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#1 ~polly~

Posted 01 February 2013 - 02:22 PM

We are going to future BIL's wedding next week and future SIL is pregnant.  I just know there will be lots of 'when are you having a baby?' and 'are you guys trying yet?' questions.  It was expected that we would have the first grandchild because we are older, already married, have a house blah blah blah...  We are TTC but I definitely dont want the family to know.

Usually I hate these questions and just say I dont know, not for a while and change the topic.  But I want to enjoy the wedding so have been thinking of funny/witty comebacks like 'we're not sure if we've perfected the method yet so we're still practicing'

Any suggestions?

#2 PrincessPeach

Posted 01 February 2013 - 02:37 PM

My latest one is "No idea"

I have also used:

I've just paid for a wedding, i can't afford them.

"My SIL is having one, I am looking forward to being the aunt that spoils them"

"when i put a big enough dent in the mortgage to afford them"

"I'm not ready to give up my career at the moment" - it's non-family friendly & i have no option to work from home or part time.
They are not very witty - sorry.

I did say to someone "you tell me & I'll add your bet to the list"

Edited by PrincessPeach, 01 February 2013 - 02:38 PM.

#3 BetteBoop

Posted 01 February 2013 - 02:39 PM

A bloke I used to work with had a standard response: "we're just practising now. Because practice makes perfect".

It always got a smile.

#4 spando

Posted 01 February 2013 - 02:45 PM

We are try and have been unfortunately its no so simple for some people. Stops them in their tracks.

#5 BronR

Posted 01 February 2013 - 02:47 PM

"About 9 months after I get pregnant"

#6 kadoodle

Posted 01 February 2013 - 02:47 PM

My SILs use variations on "Can't have them. Don't want them."

My sister says that her PhD precludes her from breeding in captivity.

Before children, I used to just say "one day..." then smile and change the subject.  It got wearing after 18 months though, so I couldn't imagine how mad it'd make you after a few years.

#7 elmo_mum

Posted 01 February 2013 - 02:52 PM

i just tended to respond with

so, hows your sex life???

i also used to say - i dont breed well in captivity....

#8 MrsLexiK

Posted 01 February 2013 - 02:52 PM

QUOTE (spando @ 01/02/2013, 03:45 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
We are try and have been unfortunately its no so simple for some people. Stops them in their tracks.

I used to say this, no one that knew of my issues though actually asked, those that didn't I was open about how I had this and this.  They not only shut up but never asked again.  I didn't go into the ins and outs of it all (because I am a bit private) but I did tell them straight.

#9 Feral_Pooks

Posted 01 February 2013 - 02:54 PM

"oh sh*t, I knew we had forgotten to do something!"

#10 Feral*Spikey*

Posted 01 February 2013 - 02:57 PM

When DH finds the perfect recipe. I understand they're quite tasty done right....

Never - and don't ever ask me that again.

#11 PrincessPeach

Posted 01 February 2013 - 02:59 PM

QUOTE (Pooks_ @ 01/02/2013, 02:54 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
"oh sh*t, I knew we had forgotten to do something!"


Love it!

#12 Three Of Hearts

Posted 01 February 2013 - 03:05 PM

Usually I say "when my DH grows up... so I think we're right for a while" biggrin.gif

Edited by Allie_D, 01 February 2013 - 03:06 PM.

#13 HRH Countrymel

Posted 01 February 2013 - 03:06 PM

"A what? Gravy? Yes I would love more gravy, right now thanks!"

"Ooooh no!  No, I don't think so. *lowers voice* I mean have you SEEN some of DH's family?  They are pretty freaky looking..."
(That obviously works best if you are surrounded by DH's family)

"Hey great idea! *Yelling voice* DH! Get over here! Now drop your pants and give me some of the good stuff!"

#14 Z-girls rock

Posted 01 February 2013 - 03:08 PM

QUOTE (BronR @ 01/02/2013, 03:47 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
"About 9 months after I get pregnant"

I like that one!

