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#1 canstayagrinch

Posted 31 January 2013 - 09:33 PM

........... walk 3km home from highschool by herself, 2 afternoons a week, and sit at home for 30-45 minutes(again by herself) until you got home from work?

#2 Ange remplie

Posted 31 January 2013 - 09:36 PM

Depends on the child, but probably.

#3 babychacha

Posted 31 January 2013 - 09:36 PM

Staying at home by herself - yes.

The walk though - is it through a safe area, could she be picked on (by other kids/randoms) does she have a mobile phone? 3ks can be a long walk if you're getting hassled.

#4 The Fright B4 Xmas

Posted 31 January 2013 - 09:38 PM

I'd get her a bike.

#5 YeahbutNah

Posted 31 January 2013 - 09:39 PM

QUOTE (babychacha @ 31/01/2013, 10:36 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Staying at home by herself - yes.

The walk though - is it through a safe area, could she be picked on (by other kids/randoms) does she have a mobile phone? 3ks can be a long walk if you're getting hassled.


If this is an issue, what about riding a bike home?  Much easier to get away if you need to.

#6 FreeRangeMum

Posted 31 January 2013 - 09:39 PM

Depending on the area she would be walking through. But yes, in our area I would.

#7 bakesgirls

Posted 31 January 2013 - 09:39 PM

Yes, I would allow my 12 year old to do that.

#8 jayskette

Posted 31 January 2013 - 09:41 PM

yes

#9 melaine

Posted 31 January 2013 - 09:42 PM

Yes, I would have no problem with that.

#10 **Tiger*Filly**

Posted 31 January 2013 - 09:43 PM

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Edited by Tyrone Finkelmeyer, 26 March 2013 - 08:03 PM.


#11 canstayagrinch

Posted 31 January 2013 - 09:53 PM

Yes it is a safe middle class, very low crime suburb.  Most of the walk is along a main thoroughfare in our suburb.  There are heaps of other school kids walking home in the same direction.  

My DD did this today.  There is a bus she can catch home, but she insisted on giving walking a go.  She started highschool this week and doesn't have any friends walking home in the same direction.  She could ride a bike I guess, but it is mostly uphill.  She is very sensible and has a mobile programmed with emergency numbers.

I've copped a lot of flack about letting her walk from a friend and people at work.

Just curious what other people let their children do.

Edited by cantstayaway, 31 January 2013 - 10:01 PM.


#12 Kafkaesque

Posted 31 January 2013 - 09:55 PM

Yes I would and fully intend my children to get themselves to and from school at that age.

#13 Spa Gonk

Posted 31 January 2013 - 09:56 PM

I don't have any kids this age, but it sounds fine to me.

#14 blackcat20

Posted 31 January 2013 - 10:15 PM

Yes. I travelled an hour by PT to/from school when I was 12.

#15 *-*

Posted 31 January 2013 - 10:21 PM

Absolutely fine.  Friend is a little too protective.

#16 Magi Ianthe

Posted 01 February 2013 - 06:12 AM

She is in high school-of course it is fine.

#17 Fr0g

Posted 01 February 2013 - 06:16 AM

My 11 year old DS does it now. He might walk, ride his bike, or skate. He knocks around the neighbourhood with plenty of other kids doing the same.

So my response would be yes!

#18 mumto3princesses

Posted 01 February 2013 - 06:18 AM

Yes.

Although I would pressume being 3km's away she would be able to get a bus pass if she wanted to get the bus.

My DD#1 does the same some days only we aren't far enough away for a bus pass so I just make sure she has bus money if she needs it and also money for a cold drink or slurpee on very hot days.



#19 adl

Posted 01 February 2013 - 06:28 AM

My GF daughter started doing this first year high school, she's knows to come to me we are near neighbours if any issues ....but I just thought when I read your post how wonderful she wants to walk rather than take bus ..such healthy exercise when you hear so much about kids not getting exercise!!!

#20 Placebo

Posted 01 February 2013 - 06:34 AM

Yes and yes  original.gif

My oldest dd just started high school this week.  Whilst it's a little far for her to walk, she will be taking the bus to and from school within the next couple of weeks (just have to get her a "Go Card").

She desperately wants to start part-time work at Coles or Woolies when she's of age, and dh and I want her to be confident in using the bus service.



#21 Coffeegirl

Posted 01 February 2013 - 06:54 AM

Yes I would.   We live a bit further than that from DD's school so she has a bus pass.

But she does walk from the high school to her brother's grade school afterschool and I pick them both up. It's about a km but there are lots of other kids that do the same.  

TBH my DD is a bit lazy and probably wouldn't walk 3 kms if she didn't have a friend with her, and end up taking the bus anyway



#22 MintyBiscuit

Posted 01 February 2013 - 07:05 AM

Definitely would. I was 11 when I started high school, and coming home involved a train, a bus, a ten minute walk and then generally being at home for 20-30 minutes before anyone else got home. I'd often walk further if I caught the wrong bus and had to get off at a different stop to my usual one. Not a problem at all IMO

#23 capper

Posted 01 February 2013 - 08:16 AM

I would be more worried about her carrying a heavy school bag that far than the walk home.  If the roads are busy and there are lots of people around and she is mature enough, then go for it.  

You never know, she may meet some kids to walk with.


#24 lozoodle

Posted 01 February 2013 - 08:40 AM

Yes, 3k is nothing and at 12 years old I wouldn't have a problem.

#25 ComradeBob

Posted 01 February 2013 - 08:45 AM

Based on what you said, I wouldn't have a problem with that at all. I think it's good for kids to get that little bit of independence, within acceptable boundaries when they hit that age.




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