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#1 qak

Posted 31 January 2013 - 12:22 PM

I am not sure why I am feeling so cranky about this, am after some perspective please!

On my FB I shared a post which was promoting a sport/club that my DD (age 4) does. It is enrolment time, so the club is keen to get new members - that was pretty clear from the post.

One person commented along the lines of how she was (to paraphrase) emotionally scarred for life as a result of doing that sport (which she did some 35 years ago, and not for very long)

I sent her a polite text asking her to remove the comment, and she replied "Why?", and I replied that I was trying to promote the club and it was not for her rude comments.  She then replied "Welcome to social media, I have no happy memories of (sport)".

I feel quite upset about this, and I have deleted the share so the comment is gone too.  I have also unfriended her  ph34r.gif

WDYT? Am I overreacting???

#2 Mercurial

Posted 31 January 2013 - 12:26 PM

It's obviously something she feels strongly about still.  Unfortunately that is a part of social media.  Being as it's your post can you delete her comment?  

What sport is it to give such a strong reaction?

#3 erindiv

Posted 31 January 2013 - 12:29 PM

You can delete her comment.

What a moron.

#4 Guest_Marquise_*

Posted 31 January 2013 - 12:29 PM

well, you DID put it on fb. people are allowed to say whatever they like - and the point of social media IS to share your own experiences. And heaps of women were traumatised as kids by their experiences with sport/ballet/other icky pom pom things.

that having been said - you could have deleted the comment yourself, not waited for her to do it.

and yes, I think taking the whole thing down and defriending is a silly over-reaction. But then again I court controversy on my fb wall all the time and do love a good political stoush.

#5 mel43

Posted 31 January 2013 - 12:31 PM

You could've just deleted her comment?

#6 Ally'smum

Posted 31 January 2013 - 12:31 PM

I would just delete the comment and then hide them. Have done this for a number of people and it makes for a more pleasant experience without the conflict.

#7 Spa Gonk

Posted 31 January 2013 - 12:33 PM

Overreaction.  She wasn't rude, just stated her opinion.  By all means delete the comment or unfriend her.  I would not expect her to happily remove the comment given she stands by it and was sharing her personal view.



#8 Pompol

Posted 31 January 2013 - 12:34 PM

A good portion of my family is certifiably insane, hence, I'm a serial deleter. I would have read it, deleted it, and never thought of it again.

#9 Magnus

Posted 31 January 2013 - 12:36 PM

I don't think it's a really big issue. She might have some bad memories, but chances are many adults have fond memories of playing that sport when they were children too. I don't think her comment is that likely to affect the enrolment.

I think it would have been better to just reply and say something like 'that's interesting, some of my best childhood memories were on the [insert sport here] field. It was such a wonderful experience for me. I loved being part of a team and I learnt so many new skills.'

I do think you have overreacted a little bit.

#10 erindiv

Posted 31 January 2013 - 12:38 PM

QUOTE (Spotted Giraffe @ 31/01/2013, 01:33 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Overreaction.  She wasn't rude, just stated her opinion.  By all means delete the comment or unfriend her.  I would not expect her to happily remove the comment given she stands by it and was sharing her personal view.



Not rude? Are you kidding?

OP shares post saying her daughter is doing this, loves it, would other people like to do it. Person then replies with "it scarred me for life".

That's rude.

#11 CountryFeral

Posted 31 January 2013 - 12:39 PM

Yeah.. I would have just deleted her comment.



#12 Feral_Pooks

Posted 31 January 2013 - 12:40 PM

Maybe just write something like "that is a shame you had that experience X, ABC sports club is really fun and supportive and not like that at all".

Why make a drama?

#13 icekool

Posted 31 January 2013 - 12:40 PM

I would have left the comment as other people will probably stop by and belittle her comment anyway.

Happened to me a while ago how one of my FB friends were making fun of a sport I use to do when I was a kid. No regrets for that sport. She didn't think it was a "sport".

I didn't respond but I found after a day or so, the FB friend was totally bagged by her other friends at her poor attitude and poking at that sport. Karma exists!

#14 CountryFeral

Posted 31 January 2013 - 12:40 PM

Yeah.. I would have just deleted her comment.



#15 ~swan~

Posted 31 January 2013 - 12:41 PM

Just delete her comment.

Hover over the top right hand box of the comment box, and click the X

#16 FeralCrazyMum

Posted 31 January 2013 - 12:41 PM

I don't get why you just didn't delete the comment?


#17 erindiv

Posted 31 January 2013 - 12:42 PM

If OP was sharing someone else's post she might not be able to delete comments.

#18 qak

Posted 31 January 2013 - 12:42 PM

Hmm .. mixed responses there!  I did feel the post was rude, along the lines of 'not until I have psychotherapy to cure the trauma that sport caused me'.  So Pompol may be on the mark!

I suppose I am upset because
(1) I was promoting a club sport we/Dd finds enjoyable, and she shot that down; and
(2) I am quite happy to tolerate other people's posts on all sorts of topics that I roll my eyes at, without feeling a need to express my opinion on how much I "hate" said topic?



#19 qak

Posted 31 January 2013 - 12:47 PM

QUOTE (erindiv @ 31/01/2013, 01:42 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
If OP was sharing someone else's post she might not be able to delete comments.


I was on my mobile, and could not see any way to delete it.  I deleted the share and it disappeared ... at least I hope it did!
Would the comment have shown on the original poster's wall?  mad.gif

#20 MsDemeanor

Posted 31 January 2013 - 12:51 PM

I think most people would have saw her comment and just rolled their eyes. She must be a bit of a tripper, not sure if rude but definitely weird.

#21 Swarley

Posted 31 January 2013 - 12:54 PM

QUOTE (Pooks_ @ 31/01/2013, 01:40 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Maybe just write something like "that is a shame you had that experience X, ABC sports club is really fun and supportive and not like that at all".

Why make a drama?

This.
Delete if it was really bugging you but I do think you're overreacting a bit.

#22 Oriental lily

Posted 31 January 2013 - 12:56 PM

I agree with pooks.

You handled it very immaturely op.

Your friend has every right to give her opinion on a sport, maybe her experience was horrible? Maybe it's not suitable to particular types of personalities?

Maybe he comment was good to create a conversation on the pro's and cons of the particular sport and if it's improved, changed or not suitable for some,



Facebook is not set up for advertisement only,

If this popped up on her feed then it's a free fr all.

Or perhaps her comment hit a nerve?

#23 againagain

Posted 31 January 2013 - 01:01 PM

QUOTE
Maybe just write something like "that is a shame you had that experience X, ABC sports club is really fun and supportive and not like that at all".

Why make a drama?


Yep.  huh.gif

#24 Bwok~Bwok

Posted 31 January 2013 - 01:04 PM

I want to know what sport it is!

#25 ImpatientAnna

Posted 31 January 2013 - 01:06 PM

QUOTE (Marley&Me @ 30/01/2013, 06:47 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
We have 'hos-ta-ble' for hospital & 'Bine-knock-u-pillars' for binoculars. Too cute to correct ph34r.gif


What sport is it?????




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