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#1 123Babies4Me

Posted 02 February 2013 - 08:54 PM

DS will be 3 in 2 weeks. He had been day and night trained for several months. Now I find myself getting frustrated that he still wants me to do everything for him e.g. pull down his pants, help him flush, pull up pants and wash hands. When can I reasonably expect him to do these things by himself? I know he can do most of them (except washing hands, I don't think he can turn on the tap) because he will when noone is around to help (e.g. if I'm changing DD's nappy). However if I'm not there to coach him through the process once he's done his business he will get off the toilet and start running around.

#2 happening

Posted 02 February 2013 - 09:22 PM


I don't know about the kids, but my 43 year old hubby still has issues with some of these skills.



#3 EsmeLennox

Posted 02 February 2013 - 09:25 PM

I would think it likely that most toilet trained kids of that age could pull down pants but probably need help with the other things. I don't think your boy would be the ony kid still needing assistance for everything though.

#4 bailee

Posted 02 February 2013 - 09:29 PM

My DS is 7 and he has only just started doing it all himself. He does have a disability and needed assistance longer than the average kid, but the point is, he was able to do it for a long time but wouldn't. Once he got a little sister he seemed to hang on to some of the baby things cause he felt a bit displaced with a new little one in the house.

#5 Relish*

Posted 02 February 2013 - 09:29 PM

I would think he could probably do most of those things now if you encourage him. DD can do all that on her own (3 in March). Is nowhere near being night trained though, so way to go on that!

#6 Manicmum

Posted 02 February 2013 - 09:30 PM

I've not been allowed to do anything for DD since she was 2y2m. I am allowed to wipe her bottom if I catch her on the toilet. In public toilets I can if she can reach.

#7 Feral-Lausii

Posted 02 February 2013 - 09:31 PM

Dd turned 3 in November. She has been able to do it since 2. She was toilet trained at 2 and a half. But she is way ahead in everything she does. My two boys took until 3 and a half to be fully trained and able to dress themselves. My eldest son come to think of it was closer to 4.

#8 Dionysus

Posted 02 February 2013 - 09:31 PM

DD didn't start training till the latter part of last year.  She is now 3years 8months and does everything.

But, for the first month or so of training I was doing the pants up/down, hand wash....

So by a few months after the start of training she was fine with everything

An age thing, then?

Though, you say he is fine when you aren't there to help.  DD was a bit like this.  Could do it, but would prefer me to do it for her.  THat only lasted a few weeks.

#9 Prioritising Pooks

Posted 02 February 2013 - 09:32 PM

QUOTE (happening @ 02/02/2013, 10:22 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I don't know about the kids, but my 43 year old hubby still has issues with some of these skills.

I just had the same thought, though mine is 29, he is still an old dog resisting new tricks...

OP, if he CAN do it then I would maybe say something like "ew that is gross, don't be yucky and gross, you can't play or eat until you are clean and dressed" and just basically not let him do anything until he has cleaned up etc. Might mean a bit of mess once or twice but he should get the message.

Haven't parented a toddler but I have toilet trained one. Long story. Can't swear my methods are the best though, haha!

#10 EsmeLennox

Posted 02 February 2013 - 09:35 PM

Sorry to disagree, but I would not be telling him that it is yucky or gross if the OP wants him to do it himself anytime soon!

#11 ~chiquita~

Posted 02 February 2013 - 09:42 PM

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OP, if he CAN do it then I would maybe say  something like "ew that is gross, don't be yucky and gross, you can't  play or eat until you are clean and dressed" and just basically not let  him do anything until he has cleaned up etc.


Please don't do this OP. I said something similar when DS used to make a mess eating. I've now got a child that doesn't want to feed himself, and when he does and he drops some food he cries.

I f*cked up big time. cry1.gif

Edited by ~chiquita~, 02 February 2013 - 09:52 PM.


#12 Prioritising Pooks

Posted 03 February 2013 - 07:00 PM

QUOTE (Jemstar @ 02/02/2013, 10:35 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Sorry to disagree, but I would not be telling him that it is yucky or gross if the OP wants him to do it himself anytime soon!



QUOTE (~chiquita~ @ 02/02/2013, 10:42 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Please don't do this OP. I said something similar when DS used to make a mess eating. I've now got a child that doesn't want to feed himself, and when he does and he drops some food he cries.

I f*cked up big time. cry1.gif


Sorry I was not clear. I mean when he runs around after doing his business . I would say something like, not wiping up is yucky, you can't play without wiping up first. Etc.




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