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#1 H3X

Posted 31 January 2013 - 05:59 AM

Do you remember yourself or your siblings being breastfed? Are your memories positive? Do you think it affected your intentions/ability to breastfeed your own children?

I don't remember myself being breastfed, nor my younger brother (despite being more than 4 years older than him). I don't remember him being bottlefed either though so I guess I wasn't paying attention! I can't ask my parents if we were breastfed as they're both dead.

Breastfeeding has been important to me with my son, and he is still breastfed at 2years9months. I guess I'm curious if he'll remember anyhting!

#2 CalEliKat

Posted 31 January 2013 - 06:05 AM

I remember mum feeding my youngest sister, and my other sister and I copying her.  It did not last that long because I remember making soy formula (prescribed) bottles for Rach as she was allergic to milk protein.

I don't believe I was breastfed, as a traumatic birth where the doctor tried to deliver me vaginally out of my mother's extraordinarily small pelvis, resulting in a senior pushing me back in and doing an emergency ceasar, left mum comatose for quite a few days and me a special care due to some paralysis.

I was always going to at least attempt exclusive breastfeeding with children, to me it seemed like the only choice - I was successful with 2 of them but with the 3rd I had to stop at 9 weeks as she was allergic to milk protein so it was onto soy formula for her.

#3 Praetor VitaeChel

Posted 31 January 2013 - 06:13 AM

No, I don't remember being BF. My youngest Brother had bottles and I remember making them up for him (I am 9 years older). tbh I don't remember if mum tried to BF with him, but she had an emergency c-section for him and had a lot of issues later.I believe she breastfed my sister, other brother and I, but I do not remember. I know she had to try almond milk, soy and goats milk for me as I had lots of tummy issues.

#4 fancie shmancie

Posted 31 January 2013 - 06:15 AM

My mother breastfed all 8 of us until 9 months when we were weaned.

In addition, mum also breastfed another baby born at the same time as my brother.  The other baby's mother died just after giving birth from eclampsia, and mum was asked by the nurses if she would feed the other baby too as baby was quite poorly.  I think she continued to feed the baby for 4-5 weeks until the dad moved away to be closer to his extended family.

I don't remember being breastfed but I never questioned that I would breastfeed my baby as it was the accepted thing in my family.

Edited by fancie, 31 January 2013 - 06:17 AM.


#5 HRH Countrymel

Posted 31 January 2013 - 06:19 AM

I don't remember being breastfed - but because my mother was a breastfeeding counsellor I do remember hundreds of other babies being breastfed at my house!

I also 'breast fed' my dolls when I was little.

I may have had some residual memory though as when my Mum got her breast cancer diagnosis I went "NO! But that is my FAVOURITE breast!"  and Mum laughed and said "Why yes it was!"  (but we both decided that as I was 30 this probably shouldn't impact on her decision to have it removed!)

Mum was so involved and passionate about breastfeeding and supporting breastfeeding mothers (she was made a life member of the ABA) that there was never a doubt in either mine nor my sister's minds that that is what we would be doing.. (I haven't had a chance to yet but I have two beautiful breastfed nephews).

My mother has since passed away but I hope that if I ever get in a position to need to feed a child of my own that there will be breastfeeding support available to me similar to what she was able to give to all those lovely women and babies who filled our home.

#6 cinnabubble

Posted 31 January 2013 - 06:25 AM

My mother stopped after two weeks and put me on watered down cow's milk, so I don't remember. I have a faint recollection of her feeding my sister during the six weeks she did that. Needless to say, she turned up at my hospital bed with bottles and a steriliser.

At the rate my almost three year old is going, she'll be writing multi-volume memoires about being breastfed.

#7 niggles

Posted 31 January 2013 - 06:29 AM

I don't recall my own breastfeeding but I was 8 when my brother was born and 11 by the time he stopped breastfeeding so can remember it vividly. I saw lots of breastfeeding. I always thought of it as a routine part of caring for a baby and it has been, more or less.

I also heard my mother talk about advocating for herself and her babies. I've often heard her relate the story of being asked to feed her baby in the toilet (this was before the days of parents rooms) and her replying with the question "I don't think so. Would you like to eat your lunch in the toilet?"

#8 Fright bat

Posted 31 January 2013 - 06:30 AM

I was breastfed until six weeks. My grandfather was the local GP in a rural area where I was born and got in all six local midwives/LCs to help mum but for whatever reason, i was failing to thrive, so they started comp feeding, and then changed to exclusive formula.

