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#1 *Ker*

Posted 26 January 2013 - 06:17 PM

I've recently found a job that I know I'd have a good chance of getting - it's in my field and i am very qualified for it.

I've just done a rough estimate of costs and FTB etc and worked out that I would be roughly $500 a fortnight better off, after factoring child care and public transport costs. I know I could do a LOT with that sort of money. It would really ease the financial stress.

However, my problem is the kids. After and Before School care isn't a problem - they love it, but I can't get back by 6pm for pick up, after working in the city. The plan would be to leave the car at school and catch the bus from there. I know the potential workplace and know they shut at 5.30. I doubt I'd get back within half an hour. And there is weekend and Friday night work (retail). It would mean I need to rely on family a LOT and I am loathe to do this - they all have enough on their plates.

DS still has therapies that I need to take him to, but I have worked out that I can do that on days off, not a problem. I'll also have to hope he doesn't have a meltdown at school, where I have to go in and calm him.

Anyone got any ideas I haven't thought of that could make it work?


#2 Hunch

Posted 26 January 2013 - 09:21 PM

OP, I am struggling with similar issues at the moment.  Some of the things I have considered are:

- paying a neighbor/ friend to do pick ups and dinner ( a mum at the same school who you know could do with the cash)
- trying to find a local uni student who can help out, assuming school is walking distance as ours is
- getting the kids dad to help out.  I think you are separated, but would be likely and be in a position to assist?
- how late would you be to ASC? When my 2yo DS was in Occ care last year, DD had ballet across town which I thought we'd have to cancel due to not being at pick up in time. When I explained to the Occ Care ladies, they had no problem at all keeping DS for an extra 15 mins.
- any chance of negotiating to leave work a bit early? I know it's hard as the new person but may be worth asking.

I currently work part time but with DD starting school ths year and work wanting to increase my hours it's all getting too hard and I'm seriously thinking about quitting.  I hope you can work something out.


#3 amaza

Posted 26 January 2013 - 09:29 PM

I agree with maybe paying a reliable family member or friend to help? Also with the idea of maybe negotiating your hours? Retail slows down a bit in the last hour of the day so could you maybe try to negotiate to start half an hour or an hour early and finish a bit earlier each day?

I know their father isn't around but if you could offer a family member some money to look after them then it won't feel as much like you owe them a huge favour.

I say do it original.gif At least give it your best shot. There is usually a probation period of 3 months so you could at least trial it and if it doesn't work out then at least you've tried.

#4 *Ker*

Posted 26 January 2013 - 11:47 PM

Their father would not help. He doesn't see them and hasn't for almost 4 years. He's worse than useless. He told me I should get a job (he thinks his CS will decrease, but he doesn't pay it anyway), but there is no way he'd help and I wouldn't ask him to. He COULD do it as he finishes work at 2pm, but he's an a**hole.

I was thinking of a uni student, but I don't know any. None of the mums at school would be able to - not enough seats in their cars to get mine and their kids home.

It's in a jewellery store. Store closes at 5, but there is pack up. I had a look on the bus timetables and I'd be able to make the 5.30 bus, I hope. I'd be 15 minutes late to ASC (at least, assuming all goes ok) and I don't think they'd be amused in the least. I can't start earlier, because the store opens at 9.30. I'd need to start at 9 with everyone else to load the windows.

I SMS'd my MIL and was talking to my sister today. Sister said she'd pick them up one day a week and MIL said she could do it three times a week  biggrin.gif so most of the after-schools are sorted. I'd just need someone for Friday nights/weekend, and if I suck up big time to mum, sister and MIL, they might work out something between them.

I'm going to apply anyhow, because I know the owner, he knows my old boss (same field, jewellery) and I know he likes hiring his old staff.

Now I just have to go through my resume and then send off an application. I'm a bit nervous - been ages since I did this!!!


#5 ~*Amethyst*~

Posted 26 January 2013 - 11:51 PM

Good luck Ker! Hopefully it will all work out for you!


XxAmethyst

#6 IShallWearMidnight

Posted 27 January 2013 - 01:48 AM

personally Id rather find a student who was happy to nanny after school, from 3-7 on your work days.
The problem with family is if things come up, or if they start to feel taken advantage of, you might be left in the lurch

#7 seepi

Posted 27 January 2013 - 06:42 AM

Sounds very promising - good for MIL.

Maybe you can look into family daycare for the last night of the week - some of them will work all sorts of hours, and it might be good to have another option.

#8 FeralRebelWClaws

Posted 27 January 2013 - 07:52 AM

Just wanted to say that I hope you can work it out Ker! It sounds like a great opportunity!

If you want a uni student but don't know one, what about contacting unis or tafes in your area?

