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#1 Camosmum

Posted 23 January 2013 - 06:51 PM

My partner and I had our first son 5 years ago and for the last 18 months have been trying for baby number 2. We have sex most days. Anyone know what could be wrong?

#2 pufflemuffin

Posted 23 January 2013 - 07:46 PM

Hi there- have you been to a fertility specialist?

I don't mean to freak you out, but being able to conceive your first easily is no guarantee against subsequent fertility issues that may require treatment. It's pretty clear with all that sex and having given it a good length of time with no luck that you need to get things checked out.

For starters, as you have had a bit of a gap between kids your age could be a factor. I don't know your age, but statistically there is a marked decline in fertility after 35. Your chances of conceiving in a given cycle at that age are quite small, hence it can take longer. But at the same time, you don't want to just assume it'll happen eventually because you may have a specific issue requiring treatment and you could just be wasting time. This is true regardless of your age- something may have developed after conceiving # 1, or you may have just got lucky the first time.

Don't let your GP or anyone else fob you off because you already have a child. Secondary infertility is increasingly common but even medical professionals can be ignorant about it.

If you really want a second child, it'll happen- but don't be closed off to the possibility you may need treatment- otherwise you're just prolonging the agony for yourself and also possibly running out of time.

There is a secondary infertility buddy group on here that you should check out too.

Good luck and I hope your journey to #2 isn't too much longer!

PS my secondary infertility was a total shock, following a honeymoon conception for #1, and a cause was never found- but I'm fairly certain I would not be a mother of 2 without IVF -although it was a huge shock at the time that it had come to that. All I can say is it has been absolutely worth it now my beautiful family is complete.

#3 dimensionk

Posted 23 January 2013 - 08:00 PM

It could be anything. Fertility declines with age, often suddenly. Or maybe nothing has changed, and the first time was a bit of a fluke. You could speculate all day really.

I recommend you both going to your GP and first getting them to do:
- his semen analysis
- his bloodwork
- your 3-day bloodwork
- your 21-day blookwork (called that but do it 7 days past ovulation)
Then when you have these results you might be given some clues,
but even if not, then get a referral to a FS in both your names (so you can both claim medicare).
Post on EB for people to PM you a good FS in your area so you can get sent to a good one rather than whoever the GP happens to pick.
It's best to do these tests before your first FS appointment as that way it will be cheaper.

Good luck!


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