My sister was born nine years later in a large urban city in the western world, and also failed to thrive despite all efforts of several LCs, who ultimately concluded that my mother is probably one of the rare people who don't produce enough milk despite all efforts. She was comp fed until 12 months, and I do remember that. I knew at the time that I had not been breastfed for as long as she was, and it made no difference.

My mother was never breastfed, despite her four siblings being breastfed. My grandmother is still not sure why her milk 'dried up' and my mother was given water buffalo milk from about two months. My father fed until he was four and can remember it, but doesn't have any strong emotions associated with it.

I don't think it really makes a difference to a person if thy were breastfed or not; I think it makes a much bigger difference to a woman if she is able to or not, but only because there is a strong cultural expectation that women do.

ETA - I DO think that seeing breastfeeding is important, whether your own family or in the wider world. I DO think that breastfeeding should be the 'norm' (but also that women can make a free choice within that paradigm where breastfeeding is normalized.

Edited by AvadaKedavra, 31 January 2013 - 07:14 AM.


#9 katpaws

Posted 31 January 2013 - 06:31 AM

My mother breastfed my sister, i think for some time. My memories (sister was seven years younger than me) are neither positive or negative about this; and i don't believe they had any influence on my decision to BF or not. I was bottlefed, don't know with what, as i was not with my mother from birth, returned to her about 1 1/2 years (and i don't remember that).

I did not see a lot of women breastfeeding as an adult as i did not really hang around families with young children. I went to a BFing class before DD was born and had read a lot about BFing in pregnancy books.  I had not considered not BFing DD before she was born and had not read anything on bottlefeeding etc.

Circumstances made the decision for me when it came to BFing DD and i chose to use EBM. I had a traumatic birth and things were not going well (on a whole range of issues). I could not bear DD being near my breasts (we were seperated for about a week in different hospitals) and BFing for me was a nightmare.

If i had been involved with more BFing women would it have made a difference? I don't think so. Not many women go through what i did, so it is hard to compare different experiences. I felt very damaged from my surgery when DD was born, as well as being manually expressed by midwives,  and could not bear anyone touching me, including DD and i think that was increased due to my history of sexual/physical abuse and that i generally don't like people touching me (unless i trust them very much). None of this was discussed when i had problems with BFing DD (well trying to) and perhaps someone should have asked me about how i was feeling about the BFing attempts, that might have been more helpful.  I think if i had better memories of my childhood (and had had better experiences) i might have been able to perservere with BFing a bit more (and this does not relate to watching my mother BF).




#10 Super Cat

Posted 31 January 2013 - 06:39 AM

No but my cousin and her two brothers remember being breastfed. They were breastfed until around age 4. They're all very pro breastfeeding as adults. All if their children were breastfed until around age 3.

#11 hm6

Posted 31 January 2013 - 06:39 AM

I was the youngest & have no memory of being breastfed. I do remember my aunty B/fing when I was quite young and being absolutely fascinated by it. Mum put it down to me being the the youngest for quite a few years within the extended family so I hadnt seen anyone up close until then. It did have a positive impact because my aunt was so comfortable & at ease ( & this was early 70's- when lots of babies were bottlefed) about it that years later it left a strong impression of being easy - so I just thought it would be- & it was for me anyway.

#12 ACO

Posted 31 January 2013 - 06:49 AM

I don't remember myself - I'm pretty sure I was bottlefed from about 6 months.

I remember my 2 youngest siblings as I was 10 and 14 when they were born. I think it influenced my decision to breastfeed when I became a mother. To me it was normal.

My Aunty (mother's sister) did extended breastfeeding. One of her children breastfed until they started going to school.

All in all breastfeedng was very normal in my family - thankfully!

#13 kadoodle

Posted 31 January 2013 - 06:52 AM

I remember a lot of ladies in the extended family sitting around drinking cups of tea, eating fruitcake and breastfeeding babies on the verandah on those hot summer evenings.  Everyone would chat, kids would play together and eventually it would cool down enough to go back inside and go to sleep.

I also remember my poor mother nearly hitting the roof when my youngest sister bit her!

#14 Peppery

Posted 31 January 2013 - 06:54 AM

I am the youngest, I was breast fed until I was 16 months old. I have no memory of being breast fed.

#15 Ymarferol angel

Posted 31 January 2013 - 06:58 AM

I wasn't breastfed for more than a few weeks; I believe mum would have liked to but had no end of issues.  My brother (4 years younger) did much better, and I have very vague memories of him being fed.  Mum says I used to sit and glare at him in jealousy...

It was really important to me to stop feeding DD before she would be old enough to remember it.  Honestly, I think other childhood experiences and memories impacted on my experience and potential enjoyment of breastfeeding far more.

