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#1 Reubsmum77

Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:13 PM

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-...nd-TV-crew.html

This lady had her midwife, husband, her children, mother, best friend, neighbours and TV crew around for her home birth!  Brave lady.  

Would you?

Personally, I like it just hubby and midwife...no one else.  original.gif

#2 Mille-Mille

Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:20 PM

No way!

#3 Mitis angelam

Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:22 PM

I find the indignity of giving birth humiliating, and want as small an audience as possible!

#4 hanz33

Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:22 PM

never!

Hubby and me please wink.gif

#5 Fenrir

Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:22 PM

I did but not arranged like that lol

Two midwives, the OB, four student Dr's, two nurses from the ICU(we were both in severe trouble at the time and too far along to do a CS), the anaesthetist who did my epidural plus my SIL up the business end and my DH holding my hand.

I was too out of it to care and in the undignified position of legs in the stirrups so couldn't really run away from it lol

#6 meljb

Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:26 PM



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I find the indignity of giving birth humiliating, and want as small an audience as possible!

This!

#7 Feral Grey Mare

Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:27 PM

I think by the time you are giving birth it doesn't really matter who is there. I was not aware of anyone except myself and the Dr.

#8 bakesgirls

Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:32 PM

Not if I had any choice in it! I wouldn't be keen on inviting everyone in to watch.

With DD1, after giving birth I required stitches. The doctor who was doing it asked if I minded if some students came in to watch, so I said that was fine. Next thing I knew, the room was full, there were around 20 people in there. Lucky for him I was too exhausted to tell them all to f*** off.

DD2 was 3 attempts at ventouse, then 2 attempts at forceps, she was born on the third attempt. There was me (obviously), DH, 3 midwives, the anaesthetist, paediatrician and his helper, the obstitrician and two of her registrars, and a couple of other people that I wasn't sure who they were, so again , I had a room full.

DD3 was just me, DH a midwife and the OB. DH was the one who actually delivered DD as she came so quickly that no one was able to put gloves on in time. That was the perfect birth for me. It was lovely having few people in there and felt far less clinical.

#9 SnazzyFeral

Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:32 PM

I might not have a TV camera crew lol but I do feel that birth should be about my family welcoming the new baby to its very first birthday party. I had my son in hospital and had my mum, my aunt and my partner all touching me the whole way through. When I was in early labour at home they all chatted while I did my thing and I would join in when I could. For my next birth I am having a home birth and because I am not restricted by the hospital I will have my friends and my family and of course DS. I saw my brother being born and it remains one of the high points of my life and one of my most beautiful  memories that I take out to make me feel better when I am feeling down because I can't help but feel better when I remember such a life affirming thing.

#10 Alina0210

Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:41 PM

With my last homebirth i had:
Me
Husband
Midwife
Backup Midwife
Doula
Student Midwife
Chiropactor
Cousin
Friend - who hadnt seen a birth before, she had only had ceasers
Sister in Law
my 2 kids (age at the time 5 and 2)

Everyone had a job to do, and it was lovelly... surprised everyone got there in time as it was a very quick birth.

#11 ShamelesslyPooks

Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:46 PM

Not in a billion years. Frankly I would have been happy to be alone for it.

#12 *~dee~*

Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:50 PM

I had my mum, 3 sisters, Dr, 2 midwives, student Dr and DD's dad would have been welcome too if he had have turned up! I had an unusual shaped uterus and huge baby, so had student Dr's and midwives popping in throughout my 24 hour ordeal.

#13 BreezaH

Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:52 PM

My 2nd birth had a few more than I expected. Because my 1st had 3rd degree tearing, it was carefully managed so I wouldn't tear down the same line, but worse. Both were precipitate deliveries so just before I was ready to push out DS2, the head midwife asked me if I'd mind a pair of paramedics observing as a "class" to show them the best way to manage a speedy birth to try and avoid severe tearing in women who deliver on the way to hospital. So I also had those 2 observing closely (and I do mean closely) and a paed because DS2's heartrate was all over the place and he was distressed. They warned me before he was born that he would be going straight to the paed.

So it was me, DH, 2 midwives, a nurse, a paediatric registrar and 2 paramedics. Far more crowded than I ever expected. It was also kind of fitting, because the way my births go, I might BE that woman in the ambulance one day!

