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#1 LittleListen

Posted 28 January 2013 - 03:44 PM

Thanks everyone, friend is ok and has agreed that we will never go through this again.

Thank goodness!

Edited by eyesabove, 28 January 2013 - 07:27 PM.


#2 Dionysus

Posted 28 January 2013 - 03:45 PM

I would call at 5:00

#3 MrsShine

Posted 28 January 2013 - 03:46 PM

Absolutely call anyway at 5pm, you'll never forgive yourself if you don't and something bad happens.

#4 ~sydblue~

Posted 28 January 2013 - 03:46 PM

I would still ring at 5 and if she says she told you to ring at 7, then tell her you never got the message.

#5 Cherish

Posted 28 January 2013 - 03:47 PM

Call at 5

#6 melaine

Posted 28 January 2013 - 03:48 PM

I'd call at 5.



#7 Floral Arrangement

Posted 28 January 2013 - 03:49 PM

Trust your gut call at 5 probably all good but worth checking in.

#8 halcyondays

Posted 28 January 2013 - 03:51 PM

I'd call at 5, and if she didn't answer correctly, go around there and check it out.


#9 LittleListen

Posted 28 January 2013 - 03:51 PM

Ok. Thanks I'm going to call. I'll see how she responds.. damn me reading a bunch of situation gone wrong articles and making myself paranoid.

#10 miinii

Posted 28 January 2013 - 03:51 PM

Call at 5 OP and if she is annoyed then text her after the call to say that you were worried and weren't sure if she needed help or didnt understand he "code properly"

Hope your friend is ok.

#11 namie

Posted 28 January 2013 - 03:51 PM

I'd call at 5pm.

#12 cb2

Posted 28 January 2013 - 03:54 PM

Ditto to all the above call at 5 and check all is OK

#13 Kemma

Posted 28 January 2013 - 03:55 PM

The only problem you might encounter is if she doesn't answer the phone then you may get extra worried.  Maybe with good reason or without, but be prepared if she said don't ring til 7 - she may not answer at 5.



#14 GreenEgg

Posted 28 January 2013 - 03:55 PM

I'd call a bit of anger are being interrupted is better than the alternative!

#15 Clever Clogs

Posted 28 January 2013 - 03:57 PM

Agree with pp

Anger better than something going wrong!

#16 Lickety Split

Posted 28 January 2013 - 03:59 PM

Def call at 5pm. And why the hell is she having a first date with someone she met online in a place that isn't public? That's not smart.

#17 Peppery

Posted 28 January 2013 - 04:01 PM

Another who thinks you should call at 5

#18 Girlo

Posted 28 January 2013 - 04:01 PM

It's 5:01 OP - any update?

#19 Peppery

Posted 28 January 2013 - 04:01 PM

Another who thinks you should call at 5

#20 LittleListen

Posted 28 January 2013 - 04:02 PM

Ok I called. She sounded fine and I felt stupid but she did start trying to engage me in further conversation about my day - I think so it wasn't weird that she answered her phone for 30 seconds...

Will see how things go.

#21 miinii

Posted 28 January 2013 - 04:03 PM

Glad to hear your friend seems ok OP. She is lucky o have such a caring friend original.gif
Hope her date goes well

#22 Lyra

Posted 28 January 2013 - 04:04 PM

QUOTE (Lickety Split @ 28/01/2013, 04:59 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Def call at 5pm. And why the hell is she having a first date with someone she met online in a place that isn't public? That's not smart.



which is *exactly* why I would call at 5 and go over if there was no response. Then, if I got there and there was no response to door bell (or whatever) I would be calling the police. I would prefer to look like a bit of a d*ck than spend the rest of my life beating myself up over 'what ifs?'

#23 LittleListen

Posted 28 January 2013 - 04:04 PM

Lickety Split - I agree - I thought it was such a bad idea. They had agreed on a public place and he changed the plans last minute due to illness. My friend wasn't going to tell anyone at all originally!

The vibe I got from the messages is that she won't see him again anyway, so it should be ok, but I'll be in for a late night if she decides to stay for dinner...

#24 Lickety Split

Posted 28 January 2013 - 04:05 PM

Maybe you should have a safe phrase that she can say/text without drawing attention. Like "No sorry, I have a hair appointment on Thursday" and if she says that you know she's in trouble.

ETA - Do you have the exact address of where she is?

Edited by Lickety Split, 28 January 2013 - 04:06 PM.


#25 LittleListen

Posted 28 January 2013 - 04:07 PM

Lyra - I thought about your suggestion but she is an hour away from where I am. Its not practical to check in in person, so I'm relying on the call.

She sounded upbeat. Not nervous at all. I think I would have noticed if she was sounding weird wouldn't I?

Oh geez, I am so the wrong person for this. I stayed up for and hour last night because an EB member couldn't locate her DH after work... #panicmerchant much?




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