Jump to content

Teenage sister an EXTREMELY picky eater
WWYD?


  • Please log in to reply
3 replies to this topic

#1 epl0822

Posted 23 January 2013 - 12:33 AM

My sister is in her mid teens and she is a horrendously picky eater. She used to eat normally throughout her childhood but in the recent couple of years, have developed awful eating habits. She frequently skips meals, mostly breakfast. I don't even know if she has a set eating habit or if she just eats when she feels hungry or wants to snack. Come to think of it, she seems to eat randomly at night time as she goes to bed very late.

She eats a lot of sugary cereal and loads of instant food. She says she's a vegetarian, which will be fine if she actually ate vegetables, except she hates most of them. She eats fish sometimes, depending on what sort of a fish based meal it is (some she won't eat, others she will). She just hates most of the food out there. She point blank refuses to try new things. If there isn't anything she wants to eat, she will just starve.

I am worried about her because this is so unhealthy. She is overweight and doesn't exercise. I worry about her long term health from eating so much junk food and the weird instant stuff. She has some emotional issues and the poor eating doesn't help. We've tried to encourage her to go see a nutritionist, and she totally refuses. The nutritionist said there is no benefit to forcing her to come so that's that. When we try to talk to her about healthy eating she shuts down. Maybe the emotional issues caused the poor eating, I don't know. Has anyone experienced something similar and have any advice?

#2 Procrastinator5000

Posted 23 January 2013 - 12:39 AM

I would be inclined to back off for a while on the food, and just be there for her emotionally, reassuring her that she's valued and beautiful and great any chance you have.

Man I would never be a teenager again!

#3 SuperMombie3

Posted 23 January 2013 - 12:50 AM

There are also heaps of books out there on emotional eating, which this could well be, especially if as you say she has some emotional issues.  Basically it's where you eat to get a brief good feeling and bury the bad feelings.  Of course this might not be the problem, but a lot of negative behaviours surrounding food are caused by a lack of the skills to deal with emotions/life events etc.  From stuff I've read over the years I'd say don’t' focus on the eating, or the nutrition or exercise; its most likely a symptom not the problem itself, you need to find the underlying issue/s and help her to resolve/deal with/get help to deal with (depending on how severe they are) these issues.  

Try to help her deal with the emotional issues, talk to her, ask her how she is, if she gives you any openings about stuff that's wrong/upsetting her then encourage her to talk - gently, don’t' insist if she clams up, leave it and come back to it at another time.  Take every opportunity you can to show her she is valued and loved and worthy of love and care from those around her and herself.  Keep trying to reach her, you'll probably get knocked back a lot, but show her she's valued and loved and that you care about her.  If you keep trying to reach her that should show her she matters to you, that you care.  

Of course I'm not a professional, personally if this was my situation I'd find a book on it by a trained psychologist and see how they suggest approaching it or even call one of the counselling hotlines and get some advice on how to help her or if you've got the money you could go see a counsellor yourself and talk to them about the situation and see what they say you can do to help.  Keep in mind that if this is the problem unless she's open to help you won't be able to reach her, but keep reaching out to her.  If she's having emotional difficulties I'd think you couldn't show her too much love and care.

This government site has some info on what they called disordered eating.  It's aimed at the person with disordered eating, but maybe it'll give you some ideas if this is the problem and how you can help her.  http://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/resources/consumers.cfm

Edited by Bubble11, 23 January 2013 - 12:53 AM.


#4 epl0822

Posted 23 January 2013 - 12:50 PM

Rawr, I'm sorry I am having problems with the PM system. I wrote you a full reply but it is obviously not sending properly. What I said was  that I didn't think of ED as a  possibility but I will certainly watch out for more potential signs. I wrote a lot more regarding what you said but I won't post it here in case it is something you want to keep off the public forum. I hope everything goes well and good luck to you.




0 user(s) are reading this topic

0 members, 0 guests, 0 anonymous users

 

Mum shares hilarious story about attempting shower sex

As most parents know, finding time for sex post-kids is one of life's not-so-little challenges.

16 things you'll learn on the preschool party circuit

Kids birthday parties sound fun in the abstract but the reality is they often end up an introverts worst nightmare – forced social interaction in the name of good parenting.