#16 ChunkyChook

Posted 31 January 2013 - 07:00 AM

I dont remember being being breastfed. I know I was bottle fed for a while as mum almost died because of a trainee Doctor and a little mishap being sewn up.

She jokes because I took to the breast straight away despite them telling her I probably wouldn't because had been bottle fed for a week.

My sister is 5 years younger, I dont remember her being breast or bottle fed. I'm thinking she was bottle though because she was prem. Will have to ask mum, now I'm curious.



#17 bailee

Posted 31 January 2013 - 07:03 AM

No, I was only breastfed for 2 months and I dont remember it with my siblings. My son is 7 and he was breastfed till he was 3, but he does not remember it. But he will remember his sister being breastfed as he's old enough to remember and he's very aware of it. We also talk about it a bit, including me telling him stories about breastfeeding him.

#18 LynnyP

Posted 31 January 2013 - 07:07 AM

My mother and extended family are all pretty icked out by breastfeeding and never did it.  My mother said breasts are for men and my grandmother said breasts are disgusting and should never be acknowledged.

#19 Domestic Goddess

Posted 31 January 2013 - 07:21 AM

I was BF only til 6 months when mum got sick. I cant remember ofcourse and ehm not sure if thats a bad thing lol.

Im the youngest as well, so haven't seen my sister being breastfed either. I have not seen another family member breastfeeding or being breastfed either.
I just learned about it at school during biology classes and it sounded like it was the done thing.

So I never have thought about putting DS on formula unless there was a problem with DS in one way or another.
My mum told me my sis was born with jaundice and didn't want to feed, mum tried and tried and tried.
The nurses would not let her go home until my sis had had some kind of breastfeed.
So the last day they were there, mum managed to put my sis on the breast (she wasn't properly attached nor suckling whatsoever) in a way that it looked like she was breastfeeding.

Thus to me formula has always seemed to be a last resort and only to be used when the child is too weak or completely incapable of latching properly.




#20 CherrySunday

Posted 31 January 2013 - 07:29 AM

I don't remember, as I was only about 4 weeks old when my mother switched to formula. My brothers were breastfed a bit longer, but I was still quite young when they were born.
I was 5 years old when my second brother was born, and I do remember walking in to mums room while she was attached to a breast pump - I still remember being embarrassed, which I never want my kids to be.

#21 Squeekums Da Feral

Posted 31 January 2013 - 07:29 AM

I dont believe I was, my brother wasnt.
I remember my mum franticly ringing the shop 2 towns open if they could hang around half hour after close cos she was almost out of formula.
No extended family close to see BF either. It wasnt something I saw as a child.
I didnt BF for many reasons but none to do with not seeing BF.
I have no issue with BF and am a protart supporter lol

#22 Oriental lily

Posted 31 January 2013 - 07:49 AM

I don't remember being breast fed, bottle fed or having a dummy.
I have vague memories of wearing a nappy. Only because I was a late walker due to an abnormality with my toes that needed corrective surgery. I bum shuffled everywhere meaning my nappies wpuld get shredded and damaged. In our old house in Port Melbourne the backyard was paved in rough bricks that would damage the nappies. My poor mum was so frustrated lol.

I remember being pushed around in a old red vinyl pram. I also remember how my mum placed it infront of the heater with me in it and how the back of it melted ndhow for the rest of my time in it I could never rest my back due to the massive sooty melted hole!




#23 Jenflea

Posted 31 January 2013 - 07:56 AM

I was breastfed till around 9 months(or 12, I've heard both lol) and mum had to BF twins. she could only feed at home as she fed us both at once on her bed, with 2 pillows. I'm amazed she lasted that long frankly.
She said she only weaned us because my brother wanted more solids.
I don't remember being BF, but I've seen photos of it, and I grew up being told how natural it is and the best thing. Plus it was drummed into me to join the ABA when pregnant as mum was in the Nursing Mother's assoc. when I was born.
I've jut recently weaned my daughter at 2yrs 9 months. yay!

#24 Jane Jetson

Posted 31 January 2013 - 07:58 AM

Nope. Mum's GP told her that breastfeeding me was making me fat, so she switched to formula at 5 or 6 weeks. My sister wasn't breastfed, but my brother was. I was old enough to remember Mum feeding my brother, but I have no memory of it at all, so it's likely that she sneaked off into another room to hide while she did it.

Another protart here, I breastfed mine till they were each a bit over 1 year old, while out and about.

#25 Bluenomi

Posted 31 January 2013 - 08:03 AM

I don't remember.

DD was breastfeed until 21 months yet a year later she saw a baby at daycare being fed and had no idea what the mum was doing. When I explained it to her it all seemed completely new.




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