I used to just say to people "you know we had sex before we got married too... getting married has not really increased the chances as much as you think!"

that one really worked for old aunty types.

#15 Otis the Pug

Posted 02 February 2013 - 08:56 AM

Personally I think it would be rude of people to ask you, they might not, unless they are that upfront. They might be asking you how you feel about becoming an aunty instead.

If they do ask, how about:

throw it back at them, "what about you, when are you having a baby?" might confuse them and change the subject.

Or make up something which sounds very wise, like "we want to be financially comfortable first, you know how expensive children are"

or "we want to travel a bit first and I want to get more out of my career before we tie ourselves down"

#16 EsmeLennox

Posted 02 February 2013 - 08:58 AM

I users to say 'what would I want one of those for?' people were usually stunned and shut up quickly!

#17 Onemorefor2016

Posted 02 February 2013 - 09:16 AM

they are the worst questions.

after about 2 years TTC my response became "I'd rather not answer that question" and change the subject/walk away.

made the person asking feel really uncomfortable, then hey, they asked a really personal/uncomfortable question.. not everyone has a positive answer for such a question... don't ask if you are not prepared for the answer! wink.gif

#18 Mrs Darcy

Posted 02 February 2013 - 09:18 AM

QUOTE (C~D~W~H @ 02/02/2013, 10:00 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Before I had children, I would just answer with, "When we do, we will let you know"

Shut people up pretty quick

This is what we use now. We have an 8yr old…who was a total surprise and some people think that it's cruel not to give him a sibling rolleyes.gif .
We have been trying for almost 2yrs and the question really does get old. I get it at least once a week and the above response now stops them from asking again the next time I see them. Sometimes I say, "When we do, you'll be the first to know", I use this when it's someone Im not close to, hoping they pick on the hint that it is none of their beeswax!

#19 MrsRadiant

Posted 02 February 2013 - 09:31 AM

Some people are pretty inconsiderate of others,

whilst we were TTC we had friends x3 of them from the same family, mum, brother and sister, all
ask me bluntly in front of others i hardly knew "are you pregnant?".
All because i wasnt drinking booze!!  mad.gif
I was so upset and mad!
we were trying but as if i would say yes if i was at that time, its my news and ill share it when i want too and not to a group of strangers!!
The brother of the family was so persistant he said, Are you pregnant?
I said No, im not actually! he said to me, "are you fibing to me", I said no, never!,
then he goes "if you have a baby in 9 months, youll be in trouble!"
I just said "yeah, whatever"

How bloody rude!!!!

#20 Betty_D

Posted 02 February 2013 - 09:31 AM

This used to drive me crazy. Such a rude question to ask!

When I was feeling less than charitable, I used to respond with, "when we start bonking like rabbits without a condom, you'll be the first to know". Cue awkward laughter, stunned silence and a quick change of subject.

#21 SeaPrincess

Posted 02 February 2013 - 09:33 AM

DH and I got married fairly quickly and the questioning started quickly too (mainly from his grandmother)  We said "oh, about 2 years", then when we built our first house together, we said we'd had to re-consider and it was still about 2 years.  We kept saying 2 years right up until the day we told them we were 3 months pregnant with baby #1.

#22 nettik

Posted 02 February 2013 - 09:41 AM

QUOTE (Beetlebop @ 01/02/2013, 03:39 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
"we're just practising now. Because practice makes perfect".

This is what my DH always says  ph34r.gif

#23 nettik

Posted 02 February 2013 - 09:41 AM

Double post

Edited by nettik, 02 February 2013 - 09:42 AM.

#24 Sunny003

Posted 02 February 2013 - 09:43 AM

Just say, well now that you mention it ...

And when they reply with really? Or oh congrats. You follow it up with, nah just joking and start laughing wink.gif

#25 José

Posted 02 February 2013 - 10:05 AM

I used to say "not today" or " as soon as DH is able to give birth"

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