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#1 necklace

Posted 03 February 2013 - 08:47 AM

My DS is now 4 weeks old & still screams the house down when I change his nappy!! I can't stand it as it really stresses him out. I've tried different things ie..different covers on the change table, dummy, warming the table up first, I've tried before a feed,  in the middle of a feed & at the end but doesn't seem to make a difference. I've learnt to change nappy in a blink of an eye but I don't like him stressing out so much especially the amout of time his going to be having his nappy changed. Does anyone have any suggestions or has anyone's child done this & grew out of it (how long did it take) I just hate changing his nappy in public!!!

#2 Futureself

Posted 03 February 2013 - 08:57 AM

DS HATED being changed and getting dressed at that age too - he just liked being clothed!
He grew out of it quite quickly though so as upsetting as it is, all I just used to sing calmly and happily to him and be quick.

#3 Sally08

Posted 03 February 2013 - 10:09 PM

When DS was a few weeks old he would also cry and got upset when he had his nappy changed. He's now 3 months old and he's fine with it. As a joke between DH and I, we would tell DS as we were changing him that the wipes were "refreshing" and not "cold". original.gif

#4 Feral_Pooks

Posted 03 February 2013 - 10:19 PM

My DS was JUST like this and I cried myself a few times. I will share what helped us. Do you use disposable wipes? I used face washers for the first month or two for this reason, with room temp water/slightly warm. I also tried to keep as much of his body covered and warm as possible. Can you try wrapping him nice a tight, then while you are humming, lying him on your bed and only unwrapping his bottom half. Pop a old-fashioned cloth nappy under his bottom, nice and warm, keep humming. Do a quick nappy change with the warm face washer. Try, if you can, to keep his legs still. I would sort of kneel on the bed and crouch over him, nice and close. Remove the cloth nappy and put his pants back on, wrap his bottom half back up. I kept a bucket near the bed for soiled face washers and cloth nappies. Hum, hum, hum... It keeps you calm. Pick him up and hold him close to you so he feels warm and snug.

DS's main hates at that age were- feeling cold, feeling exposed... so keeping my body close and keeping everything warm or room temp helped.

HTH original.gif

#5 Cacti

Posted 03 February 2013 - 10:22 PM

Try putting a mirror next his face on the change table - my little guy hated nappy changes too, that changed as soon as he could see something interesting.

#6 Leafprincess

Posted 03 February 2013 - 10:31 PM

QUOTE (Cacti @ 03/02/2013, 10:22 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Try putting a mirror next his face on the change table - my little guy hated nappy changes too, that changed as soon as he could see something interesting.


This!

Mine loves nappy changes- from day one I put a retractable "mimsy the flying mouse" mobile on the shelf.
I pull the mouse and it 'flys' up again.
If he starts getting fussy, I pull the mouse, attention goes to the mouse.

Also, try talking them through the change in a sing song voice, I say things like
"let's go change your your nappy"
" ohhh you've done a big wee/pooh"
"We will wipe you down"
" nice, clean nappy going on"
"Nappy on, well done!"

I think it does two things, it anticipates that you are about to do something, rather than just jerking bits around suddenly ( how rude!  tongue.gif )
AND
It helps with their language development

#7 daturah

Posted 04 February 2013 - 06:32 AM

I third the notion of hanging up an interesting toy where he can see. Also, try playing some music for him.

Mine was the same, and he grew out of it. Although át 10 months old, he still whinges when it's time to be dried and dressed after his bath.

#8 lucky 2

Posted 04 February 2013 - 09:12 AM

It is usual for almost all babies to dislike being dressed, undressed etc, they just don't get it, they've been curled up in the womb, temperature regulated, cocooned and then we straighten them out, remove the "edges", roll them around on a change table, ? they become confused, uncomfortable and probably frightened (startle reflex etc).
I'd just get on with the task, ie changing nappy and pick bub up asap.
I'd talk or sing throughout to calm myself or at least try to, dd would still scream.
As pp's say it changes, it's developmentally appropriate for them to do it and it does settle, dd was easier after 3 months, she could interact with her environment more, she could be distracted and not notice or be bothered about those sort of things, only crying if I hurt her (ie sore bum or awkward clothing).
All the best.

#9 lozoodle

Posted 04 February 2013 - 10:04 AM

I must be a sh*t parent because I just ignore it and get on with it laughing2.gif

Don't fret, its common, they get over it original.gif

#10 Fizgig

Posted 04 February 2013 - 10:17 AM

My DD did this too until we moved changes to in the middle of and after feeds, as well as having a musical glow worm going. For ages we had both of us there, one trying to calm DD and the other trying to change her. Add the musical glow worm and she just listens. Now at 3 months I can change her without any distractions and she is fine.

As one of my friends said "How would you like it if someone stripped you naked and wiped cold cloths on you as soon as you woke up?".

Good luck.

Edited by Fizgig, 04 February 2013 - 04:29 PM.


#11 necklace

Posted 05 February 2013 - 10:02 PM

Thanks for the replies!....will give some of those suggestions a try for sure. I did have a small break through every nappy change today DS was a gem  biggrin.gif but don't think its going to last. Cheers again all

#12 first_time_mama

Posted 08 February 2013 - 11:46 AM

My LO has silent reflux and we didn't realise for the first 3 weeks...he would send himself purple and hold his breath screaming on the change table  every nappy change! I think it was from laying flat and having legs raised. He's now on meds and loves having his nappy changed because we have a mobile above it that he loves to look at.
It could also be that until he could see these things above him he was less distracted as he still gags etc when I change him but I try to roll him to his side rather than lift the legs right up.
Just thought I'd share because sometimes these things are a bit of a red flag for something more. shrug.gif




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