inclined to pay her $1-$2 per task she completes. I think that is more manageable. It would be a shame if she got a lot of it done but got nothing.

And I would clearly explain this is a one off and she won't be paid to keep her room tidy on a regular basis.


I think that with a bit of encouragement she can do it, yes it is a mess, but she saw me unpacking my room last night, which was also a mess (I was up until 11pm) so I think that is what had probed her to want to do it.

Last night she made spots for her clothes herself, and put her ornaments up.



#20 EssentialBludger

Posted 04 February 2013 - 10:46 AM

Absolutely let her do it.

Making a rod for your own back?! I think the opposite! I think you're making a rod for your own back if you keep doing it for her all the time!!

#21 -*meh*-

Posted 04 February 2013 - 10:46 AM

i think its a good idea...

i don't think $30 is excessive as its not just cleaning but also unpacking.

Perhaps give her small goals to achieve each day though with an amount assigned to each goal with a total achievable of $30 though?

#22 raven74

Posted 04 February 2013 - 10:49 AM

As long as you are not allowing her to set herself up to fail.  IF you think she can do it, will follow through and do a satisfactory job, then yes.  I'd be wary of setting such an expensive precedent - $30 is a lot but hey, maybe it's enough incentive for her to do it.  I'd also be setting the rule that it is done properly (and discuss what properly is to you), you get the reward.  Not done properly, no reward.
Make it achieveable for her.  If it isn't, do it together.

#23 Carmen02

Posted 04 February 2013 - 10:51 AM

i think its great let her do it but to be honest wouldnt be going $30, DD is 10 and gets a weekly pocket money of $10 when she cleans her room and does a couple of jobs around the house which havent been done lately so she hasnt had pocket money for 3 weeks.

#24 Beanbag Warrior

Posted 04 February 2013 - 11:03 AM

That's 4 days yeah?

I like the idea of "today's goals"  for $5 a day.  So $20 all up.

Have a chat about what order you both think makes the most sense to do things in, and set them up achievably, then let her at it.   If she's got a list to refer to, it should keep her on task.

#25 lozoodle

Posted 04 February 2013 - 11:23 AM

I actually think $30 is ok as a once off for the inital getting the room sorted and organised in the first place, and maybe you could lead into the regular pocket money from there - i.e. $X per week (whether it be cash, or pooled towards further ipod credit) for maintaining a clean and tidy room. If she doesn't keep her room up to scratch that week, then no pocket money.






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