#14 Fr0g

Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:53 PM

Not my style!  

Having said that, when I'm in labour I have very little care factor as to what is going on around me.

#15 Bluenomi

Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:58 PM

I prefered as few people as possible and there was no chance of any type of recording device being allowed near me. Mum was glad that I didn't ask her to be there, she said being at her own births was enough and I agree!

#16 Cacti

Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:58 PM

I wouldn't plan for it, but I think there were at least 6 other people in the room when I gave birth (I have no idea how many there actually were - 6 is the minimum) so I guess I did have an audience. At that point though, I was happy for the whole hospital to come crowding in if it meant that baby arrived safely (which he did).

#17 Spring Chickadee

Posted 23 January 2013 - 03:10 PM

I had a drug free birth in a private hospital, it was a 38 hour labour mostly at home. The experience was an intense and beautiful one, you really surrender all control. For me I needed privacy to focus on my breathing.

midwives, talking, sounds etc were all distractions that needed to be kept minimal. so for me having all those people would be my worst nightmare!

#18 opethmum

Posted 23 January 2013 - 03:11 PM

I had 2 x c/s so a whole theatre full of people but in my eyes it was the OB, DH, Me and bubs.

#19 MrsSmith247

Posted 23 January 2013 - 03:16 PM

My hospital only allows 2 support people, but if I had a choice Id love my husband, mum, 2 sisters, and my husband's nan to be there. Only problem is they're the only ones Id leave DD with.



#20 glowlight

Posted 23 January 2013 - 03:17 PM

No way! My in laws showed up uninvited so I reluctantly called my mum too so she wouldn't get upset. Thankfully the midwife kicked everyone out after I had an epidiural and I gave birth in peace with DH, MW and OB a couple of hours later. Strict instructions for next time not to let anyone in!

#21 axiomae

Posted 23 January 2013 - 03:24 PM

DD came so quickly and no one was expecting that the midwife wasn't even in the room! Baby was out and it was just DP and I, then the midwife and student midwife when we managed to alert them! I arrived at the hospital at 6cm and within an hour had DD!

#22 CallMeFeral

Posted 23 January 2013 - 03:24 PM

You know, DH fell asleep when I was in labour, and my dad was on hand to pass me drinks but I couldn't really ask him for a massage, and the midwife was mean. It was quite a lonely experience.  
I think I would have quite liked more people around to cater to my whims, keep me distracted, generally fuss over me, etc.

Of course, they'd have had to be people who were focused solely on ME and my welfare/pleasure/entertainment, and they would have had to be people who would not annoy me. Unfortunately I did not know any of these!

#23 Propaganda

Posted 23 January 2013 - 04:23 PM

I would happily have anyone who I knew wouldn't irritate me attend.

That counts out all inlaws, any siblings and their partners. I plan to have at least my midwife, mother, husband and child all in attendance. I have even spoken of perhaps hiring someone to film it for me, so that's another person. If I have a close best friend who I believe will be of support to me, I'd have her along too without any problems.

I have no real issues with people watching me in that situation unless I think they'll hinder my progress by being a nuisance.

#24 Leggy

Posted 23 January 2013 - 04:36 PM

I'd have no trouble with my DP, mum, sister, student dr/nurses/midwives, and some close friends. Not sure about the TV crew though! As for older kids, it would depend on how old, and how they had responded to discussions and possibly youtube videos before the event.

ETA in fact they could fill the whole room up with student practitioners if they wanted to, they have to learn somewhere and I'm  lucky enough to not be uncomfortable with bodily processes, even the extreme ones.

Edited by Leggy, 23 January 2013 - 04:37 PM.


#25 Quattuor Genitrix

Posted 23 January 2013 - 05:06 PM

Last time around (no#4) I had my Husband, my student middie (who happens to be a very good friend of mine) and my best friend (who is currently childless and worried she may never get to 'experience' birth in the room when our gorgeous Maxwell was born.

Clearly you can tell for me the more kids I had the less hung up on creating the 'perfect birthing scenerio' I was   yyes.gif

I surrounded myself with those I wanted too.




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