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#1 OneProudMum

Posted 24 January 2013 - 04:25 PM

I am really struggling right now - embedded in a cocoon of depression.

Please remind me (as I seemed to have forgotten) why is life amazing?

Edited by OneProudMum, 24 January 2013 - 04:28 PM.


#2 OneProudMum

Posted 24 January 2013 - 04:32 PM

QUOTE (Mary Whether @ 24/01/2013, 05:30 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
You love your kids, and they love you and you are blessed to have each other.

I am sure I have read you post previously about enjoying your job, and getting satisfaction from helping the community.

You have fun on EB.  Maybe not always, but you do!

You are a strong and opinionated woman...a good thing to be!


Have you had a chance to see a counsellor yet?


Not yet. I guess you could say I'm afraid to talk to one.

#3 noi'mnot

Posted 24 January 2013 - 04:36 PM

Chocolate.

Cheese - especially the stinky, oozy kind.

Cold cold beer on a hot hot day.


But seriously OP, talk to somebody. Once it's out you will feel better. There is help out there for you. Big big hugs for you. Xxx

#4 OneProudMum

Posted 24 January 2013 - 04:38 PM

QUOTE (Mary Whether @ 24/01/2013, 05:33 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
You need to do it.  Have you got someone to take you?


I just can't get my head around it. I can't be bothered going back to the GP. I miss what little of my sanity I had so much.

#5 OneProudMum

Posted 24 January 2013 - 04:55 PM

QUOTE (Mary Whether @ 24/01/2013, 05:44 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I just PMed you, but let me know if it is blank as I am not 100% confident that I have my PMs set up properly.

I got it, thanks!

#6 123tree

Posted 24 January 2013 - 05:04 PM

You have shown yourself to be an intelligent woman (from your posts) and a committed Mother.  Your kids will grow up and be proud of you.

Go to the councillor.  I know it is very difficult to start.  From someone who has been where you are now start to get help as soon as you can.  Don't leave it too late.

It helps if you have a good friend or partner to bundle you up and drive you there and help you go but I know not everyone has this.

#7 lovedupmumma

Posted 24 January 2013 - 05:04 PM

QUOTE
I just can't get my head around it. I can't be bothered going back to the GP. I miss what little of my sanity I had so much.


I can totally relate to this, when you're down in it getting that referral just seems too much. And also "I don't want to get help, this is familiar and I'm comfortable here" comes into it.

BUT...you do need to do it. For you and for your family. And taking that step in itself can be doing something positive for yourself that will grow. Please do.

Oh, and slightly melty Lindt balls on a hot day. A moment of bliss.

#8 OneProudMum

Posted 24 January 2013 - 05:09 PM

Is it possible that counselling/therapy will get me out of this hole enough to be able to function without medication?

#9 steppy

Posted 24 January 2013 - 05:11 PM

Go outside somewhere pretty and really look at things. All of that is amazing.

#10 Fluster

Posted 24 January 2013 - 05:11 PM

*  Having people tell you your kids behave perfectly for them
*  Clean sheets on the bed
*  Watching someone who cut you off get pulled over the by the police
*  Food.  So much food.  
*  Clothes
*  Shoes
*  Your family.  They love you and think you're pretty special.  Even if they throw tantrums, whinge, refuse to eat their peas or tell you long and pointless stories.



#11 ZombieMum

Posted 24 January 2013 - 05:26 PM

Because we have youtube and fun technology!

Isn't it wonderful that we can go from this
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mTTwcCVajAc

to this
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sP4NMoJcFd4

and be grateful it's not you!
laughing2.gif

#12 OneProudMum

Posted 24 January 2013 - 05:31 PM

QUOTE (ZombieMum @ 24/01/2013, 06:26 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Because we have youtube and fun technology!

Isn't it wonderful that we can go from this
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mTTwcCVajAc

to this
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sP4NMoJcFd4

and be grateful it's not you!
laughing2.gif


Hahahaha I think I just laughed for the first time in a week. Thanks!

#13 tres-chic

Posted 24 January 2013 - 05:44 PM

Simple pleasures - blue sky, frangipani blossoms, sunshine.

A beautiful view, green fields meeting white sand and ocean.

A swim in summer - plunging into cool water is so cleansing.

Laughter. Music. The written word elevated to poetry.

Feeling love in your heart, even if it's far from a perfect one (knowing such a thing as perfection doesn't exist anyway).

I hope you feel better soon.



#14 ZombieMum

Posted 24 January 2013 - 06:01 PM

QUOTE (OneProudMum @ 24/01/2013, 06:31 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hahahaha I think I just laughed for the first time in a week. Thanks!

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Laughter is great medicine! Well..it might help you for a few minutes. Then you need to find more youtube vids. wink.gif

My DS (aged 7) started singing this really cute song the other day - I didn't realise he had a sweet little voice (normally he sings by shouting. wink.gif ).
When he showed me the video of 'Can't hug every cat' - I was shocked that it sounded like that, as my DS made it sound so much better. wink.gif


Here is another cat theme video that I couldn't stop laughing over. Discovered it thanks to another EB'er. Not everyone appreciates the humour. happy.gif   I guess it's about getting out of a crappy situation. wink.gif roll2.gif

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uIbkLjjlMV8




#15 Peppery

Posted 24 January 2013 - 06:01 PM

I made the decision 2.5 years ago to attend counseling. I didn't want to feel the way I did any longer, I had enough.