Also try your local FB buy sell swap group. I noticed someone yesterday who had working with children checks and first aid etc was posting on there looking for work and you might be able to find someone in your area who is doing the same original.gif

#9 Pearson

Posted 27 January 2013 - 08:02 AM

I would look at hiring a nanny, not a student (they like their Friday nights) for the Friday nights and weekends.

#10 Sloane Peterson

Posted 27 January 2013 - 08:14 AM

Do you think you could negotiate a slightly earlier time to finish up? Say 5 instead of 530?

#11 Coffeegirl

Posted 27 January 2013 - 08:20 AM

I was just about to post, that maybe they could assist with altering your hours as well once you've settled in.   Are you working in the sales or design/manufacture?

#12 mumto3princesses

Posted 27 January 2013 - 09:13 AM

Is there anyone who would be willing to look after them and be paid for it like one of their friends mums or something? If they don't have room in their car can you sister or MIL drop them off to their place?

#13 mumofsky

Posted 27 January 2013 - 09:23 AM

I had the same problem this year, im paying $200 cash pwk for a friend to do after school pick ups. i cant afford it really but the job was an amazing and rare opportunity.

#14 yabbadabbadoo

Posted 27 January 2013 - 09:25 AM

I would go with the family option for now until you could sort out a uni student or an older person to do it.  It would be a little more than ASC but it would be so much easier for you to just be able to go home and not worry if something comes up with your MIL.  Maybe she could do one day and your sister do one as that os really not asking too much and just get someone for the other times.

#15 Guest_Sunnycat_*

Posted 27 January 2013 - 09:33 AM

Can you negotiate to forego your lunch break and leave a bit earlier?

Otherwise I would look at hiring an afternoon nanny.

#16 kittycat01

Posted 27 January 2013 - 09:37 AM

You can advertise on Gumtree for a uni student. That's where we got ours in Sydney. We had her from 5pm - 7pm M - F and she picked up DS from FDC which closes at 5pm and made dinner. We'd get in at about 6-6.30 and she'd tidy kitchen and look after DS while we ate. Best thing we ever did, but cost us $20ph which is expensive. Also used her for babysitting sometimes as DS was used to her.

Kitty

#17 Nicole-Bris

Posted 27 January 2013 - 11:27 AM

I was also just going to post the exact thing as kittycat and some ads I have seen on gumtree also negotiate daily rates if you needed to on a weekend.

#18 NoOneElse

Posted 27 January 2013 - 11:36 AM

QUOTE (kittycat01 @ 27/01/2013, 09:37 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
You can advertise on Gumtree for a uni student. That's where we got ours in Sydney. We had her from 5pm - 7pm M - F and she picked up DS from FDC which closes at 5pm and made dinner. We'd get in at about 6-6.30 and she'd tidy kitchen and look after DS while we ate. Best thing we ever did, but cost us $20ph which is expensive. Also used her for babysitting sometimes as DS was used to her.

Kitty


This.
I'd have 2 and rotate them week by week. They might not want to work that much all the time and every 2nd week in a jobshare arrangement could work.

Have 2 days a week that you leave work early maybe? Catch an earlier bus and the other days use the people to pick up from school and take them home for you.

Or a school closer to work?

NOE

Edited by NoOneElse, 27 January 2013 - 11:37 AM.


#19 *Ker*

Posted 27 January 2013 - 11:57 AM

I can't move their school - I wanted to move them this year and DS lost the plot. He has Autism and that is way too much change for him. He's settled where he is.

My problem with paying someone is that it will eat too much into any profit I make. If it costs me $200 a week, that will leave me with just making $50 extra for working full time. That's not enough of a pay off to me to be away from them for THAT long.

It's both design and sales. Exactly what I've been wanting. I hate the chain store sales jobs, and this is a manufacturing jeweller. I'm used to that sort of environment and this is a very good jeweller. I don't think they'd be happy to let me go a half hour early a day, especially when nights is when everything is pulled from the window and put in the safe.

Ideally, I'd like part time, while the kids are at school, 4 days a week, but those jobs don't seem to be around!

Where would I find family daycare? And do you still get the child care rebate for them?


#20 Aribika

Posted 27 January 2013 - 12:41 PM

Contact your local council to get details for the local family day care scheme and yes it is covered by CCB and CCR if it is an accredited scheme.

Good luck Ker.

Lorraine


#21 SeaPrincess

Posted 27 January 2013 - 05:15 PM

QUOTE (Aribika @ 27/01/2013, 10:41 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Contact your local council to get details for the local family day care scheme and yes it is covered by CCB and CCR if it is an accredited scheme.

I was going to suggest this too - they may be able to help you with someone who can be in your home and still be eligible for CCB and CCR.




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