The 92-year-old who's a great-great-great-grandmother

A 92-year-old Canadian woman has become a great-great-great grandmother this week after the family welcomed a baby boy.

The Pramrolla mimics a walk in the park to help your baby get to sleep

Simply put the pram brake on, set the wheels on top of the Pramrolla, plug it in and off they go ... or so they think.

Beyonce shares surreal pregnancy photo shoot

Pop superstar Beyonce on Thursday released a slew of photos of herself posing pregnant and nude.

Airport staff order mum to squeeze her breasts to prove she's lactating

A Singaporean mum of two has spoken about her humiliation at the hands of German airport security guards who ordered her to prove she could breastfeed.

How to keep your baby or toddler safe at home

Child-proofing tips that will ensure your home remains a safe haven for curious toddlers and babies on the move.

Told to get rid of their dogs, this expectant couple took the sweetest photos instead

When the couple conceived their first human child they came under enormous pressure to give up their dogs.

Bereaved parents take baby home for 'family time' after death, thanks to cuddle cot

A bereaved mother has spoken about her decision to take her daughter's body home to spend time as a family before her funeral.

'Get off your phone!': the daycare note that's got people talking

A note posted by a US daycare facility has urged parents to get off their phone when collecting their children:

Babysitter's creative 'hands-free' baby carrier hack

We've all been there – you need to hold the baby, but you also need to eat.

Will these be the most on-trend baby names of 2017?

Nameberry has crunched the numbers, predicting which monikers will see a rise in 2017.

Firefighter adopts the baby he helped deliver

Five years ago firefighter Marc Hadden took an emergency call that changed his life.

Mum shares graphic image to highlight importance of rear-facing car seats for kids

A British safety blogger has shared a graphic photo of the damage a seatbelt can do in a car accident in a bid to persuade more parents to use rear-facing car seats for as long as possible with their kids.

Pharrell Williams and his wife welcome triplets

Now that's a good way to start the new year.

Turn yourself into a child's climbing gym with this wearable vest

It's such a neat idea for those living in high density apartment blocks where children may struggle to get enough physical activity.

Bugaboo unveils its new Bugaboo Bee5

The lightweight and compact Bugaboo Bee has been on the scene for a decade now.

The first few weeks of pregnancy: surreal, scary, exciting

It is okay to be worried, nervous, anxious, in love and happy all at the same time.

 
Advertisement
 

Top 5 Articles

Advertisement
 
 
 

From our network

Essential Baby & Toddler Show, presented by Blackmores

3-5 March 2017, Brisbane Convention & Exhibition Centre. Get your FREE ticket now. Save $20.

Your child's fine motor skills: what you should know

There is less of a focus on fine motor skills, but they're just as important as others. (SPONSORED)

5 ways music helps your toddler's development

There are at least five other compelling reasons to get musical around your toddler. (SPONSORED)

 

Free ticket offer

Essential Baby & Toddler Show, presented by Blackmores

3-5 March 2017, Brisbane Convention & Exhibition Centre. Get your FREE ticket now. Save $20.

 
Advertisement
 
 
Essential Baby and Essential Kids is the place to find parenting information and parenting support relating to conception, pregnancy, birth, babies, toddlers, kids, maternity, family budgeting, family travel, nutrition and wellbeing, family entertainment, kids entertainment, tips for the family home, child-friendly recipes and parenting. Try our pregnancy due date calculator to determine your due date, or our ovulation calculator to predict ovulation and your fertile period. Our pregnancy week by week guide shows your baby's stages of development. Access our very active mum's discussion groups in the Essential Baby forums or the Essential Kids forums to talk to mums about conception, pregnancy, birth, babies, toddlers, kids and parenting lifestyle. Essential Baby also offers a baby names database of more than 22,000 baby names, popular baby names, boys' names, girls' names and baby names advice in our baby names forum. Essential Kids features a range of free printable worksheets for kids from preschool years through to primary school years. For the latest baby clothes, maternity clothes, maternity accessories, toddler products, kids toys and kids clothing, breastfeeding and other parenting resources, check out Essential Baby and Essential Kids.