A technique I found useful between visits was to sit in front of an empty chair, I spoke through all my problems to the chair. I laughed at the chair, I cried at the chair. I told that chair stuff that I never thought i would say at loud. I think working through my thoughts out loud helped.

Something else was to find my happy place. I would put my head phones on and listen to music I loved when I was a teenager. It was my chance to relax. Let my mind stop from running a million miles an hour.




#16 Ianthe

Posted 24 January 2013 - 06:04 PM

Because the depression WILL lift and the contrast will make the happy times a lot better.

Because there are still wonderful books to read.



#17 noi'mnot

Posted 24 January 2013 - 06:49 PM

QUOTE (OneProudMum @ 24/01/2013, 06:09 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Is it possible that counselling/therapy will get me out of this hole enough to be able to function without medication?


It depends on a lot of things - how severe your depression is, how well you respond to medication, how well you respond to counselling, your individual biological makeup, your individual life situation, etc.

The majority of people do end up off medication. Those who remain on it do so with a well managed regimen that means fewer side effects.

There are heaps and heaps of different therapies and medications and strategies for dealing with depression. It is not a life sentence. For more information on treatment options, take a look at the Beyond Blue resource "A guide to what works for depression".


#18 redkris

Posted 24 January 2013 - 07:04 PM

Because I'm sitting here watching sulfur crested cockatoos getting their jollies by dive-bombing kookaburras. The kookaburras are sitting on a branch, thinking about working up a laugh..."Oo oo oo....ooo oo ook BLARGH!!!" as the cockie divebombs them. They go off in disarray and the cockatoo is hanging UPSIDE DOWN from the branch with its comb up, flapping it's wings and laughing fit to beat the band. It then rights itself and does a little victory dance.

Also, this was just over our fence a few weeks ago:

I thought that was kind of awesome.

Things like that make the crappest day a bit better.

Please go and see someone though, OP, you deserve to feel better, whether it's with medication or counselling, you deserve some joy.

#19 Canberra chick

Posted 24 January 2013 - 07:07 PM

Sunsets. The smell of rain after a long dry spell.
You are here. That is an amazing thing in itself.
I second a previous poster who said you come across as a very bright and articulate person.

You are aware that all is not right. That is half the fight sometimes. See the counsellor; often talking to someone outside makes things clearer. I know it did for me after I had DD and was so fiercely protective I  was worried I'd harm DS in trying to protect DD.

You're not Bob Katter. That's got to be good, right?

Sunsets. The smell of rain after a long dry spell.
You are here. That is an amazing thing in itself.
I second a previous poster who said you come across as a very bright and articulate person.

You are aware that all is not right. That is half the fight sometimes. See the counsellor; often talking to someone outside makes things clearer. I know it did for me after I had DD and was so fiercely protective I  was worried I'd harm DS in trying to protect DD.

You're not Bob Katter. That's got to be good, right?

#20 solongsuckers

Posted 24 January 2013 - 07:17 PM

QUOTE (ZombieMum @ 24/01/2013, 06:26 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Because we have youtube and fun technology!

Isn't it wonderful that we can go from this
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mTTwcCVajAc

to this
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sP4NMoJcFd4

and be grateful it's not you!
laughing2.gif


LMFAO!!

#21 OneProudMum

Posted 24 January 2013 - 07:19 PM

Thank you sincerely. You girls are the bomb diggity.

Who is Bob Katter? unsure.gif

#22 OneProudMum

Posted 24 January 2013 - 07:23 PM

QUOTE (Mary Whether @ 24/01/2013, 07:37 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
One more thing.  Your wedding was so amazing it featured in a wedding magazine!  I am very impressed with that...I am a wedding magazine junkie and have to talk myself out of buying them even now  biggrin.gif


Well yes, that is kind of cool.

My daughters birthday party will also be featured in littleonebaby. I am guess im quite excited about that too.

#23 natangel

Posted 24 January 2013 - 07:34 PM

[quote name='redkris' date='24/01/2013, 08:04 PM' post='15267876']
Because I'm sitting here watching sulfur crested cockatoos getting their jollies by dive-bombing kookaburras. The kookaburras are sitting on a branch, thinking about working up a laugh..."Oo oo oo....ooo oo ook BLARGH!!!" as the cockie divebombs them. They go off in disarray and the cockatoo is hanging UPSIDE DOWN from the branch with its comb up, flapping it's wings and laughing fit to beat the band. It then rights itself and does a little victory dance.

Also, this was just over our fence a few weeks ago:

I thought that was kind of awesome.

Things like that make the crappest day a bit better.

Please go and see someone though, OP, you deserve to feel better, whether it's with medication or counselling, you deserve some joy.
[/quote


Redkris -you've just made my day posting wonderful that pic  original.gif
Oneproudmum - you are an amazing lady. You will get through this (I know, i've been there and back) and life (as opposed to the treadmill of existence) will look and feel a whole lot better than it does now.

Take care and don't be afraid to talk to a counsellor- they can really help. Best wishes xx





#24 Canberra chick

Posted 25 January 2013 - 10:21 AM

QUOTE (OneProudMum @ 24/01/2013, 08:19 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Thank you sincerely. You girls are the bomb diggity.

Who is Bob Katter? unsure.gif


Hey, you don't have the pain of knowing who Bob Katter is. That is another good thing (he's a redneck politician).




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