What is reasonable?
Giving away items....
, Jan 25 2013 02:08 PM
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Posted 25 January 2013 - 02:08 PM
I am in the process of giving away items on FB. I could make money from these items (brand name clothing), but would prefer to give them away.
I am also giving away quite a few other items.
The problem I am finding, is, not only are these people expecting the items for free. They are also expecting that I will deliver them. 20-30k's away in some situations. If I delivered everyones stuff - that would be a day of mine gone.
Someone was looking for a couch - I said I had one they could have if they wanted. Sent pictures, only to get a reply of "That's not what I was expecting". I'm sorry - Expecting? (And this woman has said this to several other people as well - it appears she is looking to upgrade her whole house on other people).
Then another post pops up, someone wanting broad rimmed hats - but only brand names??!!
So what's the go when giving away items/asking for freebies? Are these people getting a little cheeky or am I being unrealistic?
I kind of expected that people would arrange to have the items picked up (since they were getting them for nothing) - but a huge percentage expect the item for free, and delivery thrown in on top.. with not even a thank you!
Edited by *~Katrina~*, 25 January 2013 - 02:10 PM.
Posted 25 January 2013 - 02:12 PM
Try freecycle. It is always expected that the recipient picks up.
Posted 25 January 2013 - 02:13 PM
You're not being unreasonable. Some people are just rude.
Posted 25 January 2013 - 02:18 PM
You want it, you come get it is my general rule. Occasionally if I'm passing that way anyway I may offer to drop it off, but don't expect me to.
Posted 25 January 2013 - 02:19 PM
It's very presumptive of them...they are probably thinking they're doing you a favour taking it off your hands
Posted 25 January 2013 - 02:30 PM
Wow, that's incredibly rude.
Agree with PP, try Freecycle.
Posted 25 January 2013 - 02:37 PM
It's pretty simple. You just give them your address and say what dates you will be free for pick up. If they want you to drop off, explain what you've said here and say you don't have time.
Posted 25 January 2013 - 02:41 PM
I use freecycle too. It's got a nice vibe about it
Posted 25 January 2013 - 02:45 PM
The closest freecycle is an hour away.
Posted 25 January 2013 - 02:51 PM
Organise a council pickup? They sound very rude.
Posted 25 January 2013 - 02:55 PM
I used to be a member of freecycle years ago. The biggest problem was, the closest "group" was Bendigo - Or Shepp. Both about an hour away.
TZ - You need to post to your "local group" - But often Echuca/Moama is just too far for people from Bendigo/Shepp.
Posted 25 January 2013 - 04:19 PM
I found my local freecycle group like that. Exremely picky and the same people always putting their hands up for stuff. I'm sure they were then selling what they got for free on ebay.
Posted 25 January 2013 - 04:29 PM
Why don't you just put on your FB page when advertising them that collection needs to be arranged at their end.
Posted 25 January 2013 - 04:31 PM
I used to try to give away free things and suffered the same issues with people wanting to inspect and consider and blah blah blah then not turning up when they had said they would to take things. A friend told me they didn't value getting the goods because it was for free. I realised that was actually right. Where I lived at one point, donating to charity wasn't an option so I started selling for cheap (very cheap!) prices. Everything went like hotcakes. Crazy because I would have given this stuff away for free if people had bothered being even mildly polite about it!
Now I just donate to St Vinnie's or similar. They are easy to work with and thankful for quality donations and they come and pick up good furniture on time and without whinging.
Posted 25 January 2013 - 04:32 PM
Maybe word it as free if picked up or pay for the postage.
I tried Freecycle and I got sick of the rude requests/demands and people wanting me to call them about what I was offering for free.
Most people don't appreciate 'free stuff'
Posted 25 January 2013 - 04:33 PM
If they want it they can come get it. I wouldnt be delivering any
Posted 25 January 2013 - 04:57 PM
HI there OP - I would be interested in taking the items off your hands. I will be happy to pay for postage. I will be very appreciative
. PM me if you like with what you have and I am not expecting delivery.
Posted 25 January 2013 - 04:58 PM
I just give to charities now or friends only, as am always suprised by the demands and attitudes. Otherwise I sell it cheap at a garage sale or something.
I run our local freecycle group as well, but lucky for us not being a big place you soon learn who are the people who take advantage so you can just say no to them, the same with our FB page.
Posted 25 January 2013 - 05:01 PM
I would just post a photo of the item, state (roughly) where it's located and that while the items are free they are to be picked up by the person who claims them. If they want the item posted (and of course you're okay with doing that), then postage is $XY amount and you'll provide them with a paypal account to pay that postage fee into.
Posted 25 January 2013 - 05:19 PM
I think people these days expect far too much and they don't mind being rude about it!
I gave away a gorgeous bed this week with a brand new light shade and storage hanger. The person who was taking it practically broke down my door because 2 screws were missing from the bed!!! I was putting my kids to bed as he knew, like anyone in their right mind who was being given great stuff for free would complain! He actually looked like i had spoilt his whole week when i told him he could go and buy 2 screws!
Posted 25 January 2013 - 05:45 PM
I don't mind inspections at all.
One lady wanted to buy an item - I offered what I had - She needed it delivered. That was fine - I had factored that into it all. It was clear from the outset that delivery was her only option. (And she was an EB'er - just making sure she doesn't think I am talking about her!!).
I seem to have sorted The clothes are all in excellent condition - I just can't be bothered listing them all to sell, and the Op shops here tend to price a little too high.
Edited to remove one part, as I couldn't articulate my point well enough.
Edited by *~Katrina~*, 25 January 2013 - 05:48 PM.
Posted 25 January 2013 - 05:52 PM
I have done this with a couple of furniture items, both times stating first to say yes needs to collect within a couple of days. Items appreciatively taken and used by the recipients. Oh and I don't go on a special page just take a pic on my page and put "Hi to my Adelaide family and friends I have this item to give away. First to say yes gets it and need to collect withing a couple of days."
Edited by FloralArrangement, 25 January 2013 - 05:55 PM.
Posted 25 January 2013 - 07:49 PM
Can someone link me to FreeCycle in Sydney, the page I go to takes me totally round about and I can't find the friggen boards!
Posted 25 January 2013 - 07:51 PM
I just use Gumtree and say pick up only.
there is also the EB trading rooms!
Posted 26 January 2013 - 04:49 AM
Once had a dishwasher (working) I offered on free cycle. Loads asking for delivery. One lady even asked if we would be able to install it as she was a single mum.
Popped it on eBay, got $100 for it, picked up next morning. So now pop big things on eBay for 99c start. Gone off donating to local op shop anymore as saw the staff sorting, going "oh Betty, look at this, I think it will fit Jack"
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